In an earlier post about Stephen Hawking’s Universal Law of Growth we discovered that growing is a natural law that everything in nature must do. We cannot NOT grow.
Yet for many of us, personal growth can be a real challenge. Why is that?
Growth never happens in the comfortable.
As long as we perceive a “comfort zone” our ego-mind will be alert to anything that takes us out of it, and therefore into risky and vulnerable territory.
So how can we make growth easier?
Here are some perspectives that have helped me and my clients over the years.
- Embrace the idea that growth is natural. Knowing that, is reassuring.
- Expect resistance to show up and be ready for some discomfort. This is natural too. There is nothing wrong with you.
- We have the ability to create the environment for us to be successful. For example, if we commit to taking better care of our bodies, then we can sign up for yoga classes; download a fitness app; stop going down the cookie aisle; set our sneakers next to our bed in the morning etc…. Keep exploring and be curious about what works best for you.
- Find a healthy stretch not a torturous unrealistic one. Let go of being someone who you are not! Let me repeat that. Stop resisting who you think you are. Accept yourself as this glorious flawed human being. Find your own growing edge and start working from there – step by simple step.
- Align any changes with what really matters. Give it real meaning – from your heart and soul. Real growth never comes from a “should” or fear of consequences. Without inspiration change cannot thrive.
- Make space. You can’t keep adding to your knowledge without creating space for the new. Which often means letting go of what no longer supports you. Be prepared to let go … of many things including your own beliefs.
Spring is the natural time of year for growth and applying these principles. If you really want to grow, tune in to yourself and the word around you.
This is such a great post, Val. I love your list. ❤
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Thanks so much Mary. Its a list built over time and plenty of experience 💛
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Especially your beliefs Thank you, Val, this is very helpful
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Thank VS. So glad you found it helpful 💛
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So true.
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Thank you Kate 💛
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“Let go of being someone who you are not.” — I like that one, Val. Perhaps the tricky thing is avoiding becoming someone else, someone who ‘lets go’ of things philosophically, and attaches to being that. Can we let go of one thing without grasping at another? H ❤
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Thank you Hariod 💛
Love that question. I believe we can, if there’s a soft place to land. Like a trapeze artist. We may think we have to keep the momentum going, but we can also choose to surrender and get off those pendulum highs and lows!
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I love this! Loving ourselves is something we forget to do in a rush to meet up with society’s standards. it’s nice to sit back and be still.
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Time for self nourishment is always a good thins Jess. Thank you for visiting here 💛
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“Accept yourself as this glorious flawed human being.” Every day! 😉 Thanks, Val!
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Smiling … yes Karen 🙏
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Fantastic post, Val; you speak with clarity and wisdom and offer great insight. Beautiful time of year to assure us that growth is a wonderful and natural phenomenon. 🙂
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Thank you Jet for your clear kind words and support. 💕
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Such an important message, Val. Thank you for a breath of fresh air and the promise of change on this cold, snowy day (my husband just announced a measurement of 14″ on the ground).
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Thanks Lori for you kind words.
Eek … May the sun melt it away today! I expect the dogs are having fun though 😉
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Great reminders, Val! 💕
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Thank you Carrie. 💕💝
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Wonderful wisdom dear Val.. Yes if we do not allow and make Space, we will be confined and find ourselves restricted.. Growth means clearing out, letting go, in order to allow for the New in our lives to come in..
If I did not clear out the weeds from autumns and winters growth there would be no room to plant new seeds..
So too we need to allow our Minds to de-clutter and at the same time open our hearts to allow that love and Light to enter..
Beautiful thoughts.. And wishing you a Happy Weekend.. Love and Blessings Sue ❤ ❤ xxx
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Beautifully expressed Sue. I do love how you bring the wisdom back to Mother Earth and the gifts of Nature. Happy planting of seed to you 💛
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❤ Thank you dear Val xxx
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Love your list here, Val, especially #6. Making space for new growth is essential. 🙂 xx
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Thank you Sylvia. 💛 It can’t work without #6.
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“Be prepared to let go.” So true. Loved this, Val. Thank you! ❤
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So glad you enjoyed this Jill. Thank you being here 💛
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Good tips!
Growth requires that we expand our boundaries, step out of our comfort zone, and explore new vistas ~ we are not intended to hang on to the shoreline for the duration of our visit.
There’s a time for letting go.
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Wise words Nancy. Thank you! 💛
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This is a very powerful list — one that can take a lifetime to work and evolve into and embrace.
PS — btw — I tried clicking on the link from my gmail where your emails automatically come — and it kept giving me ‘not found’ messages.
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Thank you for your kind words Louise!
… and also for for letting me know. I amended it and re-posted it a few minutes later, so the original wouldn’t be there.
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If we can bring back that curiosity we had as a child, then we can begin to live our lives with adventure instead of fear. Wonderful post, Val
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What a wonderful perspective Michele! Connecting to our inner child and the curiosity and exploration that is a natural part of growing.
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First, love the photo 😉 “Find your own growing edge.” Good advice on a planet of contrast where adversity is best embraced. 😉 xo
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So true Bela. Many peeps want to be like others … when the secret is to grow to be more like themselves. Thank you 💛
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YES! I love this list, Val. #5 is my favorite. Being sure that the choice to move with the process of growth comes from us on a deep, soul level, not from superficial ego fears and external forces. Inspiration and meaning is absolutely key! Thank you 💜
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So glad you enjoyed it Kayla. May your soul continue to guide you on this journey 💛
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Make Space. Make Space. Let Go. Let Go.
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Now that’s a mantra to live by David. 💛One for the eternal post-it note reminders!
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Ah, yes, the letting go… 😉
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Agreed ….. Eliza. 💛 It’s always worth a reminder.
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Beautiful Val. Filled with wisdom. 🙂
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Thank you Karen. I appreciate your kind words. 💛💙💜
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Thank you for sharing your wisdom Val, so very inspirational 🙂
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Thank you Irene. I’m glad you were inspired. 💛
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I use to be inspired, when I visit your blog, Val ❤
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This is so refreshing to read! Thanks Val you are an incredible writer
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I need to hang this blog post somewhere to review. My soul nature is of course doing exactly what you are saying. My mind is like “What!!!?? that makes no sense”. Of course, it doesn’t make sense to my sweet, well meaning, production orientated mind. My soul has had more say as I created a website and write about my intuitive experiences https://unbreakablejoy.wordpress.com/. No pressure on the blog. It just highlights my spirit’s constant guidance. Reading your post…I understand what she (my spirit) is doing. Thanks!
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Thank you Julia, for sharing your insight and experience here. I’m glad you enjoyed this post 💛
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