resistance

In Carl Jung’s wise words “What we resist persists.” Noticing where we have resistance is a powerful practice.

I keep thinking about how I want things to be a certain way, yet it’s out of my control. And rather than letting it go and letting it be, I find my thoughts still hanging on to how things were and how I don’t want this to be happening right now.

I ask myself … Why is this happening? … How can I escape the unfairness of it?… How can I make things right?

This kind of thinking only takes me away from being present and makes me feel off balance and fearful. There’s a tightness around my heart.

And then I read this quote:

“If you are resisting something, you are feeding it. Any energy you fight, you are feeding. If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay.” ~ Michael Singer.

Whenever we push something away, we bring energy to it and it resists. The more we push, the more energy is created, and so it resists even more in order to stay.

When we push something away, we are inviting it to stay.

Well I certainly don’t want that!

fish slap wake up call

I love messages that hit me like a cold wet fish being slapped across the face.

Others might think of it as a kind of wake up call.

Hello river, here I come again.

Consider what you have been resisting that is still firmly there…. Feel the fish slap, let it go and join me in the flow once more.

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Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 30 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher, spiritual explorer and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and greater understanding within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we explore opening our hearts and finding harmony and peace in the highs and lows of life 💛

65 comments on “* Resistance Wake Up Call

  1. Live & Learn's avatar

    You, Singer…deep wisdom

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  2. Karen Lang's avatar

    Great post Val and it is exactly like a wet fish in the face, and I can say from experience, it will not go away until we address the issue ha! I say bring it on! 🙂

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  3. cindy knoke's avatar

    “River, teach me how to float….” (Peter Gabriel) Jung was wise indeed~

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  4. reocochran's avatar

    I like to face things and I can see that by fighting them off you are wasting energy. Is this like letting go? To preserve energy for something worth expressing it. Pretty deep and powerful, Val. ~Zen-like. ♡

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    • Val T Boyko's avatar

      Thank you Robin. 💛 Sometimes we resist things without knowing (like feeling unwell), other times we notice when we are fighting against something (like a change at work). Either way, when we notice, its an opportunity to let go and accept something that is out of our control. Sometimes the realization isn’t easy!

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  5. nrhatch's avatar

    Pushing the river won’t alter its flow. Here’s to allowing things to be “as they are” while we “go with the flow” and “embrace the now.”

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    • Val T Boyko's avatar

      Thanks Nancy! I know I wasn’t aware I was pushing the river, until I read this quote. Gentle reminders are often needed to ensure we haven’t run aground along the way 💛

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  6. dgkaye's avatar

    Much truth here. The Law of Attraction. 🙂

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  7. jmgoyder's avatar

    I wish I knew how but this is definitely right on!

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    • Val T Boyko's avatar

      Thank you Julie. A part of us thinks its ok to resist something unpleasant… but our resistance only adds to the suffering we already feel. That’s what I realized with this quote. Acknowledging this is the beginning towards letting it go.

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  8. Carrie Cannady's avatar

    Great one, Val. Right on time. Thank you.

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  9. Dan Antion's avatar

    Thought provoking concept to start the day Val. Thanks for that.

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  10. Jill Weatherholt's avatar

    Great thoughts here, Val. That fish photo is hilarious! 🙂

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  11. Jewels's avatar

    Interesting Val, I never thought of it that way, thanks for the new insight. 🙂
    Yep, it’s always best to go with the flow…

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  12. Hariod Brawn's avatar

    Job’s a good ‘un.

    H ❤

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  13. Virgilio Gavia's avatar

    Nice lesson for me, Val. Thanks. I think the practice of letting go and and letting be and just flow and trust that everything will turn out okay is a wise
    move.

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  14. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature's avatar
    Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

    It is what it is. I find when I fight reality, I never win. It’s ok. Right now. Thanks Val, although I am resisting the fish metaphor, haha!
    Peace
    Mary

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  15. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?'s avatar

    Feel the fish slap!!! hahahahahaha – that was greatness! I complete agree, and even with my mantras – I won’t say “I breath in courage and breath out fear” because I don’t want to even speak fears, so “I breath in courage and breath out release” LOL, it’s not always easy to come up with a counter that won’t have me feeding the wrong end!

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  16. Paul Handover's avatar

    Another pearl of wisdom! Indeed, nothing fishy about your advice! 😉

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  17. Carol's avatar
    Carol Ferenc

    Okay, Val, I want to let go and let it be so I’ll feel the fish slap . . . but I don’t think I’ll like it. 🙂 🙂 🙂 Great post!!

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  18. Eliza Waters's avatar

    Good one, Val. Cold, wet fish… love it! 😉

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  19. Sue Dreamwalker's avatar

    A great reminder of being mindful 🙂 of our thoughts 🙂 sometimes we need those wet fishes to slap us now and again LOL..

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  20. elizabeth2560's avatar

    I can relate to this and it is spot on!

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  21. Olga's avatar

    I would bake the wet fish and turn it into a positively, delightful feast. Turning something negative into something positive. Hard to do, but not impossible. Loved your post, Val.

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  22. Indira's avatar

    Wise advice, loved it.

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  23. Indira's avatar

    There are some disturbing thoughts. If i resist ,they pester me. if I don’t they are there torturing me. What to do?

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  24. IreneDesign2011's avatar

    Very wise Val, but I prefer the fish at my plate 😀

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  25. Kath Unsworth ART's avatar

    Recognising it has been the wake up call for me Val. Great post.

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  26. annabellefranklinauthor's avatar

    Wonderful and timely advice. Love the fish-slap image! 😀

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