feeling insecure
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“There is a contradiction in wanting to be perfectly secure in a universe whose very nature is momentariness and fluidity.
But the contradiction lies a little deeper than the mere conflict between the desire for security and the fact of change.

If I want to be secure, that is, protected from the flux of life, I am wanting to be separate from life. Yet it is this very sense of separateness which makes me feel insecure.
To be secure means to isolate and fortify the “I,” but it is just the feeling of being an isolated “I” which makes me feel lonely and afraid.

In other words, the more security I can get, the more I shall want.
To put it still more plainly: the desire for security and the feeling of insecurity are the same thing.

To hold your breath is to lose your breath. A society based on the quest for security is nothing but a breath-retention contest in which everyone is as taut as a drum and as purple as a beet.”

~ Alan Watts

How are your breathing right now? I’m smiling, because I was holding my breath as I read this.

When we bring awareness to our thoughts, feelings and especially our breath, we set the foundation for finding our middle ground and inner peace.

Holding our breath is a defense mechanism of the human body. It prepares us to react to a threat. However, it increases the tension and stress in the body, rather than bringing it to a state of balance.

In yoga we learn to deepen the breath when sensation increases. We breathe through tension and discomfort and allow the energy to keep flowing, rather than contracting and adding more tension.

Yoga is an invitation to become present in our bodies. We connect mind to body via our breath. It helps us relax, breathe, feel, and where possible let go.
Ultimately this helps us make more skillful, conscious choices and allows us to feel grounded and secure in life.
And it all starts with the breath.

Find out more about yoga breathing by clicking here.


27 comments on “Wanting to Feel Secure in an Insecure World

  1. Love this so much thank you for sharing!! I was listening to a lot of Alan watts earlier today oddly…this spoke to me and gave me chills! Xx

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    • Alan Watts brings chills to me too. His mind is laser sharp, his wit buoyant, and his wisdom profound. Glad you enjoyed it Chloe 💛


  2. I was nodding along with him every step of the way. So wise.

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    • I agree Nancy. He takes what we think we know, and then expands it into different corners of our mind … how we perceive things and our very being.
      Wisdom that shakes us 💛


  3. I love this Watts quote. The paradox of existence! Think of all who take advantage of that existential quaking, from fundamentalist religions to Madison Avenue. If only we could accept ‘what is,’ how much easier would we settle into our own skins? Great post, Val. Aloha ❤

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  4. Love the wit and wisdom of Alan Watts (and who ever tires of listening to him?) 🙂

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  5. This so reminds me of the realisation that nothing stays the same

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  6. Nice one👍🏼 Keep inspiring 🙂


  7. So much wise energy flowing from Alan’s words. Kilowatts of positive energy! (Sorry, just couldn’t resist!)

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  8. I really do need to breathe more!! Thanks Val!


  9. Breath work is so powerful in Yoga and on its own. Practising this, I have created so much more space within to let go and heal. Love this Val 😘


  10. Until I took my first yoga class, I never really understood how much my moods could be controlled by my breathing. Now I am able to calm myself down, or at least feel somewhat calmer, in almost any situation.

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  11. Alan Watts I love his wisdom.. As I do yours Val.. Our breath is vital learning to breathe deeper from within and let it go, always brings me peace and calm.. Thank you for always bringing me that which I need ❤ Hugs


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