* Quick Relationship Tip

doggie butt

Don’t put your “but” in the face of an angry person.

Angry people are in a triggered reactive state.

The ability to listen or think logically diminishes with the rise of ย strong emotions.

The animal or limbic brain takes over control from the reasoning pre-frontal cortex.

Evidence also shows that when we grip our jaw, we are less able to listen through our ears.

Be careful of those buts.

Wait until the person has calmed down before trying to use reason.



36 thoughts on “* Quick Relationship Tip

  1. Wonderful, fabulous advice. Thinking very hard before acting, that really means speaking, is crucial. In turn, that means knowing ourselves sufficiently well to know our sensitivities, our ‘hot spots’. Our journey inwards never ceases!

    Well done, Val!

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  2. Love the photo, and the ‘get your butt out of it’ angle of this post Val.

    In my experience, having had to work with many angry people, it’s never about trying to get someone to hear ‘reason’. when angry, loving compassion works — but you need to be very practiced in its flow.

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  3. Once, when trapped on an elevator in the courthouse with a VERY ANGRY person who was spewing venom at a judge who had just ruled against him while his “sister” nodded along . . . I broke the tension by grinning and saying:

    “You said the F-word.”

    He stopped his tirade, turned to stare at me, and then burst out laughing! It was great. The ticking time bomb of ANGER was diffused with humor.

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