Every human being has needs. It is part of the human condition. We were born with them and will go through most of our lives trying to get them met.
Over the years as a life coach, I have taken several courses in Non Violent Communication. In NVC, needs are acknowledged and embraced. There is a vulnerable beauty behind our needs. The essence of who we are as human beings.
When our needs are met we can fully access our humanity. Bringing compassion and kindness to ourselves and others.
There is a beauty of being human and honoring our core needs of well being, expressing ourselves and connection with others.
Needs get a bad wrap…. and they shouldn’t.
We often aren’t aware of our own needs, and it can be a powerful self-discovery to identify the ones that are most important to each of us. The needs below are grouped into categories of three core needs. Take a moment and identify what needs resonate with you personally.
Here is an exercise to explore your needs more. Take a moment and ask yourself:
What am I grateful for?
What needs are being met when I feel grateful?
Now think of a time when you were upset, possibly at work.
What needs were not being met?
In all likelihood it would be about recognition, respect and a sense of belonging.
Needs drive us and are essential for our well being. When our needs are being met it opens the door to be in connection with ourselves and with others.
We come to see there is no need to judge ourselves or others any more.
We are more able to center ourselves in our Middle Ground and handle the the highs and lows of life.
Its allows us to be our authentic loving selves, instead of being guarded and defensive.
We become free to evolve into all we can be.