When we feel rising frustration and anger towards an other person, it’s time to tend to our selves, rather than act it out against the other.
Acting out our negativity only adds to the violent energy in the world. Our ego-mind may be pumped, but it doesn’t bring about resolution or peace.
Instead, bring awareness to where you are right now. Place one hand to your belly, and the other above your heart. Take a few deep breaths. Allow the breath to become fuller and let it move down into the center of your being.
Feel the warmth of your hands and the movement of the breath. Feel the connection to this tender and loving part of you.
Be present to what just occurred that was upsetting. Notice thoughts, emotions, sensations in the body, without judgment or creating a story.
Then say to yourself:
This person has a body and a mind, just like me
This person has feelings, emotions, and thoughts, just like me
This person has also felt sad, disappointed, angry and hurt, just like me
This person wishes to be free of pain and suffering, just like me
This person wishes to be accepted and loved, just like me
This person wishes to be happy, just like me.
Then allow this loving kindness (metta) meditation to arise:
May this person be happy
May this person be healthy
May this person be free of suffering and the causes of suffering
May this person live their life with ease
This practice allows me to stay heart centered and lets the negative energy release.
Being kind feels so much better about the whole situation, the other person, and myself 💕