Inspiration – Resisting

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“It may look as if the situation is creating the suffering, but ultimately this is not so – your resistance is.”

~ Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever  had a reaction of “What do you mean I’m resisting? … They are the problem!”

We are all human beings with egos that are ready to duck and weave… push back and dismiss… defend or withdraw, in order to avoid feeling the pain of being wrong, not being accepted or not being good enough.

This is one of those seemingly simple statements from Eckhart Tolle that has a greater depth of meaning.

When we get frustrated and unhappy, instead of resenting what is happening to us, wishing things to be different and attacking the nearest bystander or ourselves for being stupid, we can step back with awareness.

We can ask ourselves questions such as “What is it that I am not accepting?” “What am I resisting?” Then “What can I do to change the situation?” (Bear in mind that you cannot change an other person, only yourself.) “What can I do differently here?” “Can I bring about change or accept the way things are”.

An other way to look at this is to recognize that the resistance is already within us. It’s usually in the beliefs that we hold about ourselves and life in general. When we come across something which threatens how we see the world, our ego will react to protect itself. We get triggered.

Every time we are triggered, it’s an opportunity to learn and to educate ourselves on what we hold dear to ourselves and our values. It’s also an opportunity to explore those beliefs and see if they are meaningful, or are based on early conditioning. Perhaps the other perspective is actually worth considering!

It really is all about us and our inner world.

When our ego defends and attacks the outer world; when we blame the other and create enemies in our mind; when we become judge and jury for everything that doesn’t comply with our thinking, then it is time to stop, take a few deep breaths and begin to search inside ourselves.

Self inquiry is the work of our lives.

Be Present to Negative Emotions

Go ahead and embrace the importance of negative emotion. Your emotions and the way you feel is your guidance system and it is telling you everything you need to know.

If you feel negative emotion, then you are either resisting how things are in the present moment, resisting something that was in the past, or resisting something that you think might be in the future.

Take a moment to reflect on this and see if this is true for you.

As human beings lost in our own stories, we immediately point to the outside world to create excuses as to why we can’t be happy and at peace right now.

We tell ourselves ”If that had turned out differently, then I’d be happy.
If he/she hadn’t done that to me, then I’d be happy.
If this goes the way the I want it to go, then I’ll be happy”

The moment you stop resisting life and pointing fingers at the outside world, the more a deep sense of joy and inner freedom will arise within you.

You’re an eternal being. Your consciousness cannot be destroyed. The greatest joy that you can feel is when your being comes into alignment with the very deepest, eternal, aspect of your consciousness.

What’s the one thing that you can do to allow your soul to come into alignment? Resist nothing. Surrender to everything that arises in the present moment without judgment.

Everything that you are searching for will arise from within you at a deeper and more profound level when you stop resisting what is happening.

Namaste

What is the Path to Freedom Here?

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What is the path to freedom here?
The answer is clear the moment
that I ask. At every fork in the road,
there is a conditioned response
and one that is unpatterned, bold,
and free. The old known way is
more comfortable, but the other
path holds mystery and wonder.

~ Danna Faulds

What a wonderful question to ask ourselves when we are facing struggles and resistance in our lives… When deep down we want to change, but keep being pulled back into the old ways.

What is the path to freedom here? … Opens up a bigger context that can shake off the smaller conditioned responses that we have become so attached to.

Ask the question, be bold and step towards the freedom that awaits.

Namaste

Its Time to Let Go

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Know in this moment

Life is about letting go

without resistance.

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With every exhale,

As you fall asleep at night,

You follow life’s flow.

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Stop resisting life

and holding on so tightly.

Its time to let go.

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As the last leaves seem to cling to the trees, I wonder what I am still holding on to.

This is the time to recognize what we are resisting and allow ourselves to go with the natural flow of life … by letting go.

Reflection – What You Resist You Become

 

Whatever you resist you become. If you resist anger, you are always angry. If you resist sadness, you are always sad. If you resist suffering, you are always suffering. If you resist confusion, you are always confused.

We think that we resist certain states because they are there, but actually they are there because we resist them.

~ Adyashanti

I heard the other day, someone saying “I am vehemently against people who hold strong beliefs”. This seems to be a good example of what Adyashanti is saying.

The question that also comes to my mind is, “If I am resisting DJT  right now… does this mean I will become more like him?”

Take a moment to think about it. Perhaps you notice how your ego mind wants to dismiss this immediately. Or vehemently defends the idea of resisting.  Fascinating!

What are you resisting and how is this showing up?

May we continue to move forward with an open heart, fierce kindness and a readiness for action.

A battle of egos will never bring peace.

Namaste

 

* Want to Let Go More?

Some very successful and accomplished people will sometimes ask me – How can I let go more? What do I need to do to be more relaxed? How can I be less impatient? What can I do to be more flexible?…My answer for each question is usually the same, whether it’s at work, in life or on our yoga mat….

It isn’t about what you can DO differently, its about changing how you are seeing things – Shifting your perspective into one of noticing and being with whatever is happening right there and then.

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Try this:

“Notice where the resistance is.

Allow it in…. name it.

Give it space…. embrace it.

Make friends with it.

Breathe in deeply and let the exhale soften the tension and move the energy through you.”

Discomfort is usually a message that something needs attention.

It isn’t a message to stop it, escape from it , get annoyed with it or avoid it. (Although that’s how we may react to it out of conditioning and habit!)

By being kind to our discomfort, it can show us what is needed.

Sometimes it simply wants some loving kindness for what is happening in that moment.self hug bear

So, the key to letting go, relaxing more, being more patient and more flexible is to notice where you are resisting and allowing it in. Then be kind to yourself!

It may sound counter intuitive, but try it and see what amazing wisdom lies within you …

Namaste

The Gift of Letting Go

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“Sometimes letting go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on”

~ Eckhart Tolle

Letting go can be more powerful that putting our energy into defending or hanging on… yet it is often hard to do.

Sometimes we don’t realize that we are holding on to something, until we notice tension in our body or mind. Or we feel miserable and don’t know why! And even then, our resistance to surrender continues.

I like to think of letting go as a real gift to ourselves.

To let go, we give up the illusion of control, and the protective barrier we have put up.

We become vulnerable, and in doing so, we let the love in.

It is an act of compassion and acceptance.

It connects us to the present moment and to our inner being.

It allows the moving energy to flow once more.

What can you let go of today as a loving gift to yourself?

Namaste