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“Our quest does not involve taking on more ways of describing. It involves removing all descriptions so that we may come home free and dwell in endless silence. Anyone who has had an experience of that silence knows that it cannot be adequately described in words. It can only be lived.

Silence cannot be manipulated. It can’t be pushed or forced. It can only be experienced as a living embodiment, as a presence that is expressing through us. We are merely its instrument.”

~ Stephen R Schwartz from “Problems are the Doors Through which we Find Peace”


I am reacquainting myself with the writing of Stephen R Schwartz and his work on being compassionate towards our own anger, guilt and pain. When we turn with love towards these feelings, instead of condemning them, hiding them or resisting them, we open the door towards healing the wounds from the past.

When we look at these feelings honestly we discover that beneath them is a yearning and longing for acceptance and love.

On the path to awakening, our heart must open to all aspects of ourselves in order to find the peace we are all longing for.

This is the most important step for us all on our quest for silence.

Without self compassion and kindness, peace cannot survive.


About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

31 comments on “Quest for Silence

  1. Silence is so rare these days.

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  2. thank you for this.

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  3. So good Val, thank you for this ❤

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  4. It can only be lived. Yes Val. Right there…

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  5. Beautiful! It really is difficult for me to come to peace with my own anger and frustration. Trying to see it, not “become” it, and not condemning it. That is my practice. Thank you for this reminder!

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  6. So true. Thank you for this post.

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  7. Such a beautiful truth Val. The practice is up to us and the reward is silence and peace 🙏🏻🌈

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  8. Silence can reveal so much. Probably why so few embrace it. 😉

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  9. marandarussell

    Silence can be quite healing.


  10. Silence = bliss!

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  11. Lovely, Val, especially the conclusion at the end. Peace ❤

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  12. And silence has long been my teacher. Mindful of everything, trying not to judge what comes that seems unsavory, then unshackling myself, bit by bit. It’s hard sometimes to remember how much pain I was in. But I must in order to understand the motivations of many on the planet right now. I am so blessed to have emerged from that utter darkness. ❤

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  13. Thank you for this truth. The more we can learn to love ourselves, the more we will be able to love others just as they are instead of how we want them to be.

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  14. A very beautiful post and I agree with the fact that silence is all-absorbing. I was lost in the imagination. Great job! 🙌🙌
    My recent post is about silence as well and I mentioned how silence has weightage. I’d be obliged to know your views. Do visit at: http://thesoultalks10.com/silence-has-its-own-way-of-communicating-find-it-out/

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