New Bloggers, Blogging and Life

blogging and life

I have noticed an interesting phenomenon recently with new bloggers. Perhaps, if you are reading this, then you may have noticed as well. There are flurries of Likes one after an other and then a Follow.

I doubt this new generation has superhuman ability to read so quickly… and it makes me wonder if they are actually reading what is posted, or are simply wanting reciprocation, with multiple likes and a follow. Is the goal to accumulate lots of Likes and Followers, regardless of connection with other bloggers?

It makes me think of my adolescence where there was much self doubt and a craving for validation. If I do this for you, you’ll do this for me. If I like you, you must like me. This, of course, is encouraged in all Social Media.

Perhaps this keeps many people in a state of wondering what others think, and being seen in a particular way – happy, popular, interesting etc etc, rather than expressing themselves and finding their authentic being.

When we are so attached to being seen in a certain way, or being overly attached to results, we lose out on the process that takes us there, and who we are. It’s the experience of getting there, and the highs and lows that make life worth embracing and living fully.

In yoga there is a saying for the newcomer “Yoga isn’t about touching your toes, it’s about what happens on the way down”… and I would add, “appreciating everything that comes up along the way.”

Like life. Β Is your blogging a reflection of how you are living your life?

It’s your choice to tally scores, make as many connections as you can, and receive acknowledgement from others.Β Or, perhaps it’s time to slow down and read, absorb, listen and appreciate the goodness that others have to offer, and explore being in community with other people.

We all want validation and to be heard. We also all need to belong and care for others. Take a moment to pause, and notice if it is your ego-mind that is running the show here in WordPress or an expression of your authentic self.

And now consider your life…

167 responses to “New Bloggers, Blogging and Life

  1. I am having the same experience Val. Additionally, I have had numerous “bloggers” leave comments saying ” I followed you now you follow me”. Always takes me aback a little. I have long ago learned to not follow, but get to know people and exist with them (that last comment is not solely blog based). πŸ™‚

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  2. Yes, I notice the same thing recently, a string of likes in order of date, then a follow. When I click on their page, it’s someone who probably wouldn’t understand anything about what I’m saying.

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  3. interesting and common sense post, Miss Val… πŸ™‚
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    @”Is the goal to accumulate lots of Likes and Followers, regardless of connection with other bloggers?…” – oh, yeah plenty of bloggers don’t even read the title of your blog-post(s)! πŸ˜‰ btw, I invite you to read my “about”, in case you haven’t yet, and if you have 1 spare minute, as I’ve mentioned there: I don’t belong to any social networks, I don’t have a blog-roll and I don’t follow any blogs, as my time is quite limited! NO awards, NO trolls, NO fake or automatic β€˜likes’, SVP-PLEASE, for I’m thoroughly interested in QUALITY, not in quantity! πŸ™‚ https://myvirtualplayground.wordpress.com/about/
    * * *
    @”Is your blogging a reflection of how you are living your life?” – yes, but I never plan my posts and virtual “stuff” has never been my priority, REAL life is and will always be… πŸ™‚

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  4. Interesting observation Val. I sometimes wonder about the profuse number of email notifications identifying the same blogger views in quick succession, as though they are going through my posts without taking in their content, but that usually happens on my B & W photo blog where there is only one photo and no accompanying words in each post.

    When someone starts following my nature blog, I always go back to their blog to see who they are and where they’re from. I’m fascinated with the country of origin and the broad range of subjects on their own blogs, but I do notice from the (now rare) glance at the stats that there are more one-off views than regulars and that the number of followers one seems to acquire is not the true sum of those genuinely interested.

    I ask myself sometimes…..what do they see in my blog(s)? Why do some of these people, take an interest my my subject matter (so different to their own blogging subject)…… and then……I suppose that maybe, they’re just like me and have a broad range of interests quite beyond what they blog about.

    After 8 years of blogging I no longer feel obliged to follow someone because they follow me. I only follow the writing blogs (like your own) which remind me of the goodness and kindness of humanity. Mostly I follow photography and nature subjects (and keep my interest in alternative therapies, mind/body/spirit matters and Buddhist philosophy closer to my heart and home base).

    I find most of the social media habits in the younger set rather sad to behold and I long to tell them to be themselves and follow their own dreams and aspirations (instead of their peers).

    Sometimes it takes a lifetime of experience to find your true self and what really matters (in life) though.

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  5. Hi, I’ve been blogging for a few months. I’m not afraid to say that it is important to get followers and one of the ways that I have found is to follow others. So, looking at your follower stats, you have 2,182 followers. With that kind of following, which is no doubt earned and took time to cultivate (congratulations), you can be less concerned about whether you pick up one or two a day or a week or whatever.
    For those of us who have much more modest numbers, there should be opportunity to reach out and interact. I will be exploring, discovering, reading, and liking other posts, because it is a good way to connect with others.
    I do like quality, and I hope that others see my content as quality too.
    thank you.

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    • Thank you for joining to the conversation. We’ll started with zero followers. The strategy of connecting to other people’s blogs is really important. My intention has always been take time and get to know what others are saying. Find sites you like and start conversations there. If people don’t get back to you, then keep moving on. You will find your community and share more and more. Good luck πŸ’›

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  6. I couldn’t agree more.There have been times when I would ask a person to first read and then hit that like button because if they don’t read I certianly don’t need the hypocrite appreciations.
    People do it still,I wrote a post about it about half and year ago still this thing annoys me.
    And really now they would drop their link site to my comment section as a comment?Are you kidding me.Have some love towards writing fellas!

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  7. I’ve noticed the same thing. Building relationships with other bloggers is what makes blogging fun.

    Also, I liked the yoga quote. I’ve never heard that before and it makes a lot of sense.

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  8. Lately I have received three “comments” from new people asking me to contact them. They give an email address. They want to know me. Very weird. Then I have people who say my blog is wonderful would I look at theirs and let them know what I think. For new followers I’ll look at the email notification. Sometimes it’s pretty clear that it’s not something that would interest me. I have never automatically followed anyone. I don’t have time or interest for that. Most of them I never see again. It’s not about the stats, it’s about the community!

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    • Kate, how weird that bloggers, complete strangers, want to know another stranger on such a one-to-one basis as email. I’ve had ‘friends’ requests by strangers on Facebook (which I rarely use) and Linkedln (which I set up at a friend’s request and never use), but never on WordPress.
      Community is the right place to be, but I admit that I do find Kindred Spirits in the most unlikely of places.

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  9. Yes, I’ve noticed the same thing – and one easily tell they have not read your posts.
    But it does not bother me – because that’s social media behaviour.
    However, I only follow those whose posts resonate with me. They can have opinions opposite to mine – no worries, for it’s a learning opportunity for me.

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  10. Does blogging reflect my life? For most and many I believe this is true. As for me? I am a student. Always present in the classroom of life. Some of my lessons are little, some are big. Through them all
    my greatest lesson is non-attachment

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  11. One blogger used to do this years ago on my site, recently he came by and did it again. Made me smile. I am not able to read all the posts of the bloggers I follow, but I do try to check in every now and then. I do love being a part of this blogging community Val. ❀
    Diana xo

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  12. Does this not reflect an Ego looking for approval, status.

    Even in cyberspace we feel our unworthiness and crave a certain acceptance. I know when I first started my blog I wanted a few likes and responses to feel successful.

    Looking back it makes me laugh at my insecurities now.

    Remember the ego never feels equal to another ego.

    It places himself/herself as above or below each ego it encounters.

    I think the structure of the reader function allows people to hit like without opening the post.

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    • You have a good point Marty about the ego! The new Reader format also encourages skimming and liking without opening the post. Thank you ❣️

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  13. I haven’t noticed this as yet, Val, although I did go through a short stage of having some ‘spam’ followers… it was most odd. I have had a couple of those ‘I’ve followed you so now you follow me’ comments/follows which I tend to ignore. A sign of the times, perhaps?

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  14. I blog for me…to make meaning and create “thought things” of what I see and feel in the moment…also to work on my improving my photography skills in a mindful way….albeit I appreciate responses….what I enjoy about the WP platform is my ability to revisit other bloggers work overtime….WP is slower and calmer than other social media sites…to me and I like that….also people do use click farms to increase *likes* as I’ve learned…also I do know some granting proposals “look” at stats for determining success for applications….so who knows πŸ€“ ….not me πŸ˜€ I throughly enjoy your yoga connections Val! Compose a beautiful day ~ smiles hedy 😊

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  15. I’m easy about this situation. I see it happening all the time too Val, but I’m happy for all sorts of people to visit my blog, either for a quick like or a long read! πŸ’šπŸ’•πŸ’šπŸ’•

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  16. I’ve been getting more and more of them lately and just ignore them. I get a lot of follows from bloggers that have never read a word of my blog. I will check them out. If I see they are fishing, I move on. If someone is truly new and doesn’t know what to do yet, I try to lead with a kind comment. I blog for the connections and relationships. I have a wonderful community of friends here and am always grateful for a new and real connection. I am not interested either in stats or awards. I’m real here and I want to connect with others who are authentic as well. I tend to visit the sites of those who follow someone I relate and admire. Birds of a feather as they say. Good people find each other and that’s how I found you. I have over 500 followers but only 30-40 actually read and care about my blog. Good enough for me and those are the people I write to. Like my letter to good friends. If I find someone on your blog that is interesting, I leave a comment and let them know where I found them. It helps to build the relationship. Thank you for addressing this as it has been on my mind for awhile.

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    • Thank you Marlene. I think this kind of question, opens up what our intention is with blogging.
      Connection, interesting stuff , learning, and community are all up there for me too. Thank you for being authentic in your connections πŸ’•

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  17. I’ve been dealing with this for quite a while! Someone will “like” about twelve of my posts, and follow me, at exactly 12:20. (I get an email notification of each like, along with the time stamp.) So I know they have just figured out a way to do multiple likes, and haven’t read a word. When that happens, I either ignore it all together, or visit their site and like one of their posts, but don’t follow them back. Usually, they will then unfollow me, which is fine. I don’t want to play that game.
    Sadly, lots of other people do. I have almost 1,200 followers, but no where near that many people actually read my blog. But it is the real readers I value, so I treasure each and every one!

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  18. Thank you, Val! I’ve tried to keep my focus on my original intent when I started my blog…… to share my story with whoever was drawn to read it be they family, friend or another blogger who might relate. The ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ are a fun part of blogging though not the reason my blog exists. This is why I keep returning to your blog along with others that I’ve found support my blogging intentions. πŸ™‚
    http://www.meinthemiddlewrites.com

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  19. A wise post, Val. Undoubtedly this phenomenon is linked to a wish to build up stats, something we were perhaps all prone to in the beginning. As you indicate, the relationships we develop are what really counts

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  20. What an interesting observation.One that articulates something I had pondered about with regard to my own blog.

    My view, and it’s only a personal view, is that while there is no question that the foundation to reaching out to others is, first, to reach in to oneself, for many who are leading more or less uncomplicated lives it never occurs to them that there is so much more to understand about themselves.

    For example, life only dealt me a ‘curved ball’ that had me reaching out to a psychotherapist in 2007. That it was only subsequent to my counselling relationship with said psychotherapist, just ten years ago, that I learned that I had a deep-rooted fear of rejection that had it’s roots in the death of my father in 1956!

    So for 50 years, give or take, I ran my life with this unconscious element frequently in charge without realising it.

    Thus when it comes to Learning from Dogs I do understand why a large number of ‘Likes’ and a growing group of followers offers plenty of positive strokes. Is that ego driven? Maybe. Or does it assuage my fear of rejection that is still there but now not hidden from my consciousness? Quite likely!

    Make of that what you will! πŸ˜‰

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  21. Yes, you bring up a good point, Val. Even wth comments, I sometimes wonder if the person actually read my post or was simply keeping up, wanting reciprocity. I get it. Life is flying on by. In the end, I write for myself, so if others like it, so much the better. I don’t care if it’s publshed, I’ve done that too, but it’s not the goal. I guess in the end it’s just going to be what it is. People will be people, always a learning curve involved. Good offering 😘

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  22. Hmm. Maybe this explains why some blogs have so many followers in what seems to me a relatively short period of time. Being new, older, not really into social media, and thus naive to the dynamics you mentioned, I didn’t realize that was a thing — and I thought I must be doing something wrong. I can only follow a few because I can only keep up with a few. Those few matter to me. I care about what they share — including yours! I write for myself, but to the extent possible, I also want others to benefit. To me, these are two sides of the same coin. And … I know what I write isn’t appealing to everyone. But I’d rather have 10 sincere followers than 1000 who aren’t really interested.

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    • I do like your philosophy and approach πŸ’› Sincerity is an important blue that is often overlooked in social media …. I guess it’s because it’s about being so Il, and to be so Il, one doesn’t have to be sincere (?!)

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  23. I used to get bothered with this phenomenon but now can ignore it. You have so well stated everything about this trend of seeking likes and follows for the sake of numbers itself. I have wondered at times if I was only one of few who makes an attempt to actually read the ones that I follow. Eventually I decided to simply follow my own process of being here with a purpose of genuine exchange of appreciation of our authentic works. I love the journey and the connections we build here more than the empty followerships.

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  24. I think all new bloggers are looking at their stats and try to get high as fast as possible. At the very beginning I also thought if I get a follow I need to follow back or it is rude not to follow back. I have though “evolved ” and only really follow what interests me and gives me something. I also do not expect someone whom I follow to follow me back. I like my followers to follow because they want to. ( Sorry so many “follow ” words in there… πŸ™‚ ) guess you understand what I mean.

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  25. Well said. That “flurry of likes” triggers laughs, but rarely curiosity. I love the sweet trilling notification from WordPress as much as the next blogger, but when I hear that machine-gun repeat, I’m reminded of telemarketers eager to get me to buy their new phone service plan.
    However, when receiving a thoughtful comment from a blogger that has taken the minute (or 3) to read my post… that blogger is well on their way to becoming a new blogging friend. And that’s one of the principal reasons I blog. To meet and form meaningful connections with fellow bloggers.

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    • I love your insight and wisdom Gabe. The machine gun repeat brings about a similar visceral response in me. πŸ˜‰
      Thank you for pausing with me here. I feel you πŸ’›

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  26. Lots of wisdom in this post. It takes time and thought to find one’s identity and message as a blogger. I find so much joy and food for thought in reading my favorite blogs and interacting with the community. Thank you for being here, Val ❀

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  27. I decided a while ago to never like or share a post, blog, or tweet without fully reading it – and occasionally more fully exploring the site or person who posted, blogged, or tweeted. Not only is it not authentic, but often what seems benign or something I may agree with on the surface is filled with messages that are harmful or express views contrary to my own.

    As a very new blogger, I have been experiencing self-doubt about sharing myself with the world in such a way. Thank you for the reminder that is about being authentic and not about being liked. πŸ™‚

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    • Being authentic is so powerful … and recognizing we only have so many hours in the day to read other’s reminds us to also be realistic… and find what works for us. How I blog and the time I spend has d finitely evolved over the years. I hope in a good way πŸ˜‰

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  28. As a new blogger, I can say that it is exciting when I get new followers or likes to my posts. But that’s not what I’m going after. Blogging to me is like journaling, except it’s published to the world to see. I think that blogging should be an honest reflection of that person or their life and the followers should be those people who are genuinely interested in the story you have have to tell.

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  29. I’ve seen this point discussed quite a bit lately. I personally blog because I like flapping my mouth and run out of people to flap at in person, so I flap on the internet. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with others who blog with a purpose, whether that’s to get validation or see their follower numbers increase or to let the world know their dog has cool hair. I get your point, and it happens to be one that I agree with and follow on my blog, but I worry that in the process of encouraging bloggers to stay “true to themselves” we aren’t including some judgment about what that should mean or how it should look.

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  30. For me, blogging is about organizing my thoughts and feelings. It was purely that at first anyway. When I became aware that I could effect change through what I wrote, or connect with others, it became more a part of me vs. something I did. I’m still mystified when I get a new follower–who, me?! My gratification comes from entertaining or educating or touching someone through writing. Maybe I’m just old enough to base my self-valuation on more than likes and clicks. Not that I don’t appreciate those, mind you. . . I’m glad this post was shared though! I enjoyed your post.

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    • Thank you Wendy. Starting from an intention to journal and share from your heart, will draw others like this to you. We all make a difference when we open our eyes 😊

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  32. Well said, as a recent blogger I start doing this as an excercise for writing, and also manifesting my thoughts about the team (sports) that I love. But as the views came in, specially from other countries, I start looking more often at the stats. I realise thats was not why I started doing this. So what I start doing, was going back at writing for the simple reason of having fun, writing to my 15 fan base (all relatives) because I do a lot of family jokes, and forgot about the Stats, Likes or anyting related to that. Since then I am enjoying this a lot more

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  33. Thank you for this perspective. As a relatively new blogger (April 2017), I am trying to manage sincere content that is generated by my real life questions and experiences and with the need to post more consistent entry. So, this post gives me some validation to stay committed to my authenticity as I work to post more frequently. Thanks a lot!

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  35. Ooohhhh you have no idea how appropriate this post is for me at the moment! It truly fell from the sky onto my screen!!! I am new and my blog is a means to share my daily battle with depression and how I am learning so much and beating it! To cut a long story short, I created it to show there is someone else out there going through it also in the hopes to continue the conversation about it going and show that opening up is the first step in the right direction! And yes, i did fall into the trap of looking out for likes and followers and comments etc etc etc BUT i realized that by doing that I was loosing focus of why it is that I started this journey! So I am now staying true to myself, continuing with this and not worrying about ‘knowing’ if I have touched someone with my posts or not. I know the universe has our backs and we simply need to trust and remember the real why of any journey we begin…. xxx

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    • I am so glad you landed here as well! There is often serendipity at work. When we send out something, we no baggage or loaded outcome attached, we often find wonderful connections. I am happy this worked for you. Now go and fin others who are beating a path and inspiring others 😎

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  36. I wonder if the 133 likes to your post actually read your post, lol. As much as I agree with your post. Even if you are writing for the pure reasons, you have to advertise your writing, most people do that through publishers. Here people are trying to advertise their blog, which in itself I don’t think makes it a bad thing. But it is always good to be reminded about doing it for the right reasons. That being said,
    http://www.roadandwell.wordpress.com

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    • Funny, I don’t see myself as a writer, just someone sharing the lessons I have learned long the way. Instead of having a publisher. I send out the energy that I want to receive back from whoever happens to be listening. Much simpler. And makes for a happier way of blogging πŸ’›

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  37. Yup, so true. I was in fact going to write a blog about this recently. Maybe I still might. I hate likes in social media. Now, I hate likes in blogs too. People don’t even read the content and go ahead and like the post. I know this because I’ve received likes to around 20 of my posts in less than a minute. There’s no way anyone could have read all of them in less than a minute. You know what I mean? Anyway, thanks for putting this out. Cheers!

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  38. Hi val, first of all wishing you a happy yoga day . What really resonated with me was about letting the egoic mind run the show, i was actually left wondering if the point of blogging was escaping from the present moment.

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    • I appreciate your reflection in this. πŸ’› Any activity can be a distraction from an life, especially when it is challenging. Reading a book, watching movies or gambling are just the same. Being aware of our intention, as well as how we are feeling is so important. Thank you 😊

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  39. I agree totally! I’ve been ghost writing for a number of years. In that time I have seen a lot of shallow writing. My advice to those out there….
    Like because you like not because you would like to be liked.

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  40. Okay, I almost just clicked ‘like’ – to be funny – but it would only have been funny to me – so I am leaving a comment.

    I haven’t been doing this for very long, so it was not too long ago that I was excited about likes and follows, a bit giddy and silly at the receipt, and guilt-ridden if I did not follow. Don’t misunderstand, I still get a little excited about likes and follows, because it’s fun and an interesting gauge of what ‘works,’ but it is not a true metric. I never ‘just’ followed – I make a point of checking out a persons site – but for a while, I was a tad less discerning. What I find lacking, what I miss and crave are comments. I get them, occasionally, and love it, but it is rare. I initially thought getting ‘likes’ and follows was vallidating – however, when I stop and think about it, it is not. Clicks are easy, thoughtless (forgive me), and take nothing. Taking a moment or two, in this crazy world, to write a thoughtful comment – that’s the vallidation. That’s the connection. I write for myself and because I have been sitting on my words for too many years. Wherever this goes, it will be an interesting journey. ~ Thanks for making me think about this.

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  41. I liked this post and I have now followed your blog, but I can assure you I actually read the post and you are only the second blog I am currently following. I know it will take time to build up the followers I want, probably years, but I accept that!

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    • The more you give, the more you will get back. Always tune in to others and try to connect. That is what the world needs most these days. I wish you all the best … and thank you for the follow πŸ’›

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  42. It seems that many of us are actively missing out on our the ‘journey’– whatever that may be individually. Perhaps this ‘binary’ behaviour, is a result of chasing ideals that exist outside of the present moment…./ Totally thought the point of yoga was to touch my toes! πŸ˜› j/k.

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  43. I love this post. Short and sweet it really opens up our minds and makes us think. Interesting how it’s a call to arms to slow down, take our time, and read, while simultaneously not taking up that much of our time. Brilliant!

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  44. Great post, Val! I use blogging to express myself (and maybe to find revenue too but it’s not the main focus). And I only follow blogs that I like or blogs of my friends whom I know in real life.I want to enjoy my blogging life πŸ˜€

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  45. Thank you for your helpful post Val. As a new blogger who has just started on this journey, it was a good reminder not to get distracted but to concentrate on my writing.

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  46. Val, yours words are true . New bloggers have a tendency to do so . But they want recognition and appreciation for their writings to, and it’s tough to be recognized in the sea of experienced blogger , what else they will they do, is there any other way?
    Even though there writing is genuine.

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    • You make a good point! Sometimes we must also express ourselves in a way that is easy for others to connect to. Clear thinking and well chosen words, and not too many errors in spelling and grammar are some things I really appreciate in other blogs. Thank you πŸ’›

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  47. Well I am a new to this blogging thing (Started this week only).
    And I am keeping it authentic. I like the way that I write and only comment on other sites after reading the whole post.
    I don’t give like(in fact I have given just one) . But it is strange because sometime even a comment I replied to, out of courtsey, will get a like.
    But I think those who are reading my blog are actually reading my post. They are not just rushing over the whole thing.
    But it is the lack of comments that intrigue me. People with experience should actually not hold back to critically evaluate the post.
    I am just a novice but already I put effort in signalling the strength of posts I like to read through comment section, but strangely the feeling is not reciprocated.
    Although there are few who do actually put some effort. And it is to those authors that I head out to every time I log in.
    I want to converse not yell.
    Hope someone is listening..

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    • I’m listening … and looking for someone that resonates with me, my life, or my values. We are never alone in this world of blogging. Keep tuning in and connecting πŸ’›

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  48. I couldn’t agree more. A few years ago, the stats and the numbers worried but now I know that writing is way beyond those likes and follows. When I followed your blog right now, it was because of the content. This is one thing that I have done since I started – following for content and not for reciprocation. Thank you for writing this piece.

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  49. I found a link to your post when I clicked on a review of your thoughts in another blog. I commented on the review post and then headed here to read the original. I liked what you’ve written and I also liked reading through all of the comments and your replies. I think I really liked it bease it’s real! I may just finish this comment and click the follow button! Thanks for sharing. Best wishes.
    PS. The other blogger described you as a life coach, but I didn’t have my glasses on and I thought it said life couch. I got my readers on and was hooked!

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  50. I don’t write off enough, but I have noticed that on occasion when I get a ‘like’ I’m curious enough to go and check out their profile and their blog, and if the subject that they’ve written is interesting to me, I may consider following them. Also, from time to time, I will go through the ones that I follow to see if they are regular writters or not and if they haven’t written something for a very long time, I tend to delete them from my follow.
    Nevertheless, I do prefer to read things that are intelligent and interesting, and of subjects that allow me to get to know the person, to get to know who they are through their writing style.

    I don’t think I have an audience, but I really don’t care. What I care about is that if someone reads my stuff I want to feel that they’ve read it and the comments they leave (if they leave one) should reflect my entry. If I don’t get comments I don’t care, it doesn’t matter. Perhaps, the ‘like’ button should be removed completely and let people write comments instead, this way at least you know someone may appreciated your time and effort for that particular piece of writing that you’ve submitted.
    I don’t know.

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    • Thank you for sharing your perspective S. We all have our own place of balance and being in integrity. I will say though, that I do like the “like” button. When I don’t have a lot of time to reply to everyone’s posts, it is a way to let bloggers know that I appreciate what they are saying.

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  51. Thank you for such a meaningful insight!
    While blogging, it’s easy to find ourselves caught up in “likes” and “follows” pursuit.
    If I get more and more “likes” and “follows” does it really mean my writing is interesting? Do all those people pay attention to what I say? Or is it just a game? I have thought about this and I guess many people around here as well.
    I have decided to create a blog because I wanted to organize some of my writings as well as share my experiences and reach to other people. I thought I had something to say.
    Eventhough I don’t deslike to receive “likes” and “follows”, these are really secondary, the best times are when someone makes a constructive comment or asks an interesting question.
    I guess what matters the most is to learn both from others and from ourselves.

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  52. I like this post… I like it because it’s speaking truth and wisdom that would be beneficial for a lot of people. I feel with things like blogging and social media, it really depends on the intentions of the user, what do they actually want from it? Some want money, some want to inspire, some an outlet, and a lot want validation…it seems that with the first and the last reason, their actions are slightly more transparent, it can become less about forming connections and more about accumulating numbers…so like you said, it is important to take a step back and see what your intentions are, and make sure you’re being as true and authentic to yourself as possible.
    Have a good day πŸ™‚
    x

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  53. I remember the days on livejournal and teenopendiary/bloopdiary when if you did not comment a certain amount, or update enough it was a “unfriending” offence. Or people would not want you to reply to their comment on your page, you had to go to theirs, so they had a comment.

    It was exhausting. I think if you want a following, or people to read your focus shouldn’t be trying to railroad people into following you, or commenting on your stuff, it should be about improving your content and writing what is you. If you’re writing honestly and as a reflection of yourself, rather than the purpose being to attract, the followers will eventually come and they will be the right kind of followers who respect you and your content

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      • I don’t by into it anymore, I just write for me. I was writing a long time before this kind of platform existed and I will be writing even longer still.
        It’s breathing to me and I would never alter the amount of breaths I take to appease another person, so I won’t sacrifice this either.

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  55. I’m completely 100% new to blogging and for me it’s all about being real and authentic… blogging is therapy for me. It’s disheartening to see not everyone takes it the same way, feels like some of the social media I’ve tried to escape. But it’s good to find those people who really do care and really ‘get’ it. Hopefully I’ll have more of that kind of experience. Thank you for your wisdom!

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  56. Thank you so much for this πŸ™‚ As someone who’s just begun blogging, this truly resonated with me. The numbers game is a little intimidating, but I loved discovering this amazing community of writers and will focus on that..and writing authentically.

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  57. Love! Your words are so wise and deep and sweet!

    I’m struggling myself with wondering how to get my words out there but don’t want to create content just to get likes or follows. I want to be true to myself but want to connect with more people. I’m wondering if I need to compromise, and if so, how much. I’m guessing it’s the process of discovering myself so I can figure out how to do me in the blogging world.

    Thanks so much for sharing! πŸ™‚

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    • I have such a live hate relationship with “invasives”. I’ve had them in the past in a more contained setting and have been able to keep them in check. And then comes along one who loves to bury deep, and sees wet weather as a challenges to expand at super speed and take over the yard.! Balance in all things πŸ’›

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    • I would add…. breaking habits and noticing what comes up, including the fear … helps our habits to grow and expand into new realms. Thank you Wells πŸ’›

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  59. I completely agree I just started and I find myself at time down when a blog doesn’t get a like or comment, but to be honest I write for me it’s an expression of myself and sets a little piece free each time I hit publish. This world is so consumed with being liked we forget to connect. I want my blog to connect people…

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    • Thank you Tiffany. Expression from the deepest part of ourselves and not being concerned about the results is key for happy blogging … and happy life πŸ’›

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  60. So much goodness here – flowing from you and entrenched in your truth. What you discuss here is all too familiar, but I experience it to a larger extent on Twitter. Am I really in commune with another or simply responding to a bot that someone is paying to promote themselves? It is refreshing to know that there other bloggers out there with the same level of skepticism…and hope. Thank you for these words!

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  62. I love what you said when you asked this question: “Is the goal to accumulate lots of Likes and Followers, regardless of connection with other bloggers?” And it’s funny, I think the thing that draws so many readers to your blog is that you practice what you preach. You’re authentic, and we can tell that by reading the blog. Thus, you have more followers.

    Today, so many people out there are trying to make money online, so they create a blog and hope that by churning out post after post, they will get followers, build traffic, and get rich. But really, in the long run, it’s important to make a difference. I have just revamped my company and am making a blog, and YOUR blog here really has helped give me some perspective. My whole business is in helping others, and I strive to create each article just for my audience, to help them in some way. That’s what you did here Thanks!

    Elizabeth

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  63. I would love people to follow me and press the like button but I write both my blog and my novels (these yet to see much light) because of what I have found in words – understanding, compassion, empathy and the list could go on forever. I blog about writing, about life and the things I see around me because the connection to others is what gives us strength. Loved the sentiments in your post and I will follow you because of that alone.

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