When life unravels
Find your Middle Ground.
The yarn of your life
Will be repaired and retold.
The words we choose in our thinking, our speech and our writing, impact on how we feel and our overall well being.
Have you ever noticed how a word can bring up a certain feeling inside of you? A sensation, a thought or an emotion?
Choosing a word that connects with your heart and soul can be not only uplifting, but also brings physical well being.
If you have a few moments, let’s explore.
Take your time as you connect to each of the words below. Go slowly. You can say them out loud:
Pause here and close your eyes. What is alive in you in this moment? Is there a warmth, softening, a feeling of tenderness or love perhaps? How is your breathing? Are you smiling? (me too) Notice how these words manifest themselves in your mind body and spirit.
Now take a deep breath and take the same time connecting to each of these words:
Pause here and close your eyes. What is alive in you in this moment? Is there tension or constriction or heaviness perhaps? How is your breathing? Notice how these words manifest themselves in your mind body and spirit.
In western medicine when there is resistance in our body it leads to inflammation, and increases our level of stress. These are both proven factors for ill health.
I believe in western medicine, and I also believe in that when there is constriction and tension our life energy contracts as well, and a part of inner state becomes blocked. This impacts our emotional and physical wellness.
In yoga, when the life energy (prana) is blocked it can be released with postures, breathing exercises (pranayama) and meditation. In Chinese medicine these blockages in Qi can be released through acupuncture.
No matter what we believe in our minds, our body has its own kind of intelligence.
Listen to your body’s wisdom.
Be mindful of your thoughts and your words. Your body is always listening.
This is a re-post I found inspiring to me today. Take time to find your middle ground and come home to your Self.
I used to think that when I was out of integrity I was not walking my own talk and my thoughts were not in alignment with my beliefs and values.
That when my thinking and actions weren’t aligned, I was letting myself down in some away, and not honoring my best self.
And then I woke up and experienced it as something more.
The signs of being out of integrity were the same. For me, its an icky uncomfortable feeling in my gut. I’ve come to recognize this as my unconscious letting me know that something isn’t right. There is something to discover within.
When this feeling happens I ask myself two questions and then listen for an answer.
1. Am I feeling fearful? ….I didn’t defect any fear. There were no anxious thoughts or worries.
2. Am I out of integrity?…. and I couldn’t see anything “wrong”. I wasn’t letting myself down by being out of alignment with my thoughts and actions. Usually there’s something that comes up – like avoiding exercise, over eating, trying to get out of a commitment I regretted having made, or feeling bad because I was snippy with someone when I was focused elsewhere. This time it made no sense whatsoever. But there was no “bad” deed or self denial to be dug up and exposed.
So what was going on?
I decided to set aside time to be with myself for yoga and meditation. I moved gently and then simply sat. Being fully present and open to see what would show up.
As I did, I felt a gentle wave of warm loving energy and a softening around my heart. A small voice without words seemed to say “Ah here you are. I’ve missed you.”
The well intentioned judge disappeared and was replaced by pure loving kindness. I gave it space to be and to grow. It moved through my very being. Enfolding me and nurturing my spirit.
My realization is this:
Before I would judge myself as in some way as being “wrong”, and then I would make it “right” by changing how I was behaving or thinking. My judge is well intentioned, but sees things as right or wrong and can be very critical.
When we let go of the judge, a loving connection with ourselves can seed itself and grow. Harmony is found again and everything is aligned once more with life and the world.
Now I know that when I am out of integrity then I am not taking time to be kind to myself.
It’s not about changing my thinking and actions, its about opening my heart and connecting to my Self.
This is a re-blog of a personal story about dealing with some physical pain while I was at Kripalu. For those of you who live with chronic pain, I hope you will be inspired by this.
I have a deformity of my low back, which was exacerbated in a skiing accident in the 1990’s. The bottom line is that I have to be really careful not to jolt it, do quick movements or backbends that could bring about spasms or make the condition worse.
So, going to Kripalu a few years ago, I made sure I had strong antispasmodics if my back went into spasm. I didn’t want to be incapacitated for yoga teacher training!
I was alert and prepared. I was also pretty tense about it.
The first two days I was being so careful; avoiding certain poses and making my own adjustments. I feel good about taking care … “of this darn back of mine that is preventing me from having as much fun as everyone else!”
Then I experienced a sharp pain in my left knee. With all the sitting I wasn’t surprised, and I needed to give it attention.
The idea is to allow the channels to be open so that the body’s natural healing can work. There are different breathing techniques to activate and move the prana energy.
The next day my knee stopped hurting. But there was a shooting pain in my ankle.
So I adjusted my position and breathed deeply letting the prana flow there.
The next morning, there was no pain.
What about my back? I had forgotten about it. It should have been aching after six days of sitting but it was doing okay.
In fact, I felt wonderful. No pain anywhere.
The lesson I want to share with you is:
Let it relax.
Give it space.
Breathe into it.
Let it be.
What I now understand is that this can work for all pain – whether its physical or emotional.
Our body has a way to deal with hurt and brings its own ability to heal when we recognize it, and are kind towards it.
I’ll still take the meds and apply heat when needed …. but I’ve learned a valuable lesson about living from my Middle Ground.
I am so grateful.
“Be peace. Don’t just talk about it.”
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Take a moment to consider if you are you getting annoyed and frustrated about the lack of peace in the world.
And then come back to these simple and powerful words from Which That Hanh
Peace begins with our selves.
Make peace with yourself by giving yourself permission to rest.
Be compassionate towards your own human imperfections and judgments.
Forgive yourself. This is an act of peace.
Find your Middle Ground and connect to the inner goodness within you.
Help an other person to find peace. Encourage them to rest.
Show kindness towards them. Forgive them.
Nurture peace in your children and loved ones.
Work for peace.
This is a re-blog of an earlier post… with a message worth repeating. 💛
“Until we have seen someone’s darkness, we don’t really know who they are.
Until we have forgiven someone’s darkness we don’t really know what love is.”
For anyone who has been a in a long term loving relationship , you can probably relate to this quote. When we allow ourselves to be seen in such a vulnerable way it opens up real understanding and connection.
Now consider if you were to say these words to yourself:
Until we see our own darkness, we don’t really know who we are.
Until we have forgiven our own darkness we don’t really know what love is.
The world becomes a kinder and less fearful place when we forgive and love ourselves.