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“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”

~Kahlil Gibran

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the loss and sorrow. A part of us has been taught that this is somehow wrong, and we create stories to help us cope. We may get angry, resentful or vow never to put ourselves in that situation again. We resist these powerful feelings and try to escape them.

Yet it only takes a moment, a pause and perhaps a deep releasing sigh, to see that the source of this deep feeling is love.

Sorrow and love are interwoven because the two are always connected.

With our hearts open, there is yearning and longing. There is love here.

When we recognize that what we feel sad about, is really an opening of the heart, we can begin to smile in the knowing that we are alive and loving beings.
This is what makes us special.

About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

47 comments on “Sorrow and Delight

  1. Thank you, this reminder came at just the right moment for me 🙂

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  2. Beautiful, Val. ❤

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  3. True artistic value

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  4. This is so good, and so true, Val. Thank you ❤

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  5. Know only too well those deep releasing Signs dear Val.. love your perspective on Sorrow, we would not know Joy without it.. ❤

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  6. Incredibly profound, a world of wiseness lies in the capability to give pain a silver lining as broad as the pain itself. < I might steal my own words there and steal Kahil's, hang on, that's a reblog, and is a share not a steal (good news as Esme is currently being investigated for the sudden disappearance of a job lot of currants and raisins from a vast stash of sticky buns in the Northern hemisphere – to be fair, they are horrid wee dead-fly-like things that the devil created).

    Sticky buns appear when I'm not even trying, hahahahaha.

    I'm borrowing the lot!

    Thanks Val. ❤

    – Esme Cloud full of silver linings, honest guv

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  7. This IS what makes us Special. Great post

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  8. This is really the highs and lows, Val. When we feel hurt, it is easy to tell ourselves not to go into another situation like that one again. A kind of self-protection in the moment. I know that one well.
    One day, we are able to open our heart again.

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  9. This is very nice, Val.

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  10. Reblogging this to my readers at sister site Timeless Wisdoms and adding it to the index of available works for the Foundation for Poetic Justice

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  11. Pingback: Sorrow and Delight – Timeless Wisdoms

  12. So true, dear Val. I find the connection to be a place of solace. 💕🙏🏻

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  13. So beautifully and lovingly articulated, Val. I really appreciate your words of wisdom today, my friend.

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  14. My favorite Gibran quote. It always puts things in the right perspective. ❤

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  15. So true 🙂

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  16. I love this, Val. Many thanks.

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  17. Superb post, Val. There can be no doubt that the intensely debilitating condition that is grief in bereavement is a profound mental and physical response to a love priorly (and enduringly) held — sometimes one we have failed to appreciate the depths of. I know you are not claiming otherwise, nor was the great being Gibran, but this response can never be philosophised away, in my view, only ever experienced and accepted for what it manifestly is. I think this aligns perfectly with what you are saying? H ❤

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    • Yes it does Hariod. Thank you and I appreciate you bringing in the intensity of grieving. It seems to be directly related to the amount of love for the being that is no longer with us. 🙏

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  18. I think Val we just need to feel the sorrow instead of trying to run from it. It is love like you have said and we need to feel it and then we can move on.

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  19. So true and so moving, Val. I was just today vacillating between anger and a breaking heart because once again I am facing another loss of one of my babies. Only if one loves with all of your heart, does sorrow run deep. I know that in spades. Yet not to know love, is not to live life.

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  20. Thank you for your words of wisdom, Val…I try to daily put these things into practice… 🙂


  21. “Weeping for that which has been your delight”.. This has improved my understanding on sorrow.. Thankyou Val for bringing up Kahlil’s quote for us. Holds deep meaning and interpretation.

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  22. So meaningful to me right now, Val. Thank you.


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