Being present is the ability to be completely in the moment and flexible enough to handle the unexpected.

be present at work

~ Take a moment to consider how useful this can be in every day life:

When you are driving; playing golf or tennis; walking the dog; preparing food; or looking after a toddler. When we are present we are focused and alert.

~ And how useful at work:

When you are under pressure; about to make a presentation; giving feedback in a performance review; receiving feedback; when you notice you arenโ€™t getting things done because you canโ€™t focus; when dealing with conflict; when you need to make an important decision.

When we learn to come in to the present moment, we can overcome fear and become focused, alert and be our best.

being present is a present

Being present not only benefits us, but others too.

When you face and overcome fear you build confidence in yourself. Confident people are attractive. People are drawn to you โ€“ bosses, peers and those you lead. You can be relied on to do a good job. You build trust.

Being focused and ready also inspires confidence within others. You become a role model for others to be their best.

The advantages of being present are obvious. We are at our best when we are fully in the moment.

But why is it so difficult to get here?

There are many reasons, but most of all its because the โ€œmomentโ€ keeps changing. Our world is always in motion, and with todayโ€™s technology everything is speeded up. Everyone is trying to do several things at once, yet no one thing gets our full attention. This frantic activity exacerbates the underlying problem โ€“ how we react to our own feelings of fear.

In one form or the other, ย fear is what keeps us from being present.

fearful turtle

When we feel fear it isnโ€™t the feeling itself that keeps us from being present but the thoughts that we attach to the fear that create problems.

There are two human responses to fear:

  1. Fight or Flight Response.

One of the biggest obstacles to being present is the adrenaline rush that comes when we humans face a threat. Our body goes into hyper-drive as we prepare to attack or run away at great speed. When the physical threat is real it can save our lives. But this same response is triggered by our pressure packed high stakes days, key meetings, and often the commute itself!

  1. Our Inner Critic.

Most people describe their inner critic as a voice or voices in their heads that constantly evaluate their behavior. It is every personโ€™s Achilles Heel. The inner critic is a contracting diminishing voice. As it grows louder, we become smaller, weaker and less open. The inner voice can be so powerful that it prevents many people from ever trying.

Even the most confident of people have an inner critic.

To find out more about the practice of being present, please click on this page.

Part 2 of this post will look at the 4 practical ways to become more present and mindful in our daily lives.

 

*Note: This post was inspired and adapted from “Leadership Presence” by Belle Linda Halper and Kathy Lubar.

32 comments on “* Being Present at Work

  1. I’m so glad I was present here today, Val! โค

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  2. Living in the Moment is my Motto in Retirement, but needless to say, it doesn’t always happen quite as I expect.

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  3. The volume of distractions does interfere with this, but it’s still worth the effort to get there.

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    • Yes indeed Dan. Taking control of our own time isn’t easy when there is so much coming at us and demanding attention. Something as simple as turning off email and closing the door can give us enough space to become focused and present.
      xo

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  4. “The inner voice can be so powerful that it prevents many people from ever trying.” This is so true, Val. Thanks for a wonderful post!

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  5. It might take decades of practice, but we can all silence that inner critic, manage the adrenaline, and get to that place of ‘living in the present’. Great post, Val. ๐Ÿ’•

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  6. A tremendous article Val, and I look forward to reading Part Two in due course. Fear is such a ubiquitous and pernicious phenomenon it seems, and yet we rarely appreciate just how ubiquitously it runs within us. I think that is one of the great potential rewards – and challenges – of meditation/yoga, because to develop as a meditator we have to confront fear at some point. Perhaps this point may not arrive until we find ourselves standing above a chasm of emptiness – the complete stilling of mentation – but it will indeed arrive. In the meantime, and as you so clearly explain, we can learn to attend to our own presence rather than to the projections we make in mind, and overcome our more overt fears in that way. Many thanks! H โค

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    • Thank you for your kind and gracious words Hariod? It means a lot ๐Ÿ’›
      The biggest challenge is when we face ourselves and our inherent vulnerability. Meditation and mindful yoga brings us right there with a sense of curiosity and compassion.
      In the work place, it’s harder to bring attention inwards as everything is so outer focused and reactive to demands. The first step is the recognize that beneath most challenges at work is usually a vulnerable part of ourselves that is fearful.
      xo

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  7. Really liked this posting. It was so helpful.

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  8. More and more often, I am HERE and it is NOW ~> when cooking, washing my hands, eating, brushing my teeth, listening to music, or riding a bike. If I see my thoughts drift into the past or future, I bring myself back by breathing with full awareness.

    Being present in the present is a present!

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    • Love your words Nancy! I am so grateful to be in an environment that supports this every day. … And with peeps like you who get it โค๏ธ

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  9. Thank you so much, Val, for this great post. It is an art to live in the present, and I continue this pursuit. I never thought of fear as keeping us from the present, but it makes perfect sense.

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  10. suzicate

    The Inner Critic can be a real beast! Sometimes we are own own worst enemy.

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    • The critic is only one voice that shouts the loudest. It’s the one that reacts to things outside its comfort zone. It isn’t the truth … Yet we have grown to think it is.
      Thank you for being here Suzi ๐Ÿ’›

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  11. Well this got my attention! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  12. Thankyou for my present Val. I love being in presence! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  13. Carol Ferenc

    Yes, that inner critic can cause havoc. Thanks for the inspiration and wise words, Val.

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  14. Val, I try to wash away hurts and self doubts. If I center myself and am present, each moment (outside of work, sorry warehouse is only area of my life that I “wish away!”) is worth the time. There are many hours a week I enjoy and pursue awareness and “being present.” ๐Ÿ™‚ Your posts are a gift and share meaningful messages, Val.

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