Find Your Middle Ground

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* We are Not our Thinking

“Thinking is something you watch the mind do. You are just there, aware that you are aware. You are the indwelling being, the consciousness. Its not something you have to think about. You are it. You can watch the mind being neurotic and not get involved. This is all you have to do to unplug the disturbed mind.”

~ Michael A. Singer from The Untethered Soul

We are not the thinking mind, we are aware of the thinking mind.

Awareness itself.

When we embrace this discovery, everything begins to change.

Our beliefs and thoughts become clear and we can question them.

It is the key to detach from the beliefs that hold us back, keep us limited and safe.

This awareness leads to freedom, connection and infinite possibilities.

So go on, take time to unplug.

Soften… Let go…

Watch your thoughts like passing clouds.

 

Val T Boyko
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42 responses to “* We are Not our Thinking”

  1. Kate Crimmins Avatar
    Kate Crimmins

    We are getting houseguests this weekend. I hate houseguest even when it’s family I love. My mind has been in neurotic overdrive. I need to find that release switch and let it fly free so I can concentrate on the positives.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I hear you Kate! I ask myself “Do I want them to have a fun relaxing time, or for the house to be ready for inspection”…
      It is after all about them and the relationship 💕
      I hope it works out okay. I also take time outs for myself to have some peace and quiet. If needs be, an “urgent trip to the store” can be just the break I need to find balance.

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      1. Kate Crimmins Avatar
        Kate Crimmins

        Hmmm….I keep asking myself “When are they going to leave?”

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          Don’t you know? I’d be really worried if you didn’t…. 😉
          Seriously when we resist what is happening (by wishing it away) it creates suffering. Come back to the present moment with a deep breath or two and an attitude of acceptance.
          Everything passes 💛

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          1. Kate Crimmins Avatar
            Kate Crimmins

            That is great advice. Yes I do know the scheduled leave day. I keep working to allow things to roll of my back like water off of feathers.

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            1. Val Boyko Avatar
              Val Boyko

              … Rolling off is good Kate! Don’t forget to take deep releasing breaths along the way. xo
              ( I am a pro having spent 25 years here with overseas visitors looking for the “American vacation/holiday experience” )

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              1. Kate Crimmins Avatar
                Kate Crimmins

                Good advice (and thanks for not billing me!).

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              2. Val Boyko Avatar
                Val Boyko

                smiling …

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  2. wandersofayogi Avatar
    wandersofayogi

    Beautiful. The most interesting self discovery one can do. Meditation is a lifestyle that helps us go through life without being a slave to our own worries. Awareness and focus on the now is the key to freedom. There is a great app called -calm- it’s available on any smartphone and really helps to start the practice. xx

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for sharing the goodness and this App 💛

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  3. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    Beautiful, Val. I really enjoyed the video. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Jill! So glad you enjoyed this calming moment in time 💛

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  4. holisticlifestylecoachblog Avatar
    holisticlifestylecoachblog

    Reblogged this on Mindfulness Living and commented:
    Guest post Find Your Middle Ground ‘We are not our thinking’ Being mindful of our positive and toxic thoughts which affect your entire being.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for the re-blog. So glad you enjoyed this. 💛

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  5. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    Powerful stuff, Val, and beautifully succinct too. H ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Glad you enjoyed it Hariod. Thank you for also appreciating my succinctness 💕

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  6. Esme upon the Cloud Avatar
    Esme upon the Cloud

    I may be biased . . . but this is beautiful.

    – esme floating across the Clouds smiling

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I’m not sure if it was a dream or you who were the inspiration Esme. I expect both 💕
      Thank you!

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  7. Infinite Living Avatar
    Infinite Living

    Very beautiful! Yes this is how every belief, thought and word …and so action becomes a choice. A choice out of freedom and infinite possibilities. That is infinite living 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Infinite wisdom indeed 💛 Thank you PD of your kind words. xo

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  8. evolutionarywords Avatar
    evolutionarywords

    Thank you definitely needed this today

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So glad it hit the spot e 💛

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  9. sara Avatar
    sara

    That video is amazing! Learning to disassociate or at least separate my Self from my mind has been the single most important process for both my mental and spiritual health. I say process, because I have been practicing for oh, 10 years or more – from the moment I read Tolle’s The Power of Now. I forget then I remember and then I forget and so it goes on.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for sharing Sara! The forgetting and remembering are such a part of the journey aren’t they… Of course, being okay with that without judging come next 💕

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  10. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    Must try that video!!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I expect it reminds you of your pilot days Paul 💛
      I watched it and let my eyes move into a soft focus. It became so soothing and calming. Watch it sitting up thought or you may fall asleep 😉

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      1. Paul Handover Avatar
        Paul Handover

        I’ll watch it one evening sitting up in bed with my tablet. See whether Jeannie or me will be first asleep! (How can I train a dog to turn off my tablet??)

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        1. Paul Handover Avatar
          Paul Handover

          I’m watching and listening to it now! Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this.

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  11. Minuscule Moments Avatar
    Minuscule Moments

    Lovely quote and worth thinking about, I usually fly above the clouds like a bird when Im chilling out but yesterday in my meditation instead of trying to control my mind not to think, I asked my higher self to take over. Val I had the most amazing experience I have ever had, she took me somewhere I had never been before. My husband said I had a certain sparkle on this day and I saw the world in rich colour and savoured every moment. I know I won’t be able to go there every day but I think I might become addicted to my morning quiet. Thank you for always being an inspiration every time I visit.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I am so happy for you Kath. 💕☺️
      When we can set aside expectations and let ourselves feel into a new moment that we may not be used to … It can be magnificent… Sometimes it is so.
      Other times, we are not quite there. And that’s okay as well.
      These are the moments for self compassion and letting go of criticism and expectations.
      Such is life and the journey we are on. 💛

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      1. Minuscule Moments Avatar
        Minuscule Moments

        Thanks Val

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  12. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    Love the clouds and letting go! Thanks Val 😇

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I’m glad you enjoyed it Karen 💕

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  13. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
    Sue Dreamwalker

    Always Val you hold such beautiful thoughts that you share these truths with us.. And I enjoyed the floating through the clouds.. I can not sleep this evening, and for the first time in a week have turned back on my old PC.. Serves me right for having an early night and sleeping like a log for 2 hours..
    Sending love, and warm thoughts your way my friend.. Hugs Sue
    <3<3<3

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      May the floating and letting go bring you to relaxation and eventually sleep Sue.
      Sometimes it isn’t easy as our mind holds on the thoughts of the day.
      This week has been tough for me too.
      What helps me, is to focus on the breath. Moving into the center of my being. Feeling it there.
      Then saying to myself. Inhale peace…Exhale release…
      Slowing down the rhythm and keeping awareness here.
      Noticing when thoughts step back in. Checking in with the body and inviting it into this relaxed space. Soften the face. The jaw. Keep saying the mantra.
      Xo

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
        Sue Dreamwalker

        Bless you Val for this beautiful Mantra.. I often don’t practice what I preach 😉 .. I put a short meditation CD on the other day when I knew my Granddaughter age 5 and a half, mustn’t forget the half! lol was getting over tired. We went to lay down and listen as it takes you on a short journey through a meadow and cyrstal cave.. 🙂 In it a womans voice says Inhale and exhale.. I had to explain to my granddaughter it meant breathe in and out slowly..We both drifted off and an nearly 2 hours later my hubby had to come and wake us..
        The following week I said something to her about Taking a deep breath in.. She corrected me and said don’t you mean inhale grandma? 🙂 Thank you dearest Val I have the utmost respect for your wonderful gift of always helping me with my own balance.. Love and hugs ❤ xxx

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          Children remind us how it is to learn afresh. She does sound like a bright button 💛 I had two 5 year olds in one of my classes the other day as Granny was babysitting and everyone wanted to go to yoga. It was such a treat to be open to the joy and laughter of each moment with them 💕

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          1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
            Sue Dreamwalker

            Yes Val we could all do with a lesson or two from 5 yr olds.. How to live in the Moment! and fill it with Joy 🙂 I bet that was some great Yoga class too 🙂

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  14. David Kanigan Avatar
    David Kanigan

    Soften, yes.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      One of my favorite words… We don’t realize we are holding or contracting in the body and emotional being until the mind shifts to soften and let go. 💕

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  15. roughwighting Avatar
    roughwighting

    I do my best work (in life and in writing) when I’m not thinking!!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Absolutely Pam. In the flow is the way to go 💛

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