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Step out of the past

Let go of struggle stories

Find truth in the now



I feel a real connection to others who are struggling right now … and who have struggled in the past. Have you noticed what that feels like? A shared struggle feels oh so familiar… and somehow comforting.

Many of us come to see that the struggles of the past are re-enacted in our present lives. 

We all have challenges and conflicts within ourselves, especially the thinking mind with its tethered beliefs and judgments, along with our conditioning from childhood.

It all diminishes our ability to be open, to tune into intuition and heart felt sense of being. It keeps us trapped in our ego-mind and small self. 

When we identify with our struggle, its so easy to let it overwhelm us, and we literally become the struggle.

The struggle become how we identify ourselves. “I am stupid… I am a failure… I am not worthy… I am unlovable… I am an addict… I am a bad person” … etc

Many of us get attached to our personal struggle and some will find the courage to share it and reach out to others who understand.

Our struggle story can be very personal, yet it acts as a bridge of connection and community. All human beings experience struggle, and when we find similar souls, we feel validated and supported.

Yet the struggle is still a story. Created by our fearful, controlling ego. When we embrace the story, it makes us feel right, stronger and more able to deal with the external pressures. We actually lose touch with who we truly are, rather than connect deeper into our true sense of being.

This is such an important part of the journey, but it isn’t the end. It can backfire if it ends here. When we get attached to our story, we stay stuck. 

Struggle keeps us attached to our ego and small self. It takes us into the past and makes us anxious about the unknown future. It prevents us from being present to the goodness that is already within us, and to open up to the higher Self and power beyond our separate small lives.

For those on a spiritual path, as long as we identify with our struggle we cannot awaken.

The struggle story will never set us free. 

We will be free when we choose to open up, accepting this part of our history and ourselves, face it, feel compassion for it and then let it go. This is challenging and important work.

We must truly want to move past our struggle if we want to awaken to the freedom beyond. What is beyond struggle? When we come to recognize, befriend and let go of ego.

Beyond ego is beyond struggle.

On your path to awakening, what part of your struggle story are you willing and ready to let go of?





About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

20 comments on “What is Beyond Struggle?

  1. A great post dear lady, that life struggle is indeed a holding pattern, but like all else in life, needed so that we can experience each side of our hearts and be set free.
    Once I faced and understood my fear there are now large silences and an all encompassing acceptance of everything instead of the ego’s doubts, negativities and questioning of all that I faced.
    I had found my answer to life in understanding my fear, which was blocking that happiness of self love, the one thing I had always looked for in all that I did. The ego had served its purpose, as had the fear. In understanding the fear I changed it, thereby losing its power over me. So too the ego 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋

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  2. Such wisdom in this post, Val. Negative thoughts can trap us if we aren’t careful.

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  3. Love this whole post and in particular, this line – “Let go of struggle stories”
    Struggle stories are like anchors. They keep us stuck in places that no longer serve us.
    Great post Val!

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    • They are anchors aren’t they Louise .. and we turn to them to feel grounded. But in doing so we attach ourselves even more. Stepping away from the story is such a huge step to get to so we can reach beyond.
      Thank you for this insight and kindness 💕


  4. Wonderfully said Val
    “Our struggle story can be very personal, yet it acts as a bridge of connection and community. All human beings experience struggle, and when we find similar souls, we feel validated and supported.”
    I have never felt more supported with people who understand who have experienced their own struggles … So THANK YOU…
    Much love my friend 🙂

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  5. Workin’ it Val. Workin’ it.

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  6. I need to find the time to do this sort of self-reflection; otherwise, I’m just drifting through the days…

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  7. Good, good stuff Val. Thank you! ❤

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  8. Thank you for this Val, it is an evocative and perhaps provocative as I explore self-compassion and letting go. Warm hugs, Harlon

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  9. A beautiful post, Val, full of wisdom. I think our struggles can turn into strengths, but only if we only up and recognize them as part of a journey of growth into compassion. This post is a wonderful resource for reflection. ❤


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