Whatever you resist you become. If you resist anger, you are always angry. If you resist sadness, you are always sad. If you resist suffering, you are always suffering. If you resist confusion, you are always confused.

We think that we resist certain states because they are there, but actually they are there because we resist them.

~ Adyashanti

I heard the other day, someone saying “I am vehemently against people who hold strong beliefs”. This seems to be a good example of what Adyashanti is saying.

The question that also comes to my mind is, “If I am resisting DJT  right now… does this mean I will become more like him?”

Take a moment to think about it. Perhaps you notice how your ego mind wants to dismiss this immediately. Or vehemently defends the idea of resisting.  Fascinating!

What are you resisting and how is this showing up?

May we continue to move forward with an open heart, fierce kindness and a readiness for action.

A battle of egos will never bring peace.



About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

47 comments on “Reflection – What You Resist You Become

  1. Wow, Val. Perfect post for the times. It really resonated with me. In a powerful way, what you describe comes down to the intention behind our actions.

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  2. roseanne333

    Yes, Val. How appropriate. I try mightily every single day to send love from my heart chakra to DJT’s heart chakra. Some days are harder than others, I won’t lie. I can’t, we can’t, live in that space of anger, negativity and hatred.
    And I love this quote for its usefulness to me in a more personal way.
    Thank you for helping to start my day this way.
    Blessings to you.

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  3. True, scary as it is. I say I resist the hateful speech and ideology, rather than the man, but how can one separate them?

    Btw, I was able to like your blog post today! I signed out and back in again on the iPad, and it worked. It hadn’t the time before.

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  4. Interesting post. On the funny side, I am resisting beauty and happiness. 🙂

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  5. Politically, I tend to consider myself as a progressive, and yet it’s always puzzled me that so many liberal progressives are intolerant of intolerance. Then again, Karl Popper supported that very notion:

    ‘Less well known is the paradox of tolerance: Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them.’

    — Karl Popper, The Open Society and Its Enemies (1945)

    Perhaps Gandhi had the answer with his notion of satygraha?

    ‘Truth (satya) implies love, and firmness (agraha) engenders and therefore serves as a synonym for force. I thus began to call the Indian movement Satyagraha, that is to say, the Force which is born of Truth and Love, or non-violence, and gave up the use of the phrase “passive resistance”, in connection with it, so much so that even in English writing we often avoided it and used instead the word “satyagraha” itself or some other equivalent English phrase.’

    — M.K. Gandhi, Satyagraha in South Africa

    H ❤

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    • Thank you Hariod. 💛 I am such a supporter of Gandhi and how he navigated his way between resistance, non violence and doing the right thing as a leader.

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  6. We all need this kind of profound wisdom! 🙂

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  7. The logic and truth of this phenomenon is appreciated, Val, and I embrace your warm gentleness. It is not yet light out today, and I go forward with an open heart, fierce kindness, and readiness for action. Thank you.

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  8. When I find myself resisting the “what is,” I remind myself to adopt a “maybe mind” . . .

    Embrace all with joy . . . anything can be a gift of gold in disguise.

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  9. Well said Val.. And as much as we may dislike the man and his actions, maybe his coming is to shift people out of their comfort Zones and get them to wake up to the world of political controls… And to find their voice. And to stand in unity for what is felt to be the better morals of society.. Unity, and Equality and Justice for all sections of society.

    You only have to look how the Womens March rallied people into unity.. So long as we use it in none violent actions for Pro Peace etc.. The power of the People has yet I feel to be heard..

    A timely post..

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    • Thank you Sue 💛
      It is an opportunity to shift perspective from what is going on with “them”, (an intellectual construct) to me (what I really feel).
      Rationalization keeps us separated from the heart. Keep letting your heart speak Sue 💕


  10. This post is irresistible, Val.

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  11. I just listened to a talk by Adyashanti, very intriguing I’ll be getting caught up on this fellow for sure.

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  12. So true! We hold the energy of all that we resist, within us.

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  13. I wonder what Ghandi would have to say to that… He resisted a lot, but internally he always won. I really like this theme, especially inspired form the teachings of Buddha, but sometimes we have to fight a righteous, holy war, like Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita. Interesting. As for Trump…

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  14. Interesting and timely, Val. Thanks.

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  15. Thanks, Val -this is pertinent to me/to all of us!

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  16. yes, good opening statement! eve

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  17. Oh resisting is hard work! I love when I surrender and flow with what is. Much less energy. Thanks Val. Beautiful 💕🙏🏻

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  18. Lovely post, as I find it worth to think more about Val 🙂
    It can be hard to resist acting, when we see, what is going on in our world, but denying has never brought anything good either.

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  19. Thanks Val, it’s a wise attitude to adopt –

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  20. Yes it’s true. I recently read ‘the law of attraction’ which says that if you think ~ ‘I will never steal again’… Then, your subconscious or unconscious neglects the negativity and it is received as ~ ‘I will steal again’.
    I loved the post!
    Namaste 🙏


  21. Ellie Haretuku

    Super insightful! Something for us all to think about! Thanks for sharing your words. X

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