“The day a child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent;
the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult;
the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise.” – Alden Nowlan
Much has been written about forgiveness – forgiving others for an offense or hurt in the past, and forgiving ourselves for something we feel ashamed of. I wrote about the steps to forgiveness in an earlier post.
Whether its about external or internal forgiveness, it seems to come down to one important key … Our ability to let go.
I’ve discovered in my interactions and conversations with others, that the more we tend to try to control and want things in a certain way, the harder it can be to forgive.
Forgiveness and an ability to let go, seem to go hand in hand.
I wonder how this resonates with you. Do you find it relatively easy to forgive in a world that is constantly changing? Do you live in shades of colors and gray rather than black and white? Can you empathise easily with others?
Or do you find it almost impossible to forgive when you have been wronged? Do you also see the world in terms of a right way and a wrong way. Do you rush to judge others as good and bad or want to find who is to blame?
Let me know if my theory stands up in real life.
Forgiving and letting go is an act of will and an act of courage. It is also an act of love, for your self.
By letting go of the anger and resentment within you and replacing it with compassion for yourself, you become free.
Free to be fully you and at peace; no longer a victim defined by an other’s actions.
Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness, but you deserve peace.