I came across this old photograph (of me and my twin brother) and not longer after, found an exercise on self acceptance.
Turns out they both went well together. To find out why, please read the exercise below…. and perhaps take some time to do it for yourself.
Step One
Imagine someone you love and admire sitting opposite you. He or she is smiling at you. How do you feel about them? If this person was to make a mistake, could you, and would you forgive them?
Step Two
Using your imagination, put yourself in the chair opposite you. Imagine you are sitting there smiling back at yourself. How do you feel about her or him? Do you feel the same way about her or him as you did towards the first person, the one you love and admire, or is the feeling different? If this person made a mistake could you, or would you forgive her? Are you more forgiving of the other person?
This exercise often highlights a discrepancy between how we love and accept others, compared to ourselves.
Step Three
Find a photograph of yourself as a child, and place it where you see it everyday. Let this remind you to be loving and accepting of yourself.
This child is precious, as are you.
When I first did this exercise myself, even after the inner work I have done, there was a difference in how I perceived myself making a mistake compared to my response towards someone I love. With the person I loved, there was an surge of love and empathy and urge to understand. With myself, there was an initial slight withdrawal and contraction in the body and negative feeling before I was able to feel empathy and compassion.
Notice what you notice without any more self judgment.
Its so helpful to keep coming back to where we are on our journey…. and to remind us of our infinite capacity to grow our love. ❤️
Namaste
Lovely post, thank you! Great lesson in self acceptance.
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Thank you Michelle 💛🙏💛
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Beautiful exercise — and I couldn’t agree more on your final point – “Its so helpful to keep coming back to where we are on our journey…. and to remind us of our infinite capacity to grow our love.” ❤️
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Thank you Louise 💛🙏💛
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A lovely link between photograph and exercise
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Thank you Derrick 💛 I hope you have dried out over there!
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Windblown dried 🙂
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Such a sweet photo that would remind you every day that self acceptance is necessary. Great lesson here.
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Thank you Marlene. 💕🙏💕Remembering the little girl inside of us keeps our heart open, and the inner critic at bay.
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Beautiful. Thank you, Val. 💜🙏🏻
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Thank you dear Carrie 💛🙏💛
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Great, great post Val. Thank you for your insight.
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Thank you Michael 💕
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A beautiful powerful exercise of self love and acceptance 🙏🏼💛
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I’m guessing most people would be more forgiving towards the other person – which I find to be a wonderful testament of our ability to accept others…
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Thanks for this perspective Jim. 💛 Being externally motivated is how society runs …. being internally accepting is how society heals itself and grows.
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great way to put it Val…
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❤
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Adorable photo, Val, and a valuable lesson. Thank you.
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Thank you Jennifer 💕
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To err is human.
To forgive (ourselves) divine!
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So true. 💕
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Beautiful way!
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Thank you Rupali 🙏
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Helpful exercise, Val. Like you, there was a difference – my inner critic is still engaged, alas. The inner work is never done… 🙂
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Thank you Eliza 💛🙏💛 it is an insight isn’t it…. may we continue with learning and kindness.
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Beautiful post Val!
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Thank you Dave 💛🙏💛
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What a lovely exercise. I can completely see how it would help change perspective. A really cute photo too, Val. How sweet.
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Thank you Diana – so glad it resonated with you 🙏
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important work. thank you.
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Beautiful and informative post, Val! Thank you for the tips! ❤
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Thank you Cherie 💛
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You’re very welcome. 🙂
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I love this exercise – thank you for sharing it! If you’re not talking to yourself as you would your own family then perhaps you’re not showing yourself the compassion you should? And if you are, perhaps you’re not being as honest with yourself as you should? Food for thought. Thank you 🙏
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So glad this gave you food for thought. Thank you AP2 🙏
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Thank you, Val, for that powerful exercise. In grad school I saw the profound insights and self-acceptance
that took place for my classmates when they practiced this Gestalt “empty chair” exercise.
What an important reminder!
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Thank you so much for being here and sharing your wisdom 🙏
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