When you notice your body and brain are no longer cooperating and you are looking blankly at a blank screen … What do you do?
When you notice that your mind is full of thoughts that jump from re-visiting the past and becoming anxious about the future … What do you do?
When you find yourself getting triggered easily and lashing out at others … what do you do?
Most of us have coping strategies that have become habits over time. These become our “go to” behaviors to deal with stress.
I know a number of people who will keep going, and push through. Telling themselves this is what is needed and there is no choice. Until they start to become ill and chronically fatigued from stress.
The following tips are inspired by the restorative yoga classes I teach, and my own ways to unwind and de-stress. They work, whether you need a time out at work, or a break from conflicting emotions, or are just plain exhausted.
When we are drained and depleted we disconnect from our inner sense of being. We are so much in our heads we have lost connection with our body and spirit. The key to bring this connection back is to use our breath to come back to our body and ourselves.
Mini Mindful Moments like these are quick and simple. Pharmaceutical companies and purveyors of alcohol might deliver a different message at this point, but these tips are inspired by yoga. They are free and don’t take much time!
Try any one of the following strategies and see which work best for you. Make them a regular practice whenever you find yourself feeling stressed and tense.
1. Let out a big sigh! As soon as you notice you are stressed and tense, there is something ready to be released. Very often I don’t realize how tense I am until I sigh. Its has an immediate affect. Take a big breath in through the nose and let it out with a sigh. Take as many as feels good to you, and let the weight fall off those shoulders.
2. Take several deep breaths, allowing yourself to feel fresh energy entering your body and stale energy being released. “I renew with each inhale. I release with each inhale.” If you can, try adding some movement with your breath by moving your arms out and up on the inhale and then down on the exhale.
3. Close your eyes and focus on your body. Scan parts of your body in your mind. Notice where there is contraction and some tension. As you notice it, imagine sending your breath there and let the area soften. Breathe into each tense area and be mindful of the relaxation taking place.
4. Stretch. Standing tall reach for the sky and come on to your toes. Breath fully all the way into your belly. Release your heels back down on an exhale and repeat as often as it feels good.
5. Place both hands just above your heart. This stimulates a mammalian parent response, and brings comfort. Soften the tops of your shoulders and let your belly become soft. Breathe into the warmth around your heart. Feel the soothing nature of this compassionate touch.
6. Put your feet up – literally. Try moving to a wall and then raising your legs and resting them on the wall. Make yourself comfortable with a pillow under your neck. You can also lie on the floor and bring your legs over a chair and rest there.
7. Smell a favorite smell. It can be useful to carry an essential oil or scent with you. Experiment with a citrus scent, lavender, or mint to see what feels most refreshing.
8. Dim the lights and light a candle. Gives your eyes a rest from the screen or wherever you’ve been focusing. Let the soft light and flicker soothe you.
9. Lie down in a gentle back bend, with a pillow under your back and a blanket or pillow supporting your head. Allow your shoulders to relax. Feel your ribs and the space around your heart gently opening as you inhale and relax as you exhale. Rest here for several breaths.
10. Feel the ground. Take your shoes off. Notice the four corners of each foot and then wiggle your toes for a moment. Notice how your feet are making contact with the ground and imagine sending down roots through the soles of your feet and deep into the earth. As you inhale, imagine drawing up strength and nourishment through these roots and into your whole body.
I hope you enjoy these mindful moments to nourish and replenish.
I love restorative yoga Val. Your strategies are perfect for stress and to balance our energy. Thankyou 🙂
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Thanks Karen! May you have a nourishing day 🙂
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when i worked
used to love putting
my feet up the wall
while laying on the desk.
thanks for bringing back
joyful memories, Val 🙂
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Legs up the wall is one of the best David 🙂
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Hello Val,
Thank you for taking the time to sit down and write out these ten simple steps for helping me to find my middle ground. Though they are simple, they are powerful.
Smiles of thanks!
♡eM
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Thank you eM …. sigh 💛 xo
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I just tried the inhale and exhale sigh and the hands above the heart is amazing Val! ❤
Diana xo
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Hands above the heart touches us deeply and is really nurturing. So glad you felt it. Now you know what to do Diana .. ❤️
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They felt good just reading them!!! 🙂
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… and now experiment and practice. Knowing only takes you half way there Colleen. 💛
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Thank you for sharing this list, Val. I love to sigh. 🙂
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Sighing is my first go-to Jill. Next time notice it and add something else from the list to shift the energy even more 💛
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These practices all sound marvellous, and I find that silently saying the word ‘peace’ is a good one too Val. H ❤
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Saying ‘peace’ is a lovely mantra meditation Hariod. Try legs up the wall too and you may surprise yourself with how this shifts energy as well as mind perspective 🙏
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I love the simplicity of these steps. There are some that I practice, but thank you for giving me more. Such a good practical post. Thank you Val.
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Thank you Don! Practical makes for doable change 😉
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great advice that I often forget when I am stressed.
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Thank you Amy. That’s why I have a list! So I can remind myself too ☺️
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Great tips for grounding ourselves, Val! Be Here Now.
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Be here now … and make a place you’d want to stay in 😎
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I was just talking to a client last night about breathing exercises. How fortuitous to have this available today. I shall send it along. Blessings, my friend.
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Our breath is the connector to it all. Thank you Noelle. xo
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This is a great list, Val and am making a copy to keep nearby for those crazy times.
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Great idea Joan! Thanks so much 💛
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I take a time out for a “tune in”.
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I like that Suzi. Keep tuning in 💛
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Great list – it is amazing how just taking a good deep breath can make a big difference!
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Thanks Eliza! Deep breaths are the key to connecting the mind to body and inner being. We tend to live in our heads and forget how important from the neck down is for our well being.
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Indeed! 🙂
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This is so useful, I’m glad I found your blog. It creates an awareness of space and mood.
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Thank you Maria. Its lovely to have your presence here. 🙂
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Love #10….
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It’s even better if you can stand on grass!
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True!
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Great tips Val, some of them new to me. I too love the last one. Thank you!
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Hi Val, I love these tips! I attend yoga regularly and it’s has really saved me. I feel healthier and less stressed. Mindfulness is something I’m really trying to be better at.
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Good for you Lisa! Yoga saved my life too when my previous marriage ended and we divorced. I think it had kept me sane for a long time before that too! My lawyer was actually a fellow yogini. It was meant to be 🙂
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Love all these wonderful tips, Val.
Sigh….
😉
❤
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Thanks Julie! My favorite – “Take a big breath in through the nose and sigh let it out. Letting go breath.”
Now that feels better 🙂
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