“It may look as if the situation is creating the suffering, but ultimately this is not so – your resistance is.”
~ Eckhart Tolle
Wow – these are powerful words to read when we are experiencing acute pain, trauma or living in disturbing times.
We are all human beings with ego-minds that are ready to resist whatever we see as a threat. Our minds can deny and duck… push back and dismiss… defend or withdraw… lash out and blame… whine and complain… in order to avoid standing the pain of being out of control and feeling the fear associated with it.
When we face an unexpected traumatic situation we wake up to a new reality, where we no longer believe that we are controllers of our small world.
This transition to face a new reality is hard. If we are to survive and thrive, we must change the way we see things along with our behaviors.
Noticing our resistance to what is happening is a very good place to start. Wishing it wasn’t happening to you, or wishing it would be over is a very human way to feel, but this is resistance
It’s time to wake up and become a witness to our unsettling thoughts, our conditioned responses and the incredible attachment to our routine and habits. What we have taken for granted may no longer be part of this new reality. What we think we have had control of, is now a mirage.
This is a time to pause and reflect. To find our middle ground. Bring awareness inwards and notice everything that is coming up inside of you.
It’s not a comfortable place to be, so if you are not ready you may find yourself defaulting to distractions and ways to medicate yourself and dull the feelings. If you notice this, good for you! You are developing your ability to stand back and be the witness.
Here are some questions to ask, and to take time to journal on:
- “What is it that I am not accepting?”
- “What am I resisting?”
- “What can I do that is in my control?”
- “What do I have to let go of?”
- “What can I do differently here?”
- “How can I take care of myself and those with me?”
- “How does my deepest knowing want to act through me?”
Be kind to this awakening part of you.
When we are able to accept what is, without judgment and blame, then we can open our hearts and minds to a new way of being in the world.
With our hearts open, we can receive the gifts of love and compassion from others, and find the courage to give this to ourselves.
Love is the greatest healer of them all.
Yes indeed Val. It took a long time to ‘let go’, but once I did a lot changed. Right about the time I ‘let love’. Great share kind lady, may we all find that place 😀❤️🙏
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Thank you Mark 🥰 Love you ✨🙏✨
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And that love returned in kind Val, thank you 😀❤️🙏
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Truth! Great post, Val. A practice worth pursuing. 🙏🏼💕
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Thank you Eliza ✨🙏✨
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If we honestly answer these 7 questions, we are on our way to becoming a better person.
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Thank you Ron. Answering those questions opens up a door to understanding about ourselves and awareness of the human condition that we all share. Yep we become a better person too 💐🙏💖
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“Love” seems to me a worn word
Tattered by misuse
“forgiveness” in another form
Reminds us we are blessed
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Yes! And we get to choose what resonates with us. This can also changes over time as we go through our transformation .
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Hmmm. Thank you. I am not aware of a conscious choice being made. It’s more like it does (resonate) or it doesn’t. Kind of like a piece of music you hear for the first time. Also, for me time measures change, and thus implies some subtle judgement of sorts (e. g. This is good, that is not so good)
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It really isn’t conscious and associated with the thinking mind. The judgements pass. There is no good or bad, or evaluation needed. Thank you for sharing 💐
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This is such an important awakening on our journey. Beautiful Val.
It can take years to feel safe to feel and be with our suffering and accept it lovingly without judgement. 🙏🏻
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Great questions to ask ourselves, and great wisdom here, Val.
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Thank you dear Michele 💐🙏🏻💖
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The questions to ask ourselves are especially helpful, Val. We can’t answer them without some contemplation, and that alone is an important step. Thanks for sharing this valuable wisdom. ❤ ❤
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Thank you Diana. 💐 A pause for contemplation is always good 😌
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Reading, Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, contributed greatly to my journey of seeing my own thinking. It is a life-long journey and I appreciate you sharing this post.
These are powerful questions and they came into my day at just the right time. Thank you, Val.
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Wonderful words here, Val, and a much-appreciated reminder of the art of letting go.
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Thank you so much Jet 💐
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Thank you, Val. Those are excellent questions! I like how they guide me towards what I’m resisting and also away from that resistance. Nicely done.
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Thank you for taking the time to respond. Much appreciated 💐🙏🏻💛
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This is not an easy practice but quite beneficial. It is a good idea to practice before you need it.
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Life becomes better when we learn to accept what we cannot change. Thank you for this post.
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