How can we move from resistance and struggle to acceptance and inner peace? I believe there is a space between the two. Like the pendulum of life, we find ourselves moving from one to the other…. yet there is a moment when we can slow down and pause.

pendulum of life


Tara Brach calls this The Sacred Pause. For me, it is a place of grounding as well. I call it our Middle Ground.

It is the same space that we all aspire to experience. It is the doorway to clarity, inspiration, understanding and peace of mind.

blue door to our true natureHere is some of Tara Brach’s practical wisdom from her Spirituality and Practice website:

“The Sacred Pause. helps us to reconnect with the present moment. Especially when we are caught up in striving and obsessing and leaning into the future, pausing enables us to reenter the mystery and vitality only found here and now.

Choose a time when you are involved in a goal-oriented activity — reading, working on the computer, cleaning, eating — and explore pausing for a moment or two. Begin by discontinuing what you are doing, sitting comfortably and allowing your eyes to close. Take a few deep breaths and with each exhale let go of any worries or thoughts about what you are going to do next; let go of any tightness in the body.

Now, notice what you are experiencing as you inhabit the pause. What sensations are you aware of in your body? Do you feel anxious or restless as you try to step out of your mental stories? Do you feel pulled to resume your activity? Can you simply allow, for this moment, whatever is happening inside you?

You can weave the sacred pause into your daily life by pausing for a few moments each hour or as you begin and end activities. You can pause while sitting, standing or lying down. Even in motion — going for a walk or driving — you can pause internally, eyes open and senses awake. Whenever you find you are stuck or disconnected, you can begin your life fresh in that moment by pausing, relaxing and paying attention to your immediate experience.”

We can create the space between resistance and inner peace by letting go of what is taking up our thoughts and bringing our attention to what is happening within us in this very moment.

It begins with noticing where our mind is, and then pausing with eyes open and senses wide!

Just like the samurai warrior.

The Last samurai

This is a practice… and can become one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves to live fully  in the highs and lows of life.

May you find your middle ground every day



17 comments on “* The Space Between Resistance and Inner Peace

  1. Beautiful post, Val!


  2. In the Stillness of Willow Hill

    My best pauses come through nature, but I am realizing that even nature can be an escape from the pauses I need to practice in “real life”. I like Tara’s affirmation that pausing should also be practiced during a goal-oriented activity. Thanks your for your encouraging post.


    • Thanks ISWH! Its easy to pause when we are in a place we love and feel connected to. Finding the sacred pause in a busy day at work or when working towards a goal takes a higher level of self awareness … and self compassion. 🙂


  3. I’ve been learning to this when I feel nervous or anxious Val. and it’s getting a bit easier. At first when I would pause and try to be present with what I was feeling or thinking, I couldn’t even name it. Strange… ❤
    Diana xo


    • Thank you for sharing Diana. Its a new learning about life isn’t it, connecting with how we feel inside and naming it. As a thinker, for a long time, I found it hard to identify what I was actually feeling…


  4. Thank you for the reminder, Val.


  5. I was at a bridal shower today. A group of ladies were standing out on the back lawn of the house where it was being held. the lawn borders on a park and behind the back fence several poplar trees were rustling in the breeze. We were chatting about life and marriage and love and children and I said, Listen. Isn’t that a beautiful sound? the rustling of the tree’s leaves?

    we all stood silently for a moment and listened. Deeply.

    It was a sacred pause.

    Divinely orchestrated. Lovingly embraced.


  6. A wonderful practice Val, also I love the name, “Sacred Pause.” Really enjoyed the post.


  7. Mindfulness and meditation matter . . . as we connect to the eternal NOW.


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  9. Thanks to both Tara and you for this. It is a great reminder. There is a coach I have worked with who also advocates short breaks or meditations. In his work we become still in noticing our breathing and then once in tune with it to notice and move into the “still point” … that very short moment between when we finish exhaling and start to inhale again. It is a very cool place!!


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