When we are impatient, we think that we are making things happen more quickly. We want what we want, and don’t want to wait.
And at that moment, we let our impatience hold up everything. By trying to control the world around us, we prevent its unfolding.
When we are patient, we are present and accepting of reality.
When we are impatient, we are no longer present and are resisting reality. Resistance brings tension in our minds and bodies, as well as stress into our lives and the world around us. It is our thinking that creates the more stress and anxiety.
Looking at impatience in this way, its clear that the cost is high.
Perhaps it is time to take up a Patience Practice. Things to consider: Choose the longest line at the grocery store or at the traffic lights; Contact a slower, more thorough colleague to support you at work; Let someone else drive; Listen fully when someone complains; Take a Yin Yoga class; Take the time to breath fully whenever an impatient thought appears; Search for a four leaved clover … and get lucky .
Perhaps patience is a thinking problem, like anxiety.
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Impatience is definitely generated by our thoughts … just as worry and anxiety are. When we become aware of our thoughts, we can step back and see them, take a deep breath and choose a different point of view. 💛
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Thank you for this post, Val 🙂
I do need more patience with my own health, which I feel is difficult to manage. I would like the improvements to go a little more fast.
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It’s funny how we can be more patient with other’s health than our own. Please give yourself permission to go slowly and nurture yourself Irene. Let your wellbeing unfold in its own way. 💛🙏💛
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I really do my best and do also improve, just not as fast, as I could wish for. Thank you Val ❤
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Love this one! I have actually been trying this and it feels really great. I feel like I’m doing more too. Don’t have to go back and fix things because I was rushing or forget something in the process of doing my daily tasks. Thanks again Val!
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Glad you are enjoying this MsC. Keep up the good (slow) work 💛
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Wise words.
I think impatience arises because our modern self is so busy trying to fit too much in the day.
We are constantly clock-watching worrying about our busy schedule and we don’t take the time to pause, accept what is, and look around us OR give our minds that time to wind down and de-stress.
It’s all about where we’re going, instead of where we are.
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I agree Vicki. There is so much more demand in our lives as communication and expectations have speeded up. 💛
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I love your invitation, Val. Slowing down raises the ability to notice more about what’s going on, so cultivates mindfulness. That’s enough to let us discover excellent things we might otherwise have missed and also enriches our life experience.
Thanks!
Vincent
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So true. Thank you Vincent for sharing your wisdom here 💕
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Perfectly said! 🙂 I love long lines now and slow traffic, even people who cut in front of me. I chat with people in long lines, enjoy the view more when going slower and people who cut me off often slow me down if I’m driving too fast and there is a cop ahead. It happens more often than not. I’ve had them do it only to find a herd of elk on the road or an accident. I am crazy laid back these days. 😉
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Crazy laid back? Love it Marlene 💛
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Good thoughts, Val. I enjoy life in the slow lane so impatience is rarely an issue.
Being impatient with the here and now adds to our suffering. Learning to go with the flow and allow life to unfold without futile attempts to push the stream pays big dividends.
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Thanks Nancy! Living on a paradise island helps quite a bit 💛
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And breeeeathe, I hear it is a savior of a stressed mind 😀
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Absolutely Mark! Thank you 💛
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Good one
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Glad you liked it Derrick 💛
Of course, you have learned a lot by living near the New Forest 😎
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🙂
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Yep! Impatience quickly equals unhappiness, because mostly we’re trying to control things that are far beyond our control. I try to remember that when I feel myself getting impatient.
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Thanks for adding to the conversation Ann 💛
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This is so important to remember, Val. I had noticed only yesterday how my impatience over writing was creating anxiety. I woke up this morning and decided to take things slower and let time and opportunity take its natural course. I feel much freer now!
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When we realize, we can release some of that tension and anxiety. Enjoy the unfolding in this new space Jennifer 😎
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Lately I’ve been finding myself “caught up” and getting ungrounded. Time to slow down and trust again in Divine timing! Good to remember – it’s not for me to decide! Thanks!
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Your Patience Practice suggestions are a tall order!
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Baby steps. Try one and see what happens 😎
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Smiling. Yes…
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Ah!!! So counterintuitive, Val, but SO TRUE!! I have to be honest and tell you that I have not always been known for my patience (haha…anyone who knows me will be laughing at this) Just the other day I found myself involved in something that I COULD have put the brakes on my impatience and everything probably would have turned out better. And the worst part is THAT I KNEW IT DURING THAT TIME!!! But I just couldn’t control the part of me that wants to control everything…that wants…believes…that something SHOULD go a certain way. And I also knew, deep down, that if I could just get in that moment….and STOP the urgency I was feeling…that it would have gone the way I wanted it to. Ah…lessons learned. There is so much to work on 🙂
Sweet blessings, Val ❤
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I came across a situation the other day as I asked what was this teaching me.. And it was Patience.. I thought I had an abundance, but it showed me I had yet to learn to practice some more.. 😀
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