“When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
“Stepping into the role of detached observer allows us to let things be as they are while maintaining balance.” ~ Nancy at Spirit Lights the Way
“When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
As Don Miguel Ruiz says: “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.”
Let’s think about it. Imagine interacting with the same person in two different situations.
In the first encounter, this person has had a terrific day. They got a good night’s sleep and everything has gone their way every since. They feel great! How do you think they’re going to treat us? Probably pretty well, right?
Now we encounter the same person. This time, they got a really bad night’s sleep, got into a car accident on the way to work, forgot their iPhone, forgot to eat, and realized they missed a crucial deadline. They are not in such a good mood. How do you think they’re going to treat us now? …. Oh oh watch out and keep your head down!
The important thing to note here is that WE were exactly the same in both situations.
Yet, if we base our opinion of ourselves on how someone else treats us, the world becomes a fearful unstable place and we lose touch with our own reality. We seek answers outside of ourself rather than from within.
Take a moment to pause here and reflect on the last time you were upset with someone. Perhaps you were taking their behavior too personally.
People have bad days. Upsetting things happen. We all experience the highs and lows of life.
Take time to pause and find your middle ground.
Life isn’t personal.