Sometimes feelings are “off filter” because the thoughts we’ve attached to the “what is” are not balanced. We tell ourselves stories about how others “should” act (or how the world should be) and then get upset when reality doesn’t meet our expectations.
If we change our thoughts, emotions/ feelings follow suit and our “upset” dissipates into the ether. We learn that we are stronger than we “thought.”
Stepping into the role of detached observer allows us to let things be as they are while maintaining our balance.
How? May I suggest to you to do a write up on this? Most likely, others who have the same issue as mine can understand and implement the boundaries to keep.
I LOVE that photo and the immediate sinking feeling of getting to an airport after NOT allowing myself the designated time to get through such a crowd to my gate on time! I have figured out crying or panicking does not help and a better solution is to get the kindle out and move patiently through the queue; realizing that there are worse things in life than missing a plane. 🙂
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Very good advice.
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Thanks kind Dan!
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Such good advice Val. In my meditation class today, we focused on filling up ourselves, it is always the first step.
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Love that Karen 🙏
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Sometimes feelings are “off filter” because the thoughts we’ve attached to the “what is” are not balanced. We tell ourselves stories about how others “should” act (or how the world should be) and then get upset when reality doesn’t meet our expectations.
If we change our thoughts, emotions/ feelings follow suit and our “upset” dissipates into the ether. We learn that we are stronger than we “thought.”
Stepping into the role of detached observer allows us to let things be as they are while maintaining our balance.
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Love this insight Nancy! Thank you for sharing .. And inspiring the next post about not taking things personally 💛
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Looking forward to it!
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Good. Sometimes “being gentle” is treated like a floor mat.
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Thank you Tienny. Yes – others sometimes misunderstand. That’s where we need to have our own boundaries in place. 💛
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How? May I suggest to you to do a write up on this? Most likely, others who have the same issue as mine can understand and implement the boundaries to keep.
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Oh dear. I think the picture was taken at one of my many recent “situations” 👀 very good advice, as always, Val.
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Crossing cultures makes it even more of a learning experience!Thank you Helen!
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Great advice, Val!
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Thank you Jill ❣
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Yes
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Thank you David 💛
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I LOVE that photo and the immediate sinking feeling of getting to an airport after NOT allowing myself the designated time to get through such a crowd to my gate on time! I have figured out crying or panicking does not help and a better solution is to get the kindle out and move patiently through the queue; realizing that there are worse things in life than missing a plane. 🙂
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What a sound strategy Elizabeth. Thank you for sharing!
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