I can recall so clearly what happens when I am triggered. It still surprises me when I am, but I also know that it will pass when I let myself feel what’s going on. I used to think that being graceful was putting on a brave face and not showing how hurt I was. Rather than storming off and vowing never to speak to that person again …. I guess I’ve found my own way of finding grace when triggered.
The Argument
How dare you!!
Come into the present moment and notice
the pounding head, the clenched jaw and hands in fists
the thoughts that spark like fiery daggers
Don’t control me! I don’t want this! I don’t need you!
Feel the tears and absolute frustration
the vulnerability at being in this place of hurt and loss.
Loss of control. Loss of connection. Loss of understanding.
Become that wee girl too young for words
She knows this place. This sheer frustration. Hurting and not knowing why.
Let this rage turn into one of your biggest breaths ever
Open your mouth and gasp like a fish
take in the air that nourishes and calms
Let it out with a cry from your very soul.
Let the tears roll. Feel their heat running down your cheeks.
Breathe
Feel the energy dropping through you like a stone
allow it to release and pass through the mesh that’s your body
Feel the unburdening and letting go
notice the softening in your body, your thoughts and your being
Say hello to this vulnerable part of you
Feel the relief and the love
You are still here.
And now you are ready to talk about what just happened.
Namaste.
Reblogged this on Find Your Middle Ground and commented:
One of the topics I always come back to being graceful in the lows of life and how to handle the flood of emotions that most of us feel when we are triggered.
I have also noticed that over the past few years I have become less likely to react and am able to let go and come into the present moment.
As I re-read this post called The Argument, my body contracts and I feel an echo of the very same reaction running through me.
At the end I find myself smiling with relief and gratitude.
I am on a path of learning and growth. 😌
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Love. Love. Love this post. I feel like I need a button that instead of LIKE says, Been there. Done That. Growing beyond it.
Like you, I believe triggers are an important opportunity to see myself at my least graceful and grow into healing through the trigger.
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Glad it resonated with you Louise! We are all on the journey towards love, acceptance and letting go 🙂
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This sounds so easy, but it is not easy. By practice it might become more easy by time. Great post Val 🙂
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Thanks Irene. Not many of us were taught how to handle our emotional reactions when we were growing up. We copied from those around us … Knowing its okay to feel like this and learn how to release the emotional energy would have been so helpful and healing early on!
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Stepping back to take the time to breathe before we speak, always has a better outcome. Great post!
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Yes indeed Jill, being aware that there is time to pause and breathe is the first step 🙂
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Powerful stuff Val, and a great challenge even for many a mature adult. It’s good to be back to your words and wisdom; I’ve missed them this past couple of weeks.
H ❤
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I have missed your words and presence too! So many times I thought “I wonder what Hariod would say about this?!”
Glad you are back in this realm. xo
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Lovely post and great reminder, thank you Val. 😀
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Thank you Jet. Glad it resonated with you 🙂
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I so relate to this Val… I just had myself a mini meltdown last night, actually.
*Deep breaths*
Such is life…
❤
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Be present with each high and low and continue to live fully my friend 🙂 As you say … such is life ❤️
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Lovely post and thanks for sharing it. Recognizing one’s triggers really does reshape one’s reactions, I think. As you commented, it keeps one present. Thanks, Val!
Karen
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Thank Karen for your supportive words!
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Never fun to go down that path, but as you said in a previous post, melt it like an ice cube! (I’ve shared that one amongst my friends – it’s a good one!) I don’t like how I feel after a triggered response, so releasing it quickly is a good approach. Fall down, get back up!
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Thanks for sharing your insights Eliza!
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Getting there.
Thanks for the tips on the techniques
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You’re welcome Elizabeth!
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