Tension and Being Authentic

“Tension is inevitable when we live a lie and try to appear different from how we actually are. We don’t want to appear vulnerable or needy. We don’t trust that we are fundamentally enough as we are, even with our struggles and shortcomings….
We unknowingly adopt a mask and mistake it for our real face, assuming that our chronically tense and armored body is natural.
It is normal, perhaps, but not natural”

~ John J Prendergast. Taken from “In Touch”

Most of us assume that tension is normal. When we recognize it, we also know that releasing it makes us feel better. Perhaps we go for a massage or attend a restorative yoga class. We feel better afterwards. Β Yet the tension always comes back.

What if the tension we feel is more than the everyday stressors of a busy demanding life, a bad boss or sitting too long at the computer?
What if taking time to understand and connect to our body opens up new meaning about our relationship with it, and gives us a deeper knowing?

In John Prendergast’s book “In Touch” he explores the wisdom and intelligence of the body and how we can literally feel authenticity in ourselves and others. I am a big fan of his work and how he guides people to a place of inner knowing and attunement with their body, mind and spirit.

Next time, you notice tension. Ask yourself “Am I being true to myself or could I be wearing a mask?”
There may be more work to be done than an occasional massages and yoga class.
Getting to know and understand the intelligence of our body, releasing the tension, and relieving stress every day is the best gift you can give yourself for living authentically and being well.


21 thoughts on “Tension and Being Authentic

  1. Thanks Val, I found the Feldenkrais Method was very good for discovering tensions in myself that I didn’t realise I was holding. Well, that and conventional body mindfulness, of course. H ❀


  2. beautiful and inspirational as always! thankyou! i started feeling the difference when i took off the mask. its not easy to do but it changes everything! the energy that was consumed to maintain that persona before is now put to more productive and healthy things and i have more energy to spend and good things because now most of it is saved from wasting to maintain that false persona! πŸ™‚


  3. I think there is a series of blog posts here Val! It’s such a wide subject. Something I have been identifying in my life recently is the tension that arises through cognitive dissonance. In my case, (trying to) believe or being required to believe certain religious doctrines while knowing deep down that I just do not believe them any longer. The relief in acknowledging that and walking away is incredibly liberating. Thanks for your article.

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