You are Not the Problem

thinking about me

“The central problem is not that

You think too highly

Of yourself.

Nor is it that

You think too lowly

Of yourself.

Instead, it is that

You think constantly

Of yourself.”

Wu Hsin from The Lost Writings of Wu Hsin

(This was long before John 3:30 and C.S. Lewis with their definition of humility.)

Is this really true? I took a moment to consider what most of my thoughts are about … and yes they are usually about me. What I need… what I want… how I feel…  how I see things… decisions I make… things I have to do…

So, today I learned (again) that one of the best ways to lighten up and find balance, is to stop thinking constantly about myself.

Self reflection and introspection are valuable for us to learn about our inner world… but lets all be mindful about crossing the line from seeking understanding to self absorption… and ego bashing or stroking.

Why not join me today and give your self a break, by shifting perspective away from what’s going on with you.

Free yourself from your small ego centric self.

Wake up and embrace the amazing world that we are all a part of.

beautiful world

51 thoughts on “You are Not the Problem

  1. I find a good way of doing that is to ask ‘where is awareness?’, not ‘where is awareness directed?’, but where actually is it? What we find is that it has no fixed location; it does not coalesce around ‘me’, nor does it emanate from ‘me’; rather, it is non-local, and in seeing this, the self-centric focus dissolves. 🙂 H ❤

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    • Beautifully put Hariod! In my experience, the first step is being aware at a self level. From here we can move from a state of “self awareness” to a state of consciousness… where there is no movement and direction. Its a wonderful question to ask. ❤️

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  2. Don’t be too hard on yourself, Val! I’m going to float the idea that thinking of one’s thoughts is always going to return the notion that we think too much of ourself. Maybe an alternative is to deliberately set aside regular times where one can quieten the head. Such as meditation (that I’m no good at), or resting flat out in a quiet room listening to relaxing music on something like an iPod. In other words, actively giving the brain the space to ‘switch off’. All of which falls under the heading of do as I say, not as I do! 😉

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  3. Self reflection, to be mindful of our moods and emotions is helpful.
    “Poor me’ and ‘look at me’ kind of thoughts are not so good.
    The message of your post I liked the reminder.
    To put ones self first has its place but balance and understanding are needed.

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  4. It can be very sobering when you suddenly see how obsessive you can be about yourself. Strange how you quickly forget that sobering thought and before you know where you are you’re thinking about yourself again. But then you start obsessing about how obsessive you are about yourself. 🙂

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    • I hear you Don. Its an easy cycle to get caught up in Don. When the obsessor obsesses over obsessing and the judger judges the judging. Luckily lightness and humor helps dissolve its power.

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  5. Getting out in nature (walking, biking, wading in the waves) helps me move from left brain (analysis, judging, weighing, etc.) to right brain (being in the moment while sensing sights, sounds, smells, etc.). Music, cooking, painting, laughing, also help me make the shift.

    Aah . . . that’s better!

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  6. I have been for a change putting ME first.. and trying not to feel guilty over the self indulgence 🙂 Balance in all things.. Ebb and Flow…

    I so agreed with this paragraph
    ” Self reflection and introspection are valuable for us to learn about our inner world… but lets all be mindful about crossing the line from seeking understanding to self absorption… and ego bashing or stroking.”…..
    Well said..

    Hugs Sue

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