blossoming love

When we feel rising frustration and anger towards an other person, it’s time to tend to our selves, rather than act it out against the other.

Acting out our negativity only adds to the violent energy in the world. Our ego-mind may be pumped, but it doesn’t bring about resolution or peace.


Instead, bring awareness to where you are right now. Place one hand to your belly, and the other above your heart. Take a few deep breaths. Allow the breath to become fuller and let it move down into the center of your being.

pauseFeel the warmth of your hands and the movement of the breath. Feel the connection to this tender and loving part of you.
Be present to what just occurred that was upsetting. Notice thoughts, emotions, sensations in the body, without judgment or creating a story.

Then say to yourself:

This person has a body and a mind, just like me

This person has feelings, emotions, and thoughts, just like me

This person has also felt sad, disappointed, angry and hurt, just like me

This person wishes to be free of pain and suffering, just like me 

This person wishes to be accepted and loved, just like me

This person wishes to be happy, just like me.

Then allow this loving kindness (metta) meditation to arise:

May this person be happy
May this person be healthy
May this person be free of suffering and the causes of suffering
May this person live their life with ease

This practice allows me to stay heart centered and lets the negative energy release.

Being kind feels so much better about the whole situation, the other person, and myself 💕


45 comments on “Getting over Anger with Loving Kindness

  1. Such a beautiful meditation Val – I do a similar one for compassion — but hadn’t thought to use it for anger – and I needed this today a lot!

    Thank you my friend!

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  2. Tremendous Val, and so very powerful and transformative; a sublime and noble combination of practices. Even just a few minutes each day spent sincerely developing feelings of Loving Kindness towards others will bring enormous benefits. As you know, it’s important that it isn’t just a mantra or incantation though, and must be felt, truly felt. Then the benefits come through in daily life, and in the most remarkable ways. With Mettā, Hariod.

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  3. So good to read this right now, hand on belly and hand on heart breathe and let it all go down…

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  4. Reena Davis

    Love this Val 3>

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  5. Namaste _/!\_

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  6. Imagine if everyone practiced this…thanks, Val.

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  7. Lovely! Thank you, Val!

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  8. Wise, powerful, and loving! 🙏

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  9. roseanne333

    This is beautiful and so helpful, Val. Thank you.

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  10. Thank you Hariod 💛 I find that bringing hands to my heart and tummy, brings me to my center, so I truly feel. From here love and compassion can flow … in me and towards others. With Metta, Val

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  11. Oh, Val, what a wonderful meditation! So many times anger gets the better of us. I have a close relative that has been angry for over four years and I wonder what it must be doing to their whole being.


  12. If you lead with love, you always win.

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  13. Pause. There truly is a tremendous amount of change and possibility in that.

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  14. Topically pertinent, Val

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  15. Thank you for these powerful exercises Val… May we all of us Pause for thought and breath in the peace.. ❤

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  16. Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this Val! ❤

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  17. Very good ways to keep our anger and resentment in check! Thanks, Val!

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  18. I always have to remind myself when in that irritated state ” stop, calm down” this post is very helpful. Thank you

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  19. Every word written here is so true 💛💛💛

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  20. Thank you for this one Val, I needed this today ❤
    So very true and sometimes I forget it.


  21. Mr. Militant Negro

    Reblogged this on The Militant Negro™.


  22. Beautiful ❤


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