When we feel rising frustration and anger towards an other person, it’s time to tend to our selves, rather than act it out against the other.
Acting out our negativity only adds to the violent energy in the world. Our ego-mind may be pumped, but it doesn’t bring about resolution or peace.
Instead, bring awareness to where you are right now. Place one hand to your belly, and the other above your heart. Take a few deep breaths. Allow the breath to become fuller and let it move down into the center of your being.
Feel the warmth of your hands and the movement of the breath. Feel the connection to this tender and loving part of you.
Be present to what just occurred that was upsetting. Notice thoughts, emotions, sensations in the body, without judgment or creating a story.
Then say to yourself:
This person has a body and a mind, just like me
This person has feelings, emotions, and thoughts, just like me
This person has also felt sad, disappointed, angry and hurt, just like me
This person wishes to be free of pain and suffering, just like me
This person wishes to be accepted and loved, just like me
This person wishes to be happy, just like me.
Then allow this loving kindness (metta) meditation to arise:
May this person be happy
May this person be healthy
May this person be free of suffering and the causes of suffering
May this person live their life with ease
This practice allows me to stay heart centered and lets the negative energy release.
Being kind feels so much better about the whole situation, the other person, and myself 💕
Such a beautiful meditation Val – I do a similar one for compassion — but hadn’t thought to use it for anger – and I needed this today a lot!
Thank you my friend!
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When there is anger, our heart closes. It is an act of self compassion to release the anger. Thank you Louise 💕
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Tremendous Val, and so very powerful and transformative; a sublime and noble combination of practices. Even just a few minutes each day spent sincerely developing feelings of Loving Kindness towards others will bring enormous benefits. As you know, it’s important that it isn’t just a mantra or incantation though, and must be felt, truly felt. Then the benefits come through in daily life, and in the most remarkable ways. With Mettā, Hariod.
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I replied further down … thank you Hariod 🙏
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So good to read this right now, hand on belly and hand on heart breathe and let it all go down…
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Yes T. Feel it and be with it. 💕
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Love this Val 3>
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Thank you Reena 🙏
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Namaste _/!\_
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The light in me, recognizes the light in you Nancy 🙏
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Imagine if everyone practiced this…thanks, Val.
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Ahh yes Jill 💛. That would be a wonderful world 🌎
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Lovely! Thank you, Val!
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Wise, powerful, and loving! 🙏
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Thank you Dennis 🙏
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This is beautiful and so helpful, Val. Thank you.
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Thank you Roseanne. It’s a lovely practice to bring us home 💛
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Thank you Hariod 💛 I find that bringing hands to my heart and tummy, brings me to my center, so I truly feel. From here love and compassion can flow … in me and towards others. With Metta, Val
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Lovely!
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Thank you Cindy 💛
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Oh, Val, what a wonderful meditation! So many times anger gets the better of us. I have a close relative that has been angry for over four years and I wonder what it must be doing to their whole being.
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Her heart must be hurting so much…. thanks for sharing Michele 💛
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If you lead with love, you always win.
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Beautifully said Sara. Thank you 💛
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Pause. There truly is a tremendous amount of change and possibility in that.
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Thank you Colleen 💛
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Topically pertinent, Val
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Thank you Derrick 💛
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Thank you for these powerful exercises Val… May we all of us Pause for thought and breath in the peace.. ❤
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Thank you Sue 💕
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Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this Val! ❤
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Thanks Julie 💕
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Very good ways to keep our anger and resentment in check! Thanks, Val!
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Thank you Ann 💛
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Beautiful! 💕
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Thank you Karen 💛🌎🌼
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I always have to remind myself when in that irritated state ” stop, calm down” this post is very helpful. Thank you
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Every word written here is so true 💛💛💛
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I appreciate the sentiment! Thank you 💛
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Thank you for this one Val, I needed this today ❤
So very true and sometimes I forget it.
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Reblogged this on Kindness Blog.
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Reblogged this on The Militant Negro™.
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Beautiful ❤
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I did like this
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I’m glad Joanne. May it bring more peace into your life 💛
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