I came across this earlier post … and boy did it take me back. May we all find grace by connecting to the most vulnerable part of ourselves … our heart.

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The Argument

“How dare you!!” 

Come into the present moment and notice

the pounding head, the clenched jaw and hands in fists

the thoughts that spark like fiery daggers

“Don’t control me! I don’t want this! I don’t need you!”

Feel the tears and absolute frustration

the vulnerability at being in this place of hurt and loss.

Loss of control. Loss of connection. Loss of understanding.

Become that wee girl too young for words

crying girl

She knows this place. This sheer frustration. Hurting and not knowing why.

Let this rage turn into one of your biggest breaths ever

Open your mouth and gasp like a fish

take in the air that nourishes and calms

Let it out with a cry from your very soul.

Let the tears roll. Feel their heat running down your cheeks.


Feel the energy dropping through you like a stone

allow it to release and pass through the mesh that’s your body

Feel the unburdening and letting go

notice the softening  in your body, your thoughts and your being

Say hello to this vulnerable part of you

Feel the relief and the love

You are still here.

And now you are ready to talk about what just happened.


About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life ๐Ÿ’›

23 comments on “Finding Grace When Triggered

  1. Yup the vulnerability we/I feel…and finding grace…thanks for sharing this Val ~ smiles Hedy

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  2. Such an important post as we each connect at some points in our lives with our Inner wounded child… Learning to nurture her/him and allowing those sobs as you allow them to come to heal and cleanse, as you hug that little inner child, taking them into your heart.. Loving them and making them feel safe and secure.. Knowing all is now well in your world… โค
    I wonder Val how many of us have said hello to that vulnerable part of ourselves ???

    Much love my friend โค

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    • Such a good question Sue. Stalwarts and Stoics may not consider this …. but the wisdom from living life fully brings us right to our emotions and the feelings that come from the heart rather than decisions from the head. The greatest gift to humanity may be the lesson on feeling what we are feeling and choosing to let it pass, rather than acting out.
      I hope you are well dear friend ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’›

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  3. the power of breathing…

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  4. That took me back to a very scary place – and reminded me of all the opportunities that subsequently came for finding grace in vulnerability. Thanks, Val!

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    • Thank you Vicky. When we face the scary places from our young and innocent last, we can start the healing and the awakening. ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’›

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  5. It is amazing how that inner dam builds, until some poor soul asks us some simple question and gets drowned as our conditional dam lets go.
    We see that this is not acceptable as we get older and wiser and so hang on…and hang on, until we break down.
    Anger management (of all the emotions because of its destructive nature, to us and others) should be a part of every school to show us that grace can be a part of our everyday life.
    Great post dear lady, your grace is showing beautifully ๐Ÿ˜€ โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ ๐Ÿฆ‹

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    • Thank you Mark for your kind comment and sharing. I agree with you. Teaching children how to get in touch with and mange their emotions is such a powerful life lesson. Alas, it is also one for parents…. and educators. There is such an opportunity here ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’›

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  6. Just like a storm passing through!

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  7. NO!
    I don’t wanna!

    And you can’t make me! ๐Ÿ˜›

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  8. Yes – love this!


  9. Thank you for this, Val, very timely for me โค

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  10. This is really good Val. Thank you.

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