Compassion and Connection – Just like me

just like me

When you find yourself judging, blaming, criticizing, resenting, or being frustrated and annoyed with an other person … here are some phrases to bring to mind.

“This person in front of me has a body and a mind… Just like me.
This person in front of me has feelings, emotions and thoughts… Just like me.
This person in front of me has in his or her life, experienced physical and emotional pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be free from pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be healthy and loved… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be happy… Just like me.”*

All people have similar needs, wants and desires. Fundamentally we act in order to protect ourselves and what we believe matters to us.
We all wish to be happy.
Others may go about it differently, to what we would want for ourselves.

Yet who are we to judge…. Our thoughts tell us that our way is the right way, but that is the small ego mind trying to stay in charge.

When we remind ourselves, that other people are just like us, we can pause and come from understanding instead of a righteous ego.

May we all find more acceptance and understanding in challenging times with difficult people.



* Taken from Search Inside Yourself by Chade-Meng Tan

66 thoughts on “Compassion and Connection – Just like me

  1. This is so true. It’s easy for us to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt and make excuses for our actions, but we are so seldom willing to do the same for others. Great post, very insightful. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. It was a good share! Can’t help but reblogged to my post to serve as a constant reminder to myself. If more people read and practice this, the world will definitely become a better place. =)

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  3. Well, this is all well and good unless you see this person considering their needs above others who they have brought into the world. Judgement is not all bad. It just is. Especially when the young and vulnerable are at parents’ hands who care more about themselves than their offspring.

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    • It is so sad when a parent is incapable of loving unconditionally. It took me a long time to let go of my own anger and forgive my mother for being a narcassist. She did as good a job as she was able. I am grateful to be here.
      I am gratefu that you are here Jan 💕

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  4. Great reminders. I have often reminded myself during interactions that ‘they’ are seeing things from an entirely different perspective, but with feelings that I would likely understand if I had the insight to them.

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  6. So many excellent reminders here Val, and we need to remember that these annoying people are put in our paths to bring us a message. So many times I find they bring us to question and look deeper at ourselves..
    And I know I have lots of annoying habits xxx 🙂

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