Inspiration – Resisting

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“It may look as if the situation is creating the suffering, but ultimately this is not so – your resistance is.”

~ Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever  had a reaction of “What do you mean I’m resisting? … They are the problem!”

We are all human beings with egos that are ready to duck and weave… push back and dismiss… defend or withdraw, in order to avoid feeling the pain of being wrong, not being accepted or not being good enough.

This is one of those seemingly simple statements from Eckhart Tolle that has a greater depth of meaning.

When we get frustrated and unhappy, instead of resenting what is happening to us, wishing things to be different and attacking the nearest bystander or ourselves for being stupid, we can step back with awareness.

We can ask ourselves questions such as “What is it that I am not accepting?” “What am I resisting?” Then “What can I do to change the situation?” (Bear in mind that you cannot change an other person, only yourself.) “What can I do differently here?” “Can I bring about change or accept the way things are”.

An other way to look at this is to recognize that the resistance is already within us. It’s usually in the beliefs that we hold about ourselves and life in general. When we come across something which threatens how we see the world, our ego will react to protect itself. We get triggered.

Every time we are triggered, it’s an opportunity to learn and to educate ourselves on what we hold dear to ourselves and our values. It’s also an opportunity to explore those beliefs and see if they are meaningful, or are based on early conditioning. Perhaps the other perspective is actually worth considering!

It really is all about us and our inner world.

When our ego defends and attacks the outer world; when we blame the other and create enemies in our mind; when we become judge and jury for everything that doesn’t comply with our thinking, then it is time to stop, take a few deep breaths and begin to search inside ourselves.

Self inquiry is the work of our lives.

40 thoughts on “Inspiration – Resisting

  1. I love this. I once read, that the negative feelings we have or things we don’t like about other people usually stems from something inside ourselves that we don’t like. Sharing this on FB.

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  2. Such a great post, dear Val 🙂

    As you so correctly said, we need to remember, that we can only change ourselves, which is the first to remember, before we go further.

    Sometimes it is the right to stay and fight, other times it is the right to stand at your view and think at yourself first.
    Up to each situation and how to look at this, also from outside our own ego’s.

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    On Tue, 27 Aug, 2019, 17:06 Find Your Middle Ground, wrote:

    > Val Boyko posted: ” “It may look as if the situation is creating the > suffering, but ultimately this is not so – your resistance is.” ~ Eckhart > Tolle Have you ever had a reaction of “What do you mean I’m resisting? … > They are the problem!” We are all human beings ” >

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  4. Thought provoking

    On my healing journey, accepting criticism was an obstacle. My father thought constant criticism would produce better athlete.

    Obviously I did more than resist criticism at times.

    Unjust criticism had the key to the outraged emotion.

    Now, critique does not stir those deep reactions.

    I have time to evaluate and accept the information, but it still brings a little jolt.

    Healing does not eliminate everything, but we have the tools to navigate back to now.

    Meditating has helped deflate my ego, he has become more servant, not captain if our ship

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  5. Well written! Sometimes we find ourselves in groups or teams that seem to require that we can spend many of our hours doing introspection. There are times when these requirements do not seem to function in a healthy posture for spiritual balance and growth.

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    • Toxic people appear in order for us to learn something … about ourselves, them and being human. We don’t need to like it or agree with it, but it’s worth considering the lesson that is getting our attention. Be true to you heart and soul 💛

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