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The Difference Between Restless and Resting


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‘I know’ is the restless place for all beings.

‘I don’t know’ is the resting place for all beings.*

~ Mooji


The need to hold on to “knowing” keeps many of us from finding peace. We think knowing  is the answer, but it creates more restlessness.

It can become a never-ending quest for control and security. We create stories about this state to make it okay. We call it our personality or human nature.

It can appear as worrying about things beyond our control. For example: holding on to being right, trying to change others into our way of thinking and acting, striving to be perfect, looking for answers to problems that only exist in our mind, staying awake at night wondering what would make us happy …

Over time is becomes a habit that keeps feeding the insecure ego mind. The need to know increases fear and uncertainty.

Contentment comes from embracing the not knowing. It isn’t a simple or an easy transformation to make. Yet, when we accept that we don’t know and make room for it in all areas of our life, we create space for peace.

In surrendering to reality we find the freedom to be at rest with life.



* Mooji. White Fire: Spiritual insights and teachings of advaita zen master Mooji (Kindle Locations 3306-3307). Mooji Media Publications. Kindle Edition.

About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

31 comments on “The Difference Between Restless and Resting

  1. The longer I live Val, I see myself surrendering more and more to not knowing.. Allowing what will be to be.. Its hard, at times, as we have preconceived ideas of how we should live and be.. But then I have to step back and think we are changing. Changing as a society, as a species and our Earth Mother herself is changing as she shapes herself into her own new role..
    What I am seeing more and more Val, is how society instead of moving forward, I see how we hang onto the Old..
    I see so much of what is being presented in our UK politics right now, we are going back to the policies of those who were in power in the 70’s being promised to capture the voting public..
    I found myself getting too, getting caught up in this ‘Restlessness’
    And instead, took myself out of it, to REST.. 🙂 and sure enough detachment so eases the Spirit..
    When you begin to understand, that what will be will be.. And there are no right or wrong roads, just experiences.. But again, to our human mind this is often difficult to comprehend when one sees suffering
    So I Live for the Now and keep going within the flow.. As I give thanks for the gifts given..
    Love and Blessings dear Val..
    Wishing you a perfect weekend..
    Sue ❤ ❤ 🙂

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    • Thank you for your kind and wise reflections Sue. There is clinging to the old happening everywhere. Here in the US, it goes back to the 1950’s where there was isolationism, anti communism and a Cold War to focus on.
      Like waves, we can’t help to move forward. Some waves will feel good, and then there will the ebb beyond it. Going with the flow, and trusting in the unknown seems to be a place I want to stay in. Right now, I too am a visitor the 😊💕🙏
      Have a great weekend Sue!

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  2. Or as Alan Watts called it, The Wisdom of Insecurity. H ❤

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  3. How refreshing the whinny of a pack horse fully unloaded! ~ Classic Haiku

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  4. Val, thank you for your loving words following the death of Pharaoh. You and so many others wrote such beautiful tributes.

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  5. It seems like a paradox, doesn’t it? But so true, Val. I like not knowing, but sometimes I don’t realize that I don’t know until I know a little more. Then there’s the aha moment and relief as the bigger picture of unknowing takes shape. Does that all make sense? Ha ha.

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    • It can be a conundrum too Diana. Hariod shared a link from Alan Watts about this is an earlier comment. I’m going to check our his perspective … and may or may not have more insight about it 😉

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  6. So true, and inspiring! ThanQ Val. Peace and Blessings. Tara

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  7. Humbling and wise post, Val. So true, that ol’ ego tries really hard! ❤

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  8. Thanks Val! I needed this post today.

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  9. Great post, Val. Trying to know all of the answers is a straight path to exhaustion. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. 🙂

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    • Hhmmm … in yoga, ignorance is the opposite of bliss. When we hold on to our ignorance and don’t open our eyes to what is new and unfolding, we stay stuck in habit. Bliss comes when we recognize our ignorance and open our mind and spirit to see more and let the unknown reveal itself.
      It’s so interesting when we look at phrases we have used in different contexts.
      Thank you Jill for your warm presence here 💛

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  10. I have found increasing peace with staying in the not knowing more and more. You hooked me to the post with the first 2 lines by Mooji and I loved your words that followed.

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  11. I love this distinction, Val. The difference between rest and restlessness. There is much to gained in the space of “I don’t know.” Thank for this wonderful and very powerful reminder for us all…especially now. 💕

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  13. Woahh man!! Brilliant peace of writing. This blog is 💯💯💯❤.please visit my too it will be my pleasure that gr8 bloggers you visiting. But still dude you rock. 🙇🙇🙇🔥

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  14. Mary Lou

    “Create space for peace” ❤ This goes along with the liminal space awareness I've been gathering recently. Thanks, Val!

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  15. Very true, I have often insisted on wanting to know things and the more the insistence catches up with me the more i shiver, shrink and shake.
    When i have not bothered, my emotions didn’t bother either.


  16. It has not been said better Val. excellent post


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