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Acceptance of ‘what is’ can be the hardest part of the journey.

Doubts, flaws, mistakes and self absorption are part and parcel of life. Yet, how easy to forget, especially in those times when they overwhelm us and highjack our thinking.

Wishing for things to be different, creates anxiety about whether we have made the right choice, and sets the mind into a spinning spiral of ‘what if’s’ and ‘if only’s’. It can keep us there for hours, days or a whole lifetime.

We become acutely aware of what is missing and what is wrong. Like a dark cloud across the sun. In our mind we hold that cloud there and push it back towards the sun. We create our own darkness and confusion.

Only when we realize that clouds pass, that the sun is always there, no matter how cloudy the day or how dark the night. Only when we see the bigger picture, can we break free and open once again to acceptance and love.





About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

12 comments on “Wishing for Things to be Different

  1. That’s really what it is until when one realises.
    I only wish for everyone to get the chance to realise it some day.
    Have a nice day Val


  2. I would like to remember what it is we easily forget when those doubts creep in. Thank you Val.


  3. A vital reminder. Thanks.

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  4. This is particularly beautiful encouragement, Val. Thank you.


  5. “…when they overwhelm us and highjack our thinking..” Yes, I so know this…


  6. Flowing with the dharma is a daily practice around here. Aloha, Val. 🙏💕

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  7. Such a good post Val. And so very true that we do create our own darkness and confusion. Been there many times.


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