* Haiku – Seek



Seek and you shall find …

nothing but what is out there.

Come home to yourself


Finding our middle ground, is about bringing our attention inwards and coming home to the stillness and clarity within us all.

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* The Row Boat is Empty

What we think of as wisdom, is often a clarity of perspective.

In Judith Lasater’s book Living Your Yoga, she shares a Zen story that really shifted how I saw things. Here it is:

empty row boat

One day, a man is in his rowboat on a lake, and it begins to get foggy. Through the fog, he sees another boat coming down the towards him. The boat is coming right toward him, faster and faster.

He starts to shout out, but the boat keeps coming and smashes right into him. The man gets angry and strains to see who was so thoughtless and stupid! And then he sees that the other boat was empty. His anger collapses in that moment.

This is a classic story on our whole life situation…

There are a lot of empty boats out there.

There are a lot of angry people feeling like victims.

Just as an empty boat that rams into us isn’t targeting us, so too, people who act unkindly are often driven along by the unconscious pain inside of them.

By pausing and stepping back, we can find our middle ground and clarity of perspective.

Mantra for Today: “The rowboat is empty”

* You as the Perceiver

be the perceiver


Whatever happens in your head is not you.

Whatever happens in your body is not you.

Whatever happens in the world is not you.

Whatever happens is not you.

Yet none of it can exist without you, the perceiver of it all.*

~ Mooji

When we get sucked up into the pounding emotions of the world around us, and listen to the media that fans the fires of fear, this becomes a really powerful message.

Becoming detached from what we thought was a part of ourselves, sets us free… and brings more discernment and balance into our lives.

Take a moment to consider. “Am I too attached to something that is not supporting my wellbeing?”

This question in itself will help you step back and enter the space of the perceiver.

p.s. The other answer to your question is yes – chocolate can also support our well being.


*Mooji (2015-12-03). White Fire: Spiritual insights and teachings of advaita zen master Mooji (Kindle Locations 1382-1384). Mooji Media Publications. Kindle Edition.

* Inner Alignment

inner alignment

We live in a self absorbed society where everything seems to be directed to feeding the insatiable and bored little “me”.

When we start finding our Middle Ground, we get in touch with our inner being and experience what is happening in the moment. This inner world includes our thoughts, beliefs, needs, feelings and knowing what really matters to us – our values.

We become observers of ourselves.

We come nurturers of our inner being instead of critics.

Life becomes more satisfying just as it is. There is less need for stimulation, excitement and acquiring of things to entertain us, show others, or to keep boredom at bay.

I remember thinking how strange it was that I am rarely bored. I have always enjoyed my own company. I like being me by myself.

Through yoga, I learned that this feeling of centered contentment was when my mind, body and spirit are aligned and in harmony.

I call this place of inner alignment the Middle Ground.

Thank you for joining me here 💛

* Inspiration – Tuning In

tuning in

Source: Google images

When we tune in to our highest self, we become in tune with all those around us.

Our external relationships with people and situations are a reflection of this inner relationship.

So when we notice that life is chaotic, its time to look inside for insight, rather than looking  elsewhere for the answer.
Take a moment to pause and notice your own internal state of being.

Really tune in.

If you are feeling agitated, angry or uncertain,  those around you will reflect that.

Be in harmony, and you create harmony all around you and draw those in harmony towards you.

Find peace within you and others will be drawn to the peace within themselves


* How to Feed your White Wolf

black and white wolf tale

Many people have shared this traditional Native American legend filled with wisdom:

There was once a native Elder who came to realize that he had two wolves fighting inside of him.
The dark wolf was mean spirited, angry, fearful and selfish.
The light wolf was noble, honest, loving and kind.
A boy once asked of him “Which wolf usually wins?” He replied, “It depends on which one I feed.”

I shared this story the other day and asked the question “What can we do to stop feeding the dark wolf and nourish the white wolf?”

What came up was surprising. I had always thought of our inner emotions being the key to which wolf we are feeding. When we are angry, jealous or resentful, we feed the dark. When we are loving and grateful, we feed the light.

But its not as simple as this.

Like life, its more that black or white.

I believe that the biggest feeder of the dark wolf comes from the environment we live in nowadays. It feeds the dark insecurity within us. It ignites fear and anger. It triggers old wounds and deep insecurities. It fans the waves of violence and retribution.  Whether we are surrounded by negative angry people, or are listening to negative politicians, or are watching live footage of violence …  this is the food that feeds our dark wolf.

It is mostly unconscious, and perhaps habit … but I’m sure you know it is so.

So now, you can choose.

What can you stop doing that is feeding the dark wolf? For me it was to turn off the t.v. and make a conscious decision about what I listen to and who I choose to be around. I have become aware of which wolf I am feeding, and my life has changed for the better.




* Haiku – Ending and Beginning



Let go and sink deep

into the misty waters

Trust you will float


And when ending comes

Know that you will be ready

for new beginning


* Inspiration – Be Ignited or be Gone

let the inspiration flow

What I Have Learned So Far 

Meditation is old and honorable, so why should I
not sit, every morning of my life, on the hillside,
looking into the shining world? Because, properly
attended to, delight, as well as havoc, is suggestion.
Can one be passionate about the just, the
ideal, the sublime, and the holy, and yet commit
to no labor in its cause? I don’t think so.
All summations have a beginning, all effect has a
story, all kindness begins with the sown seed.
Thought buds toward radiance. The gospel of
light is the crossroads – of indolence, or action.
Be ignited, or be gone.

~ Mary Oliver

 Do you feel it?

* Inspiration – Interbeing


Mother Earth by crazyluh on DeviantArt.com

“When we look deeply into a sheet of paper, we see that it’s full of everything in the cosmos: the sunshine, the trees, the clouds, the earth, the minerals, everything—except for one thing. It’s empty of one thing only: a separate self.

The sheet of paper cannot be by itself alone. That is why the word inter-be can be more helpful than the word be.
In fact, to be means to inter-be.
The sheet of paper cannot be without the sunshine, cannot be without the forest. The sheet of paper has to inter-be with the sunshine, to inter-be with the forest.”

~ Thich Nhat Hanh from Fear


If we look deeply enough, we see everything. It is all connected.

We are all part of this amazing world of interbeing. Yet how easy to forget as we become self absorbed with our little self.

Here’s to embracing this truth more and more every day.


* Inspiration – Love is a Sea

infinite sea

Love cannot be contained within “speaking” or “listening”
Love is a Sea whose depths cannot be fathomed.
Would you dare try and count the drops of the sea?
Before the Sea of Love, the seven seas are nothing.

~ Jalal-ud-Din Rumi
(Translated by Andrew Harvey from A Year of Rumi)

May you immerse  yourself in the sea of love today ❤️

* Be Open to Whatever Path Comes Along

The title for this post came to me as I saw our terrier pup Teddy enjoying our new path in the garden. It has taken some time to come to pass. (Pun intended)

Getting to this jaunty place of enjoyment wasn’t easy.

Teddy on the path

Don and I had been talking about what to do with this part of our garden for some time. Before the fence, this area had become a “naturalized” part of the garden. In other words, it was full of perennials that offered much for our local deer to feast on!

Last year it became really overgrown and disheveled. Don suggested we “start over “by putting in a new aluminum fence and having a nice bed behind it that the deer couldn’t reach.

I liked the idea of a fence as a sanctuary for my plantings. The “start over” part was more daunting! In my mind I decided that a clean up was all that what was needed.  So I started to move plants and divide as part of the sprucing up of this area.

The fence took a while to get set up as the wrong parts kept being sent, but by Spring we were ready!

Then Don came back from Home Depot with a new saw…. a special one for cutting concrete slabs and stone.

V  “Slabs? … What for?”😑

D “For the new path!”😊

V “What new path? … I thought we were just cleaning up this bed” 😕

And then we both shared our very different visions for the space. Don’s vision was of a full path with flowers and shrubs on either side. It sounded good so I said, “Why not lay out the slabs and we’ll see what it looks like.”

I went back into my office and came out again as he shouted for me to come down and see. See what?…

D “You have to move these plants so I can put the path in” 😏

V “I’ve already moved, replanted and thrown out plants. No more!” 😠

D “But we agreed on the new path” 😬

V “So you’ll just need to put the path around the plants! Not the other way around!” 😡

D “So show me!” 😶

And I did. I laid the slabs out around the plants and then he cut them to size.

The next day we went to the garden center and decided on the additional plantings – white azaleas, hostas, geraniums and astilbes.

I’m sure there are several morals and metaphors in this story, but the one that comes to my mind is:

Be open to whatever path comes along … and be prepared to work on it!



* Haiku – shifting moods

meditate at work


Breathe, let go and feel

Shifting moods and thoughts settle

Find Your Middle Ground


In only takes a moment to pause and find your breath. Opening up an inner world of self connection, space, and clarity.

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* Did You Have a Middle Ground Moment Today?

This is one of my first posts from 2013. Its still a great question to ask.

Find Your Middle Ground

Middle Ground moments are moments of mindful awareness where thought and times are set aside and we connect to our inner sense of being.

meditationnaturegolferimagesimagesFamily timecontent man meditatingman and his dog

It isn’t about what we are doing … its our relationship with what we are doing and how it makes us feel.

Experiencing the feeling of being in that moment and connecting to a contented timeless space within us.

Take a moment and recall a time when you felt content and at peace. Instead of focusing on what you were doing, recall the feeling inside. Give it a name.

During the days ahead, whenever you notice becoming stressed or irritated or angry, remember that feeling always lies within you. You can reclaim it for yourself when you practice being present and choose to find your middle ground.


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