“What you resist persists.” Carl Jung
This is a such a simple, yet powerful message that I keep coming back to again and again. Today I decided to set aside time to understand the WordPress block editor instead of resisting it and clinging to the old version.
Have you noticed when others have been caught in this struggle with what is happening? Have you noticed it in yourself?
When we want “what is” to be different, we are resisting. The more we resist, deny, criticize, complain and fight the truth … the more internal struggle we will have.
A part of us is conditioned to resist what’s happening to us, especially when things don’t go the way we had wanted. We don’t accept the feelings of annoyance, disappointment, hurt, sadness or distress that come up, and we want them to go away.
We want things to be the same as they were before. A part of us still thinks that by resisting, the uncomfortable feelings will go away but they won’t. They will become stronger, and can take over our minds, and cause a lot of suffering.
So, this is what I have to say to you:
Recognize if there is a situation in your life that you are resisting or denying is happening.
Ask yourself. “Am I ready to face this now?” If it isn’t the right time, that’s okay. Keep coming back to it until you are ready.
If it is something that is very upsetting, center yourself with slow deep breaths. Perhaps bring a hand onto your belly and another above your heart center.
Feel that sense of touch, and perhaps the connection to your inner self. The part of you that is hurting right now.
Recognizing when we are resisting is a powerful practice. At the beginning we may wonder what the big deal is …. after all resisting feels normal … until we are able to see that resisting is a conditioned response that has become as habit. A habit that brings us suffering.
- Let go of how you expected things to be.
- Take control of what you CAN do to keep moving forward.
- Make space for it.
- Don’t hold on to anger or blame others. This will only cause you more hurt.
- Embrace the highs and lows of life as they come along, and go with the ever changing flow of life.
And now you have a choice.