Moments of Pleasure and a Life Filled with Joy

Are you a pleasure seeker or a joy seeker?

Both Eckhart Tolle and Patanjali in the Yoga Sutras tell us that the difference between pleasure and joy lies in whether we focus on the outer world of our senses (pleasure) or our inner world of being (joy).

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Many people are pleasure seekers while others are seekers of joy.  Adolescence is the time to explore pleasure and our senses … but most of us learn as we become adults, that although it makes us euphoric, it doesn’t last. Later we might also come to see that it is a way to avoid facing challenges and takes us away from being in the present to the natural highs and lows of life.

Where pleasure is fleeting, joy is always within us to connect to. It is at the heart of our being. An appreciation for life itself and a recognition that we are connected to a divine Source or Presence.

We don’t need the beach vacation, the fancy car, the roller coaster thrill or being the hostess with the mostest to be happy… When we pause, breathe and tune into this inner world, we find our Middle Ground.

This is where we nurture our joy and contentment with life.

Where we appreciate being rather than doing.

Where we let go rather than acquire.

Where we create space rather than fill it with stuff.

The key to creating a fulfilling life is building our foundation on joy and decorating it occasionally with pleasure. We can appreciate it for what it is – a temporary moment to appreciate fully and not become attached to.

Namaste

36 responses to “Moments of Pleasure and a Life Filled with Joy”

  1. I had never thought about it before, but it appears I am a joy seeker. Not to don’t enjoy pleasurable moments which arise! 🙂

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    1. I’m glad this opened a new perspective for you Suz 🙂

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  2. Val, yes, I think we become more and more aware of the transience of things as we age.

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    1. Thank you Jean. I agree, I think there is an inner shift that comes with experiencing life ❤

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  3. This was a new way to see these Val, now I need to think 😉

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    1. May your thoughts be gentle and easy ones Irene! Thank you for being here 🙂

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  4. Like the jewel on our foreheads that we so often fail to notice.

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    1. Thank you Hariod for adding to the theme ❤

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  5. a firm foundation!
    i can stand for that 🙂

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    1. Me too David. Thank you for your strength. 🙂

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  6. Thanks for contributing to my joy, Val.

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    1. And thank you for your contribution to mine Ann. ❤

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  7. Simple pleasures are life’s treasures.

    If I am cold, I take pleasure in the warmth of the sun. If I am hungry, I savor every delicious morsel of a food. When I am tired, I take pleasure from climbing into a warm bed. When I am stiff, I find pleasure in stretching and exercising.

    Mindfully enjoying transient pleasures (food, shelter, clothing, companionship, hot showers, exercise) helps us access the joy within.

    As long as we’re paying attention.

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    1. I really like this Nancy. 🙂
      When we are mindful of the transient pleasure of the senses… we can access the constant joy that is within us.

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  8. I think of both pleasure and joy as short-term and coming (as you say) from either external or internal sources. On the other hand long-term “happiness” we seek from external sources (other things / people / experiences / achievements) compared to contentment which comes from within.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your perspective Elizabeth. I love it.
      For me joy equates with contentment too. Joy doesn’t need to be euphoric … its more like an accepting contented knowing that all is well… and will be no matter what.
      You got it 🙂

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  9. I agree that as i have aged, i have turned from seeking pleasure to seeking joy, and I feel better about me and the world around me because of it!

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    1. Thank you Kate! There is something that comes with age that feels really satisfying … Welcome to the post adolescence world 😉

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  10. C.C. and I went for a beautiful walk in the winter sunshine today. The sky was blue, the air crisp. We held hands as we walked and greeted the people we met with smiles and stops to visit with puppy dogs. I stopped and took photos of the mountains in the distance and joy filled my being with its beautiful melody.

    Thanks for this wonderful reminder Val of what it means to live with joy rising from my heart to embrace my world.

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    1. When we connect to what is so meaningful within us it all makes sense … Thank you for such a lovely example Louise ❤

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  11. Thank you for this post Val and differentiating between joy and pleasure. I have always felt an inner contentment (joy) but I am glad for the last line here because I love the pleasure of an occasional tropical trip!
    Diana xo

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    1. Absolutely Diana! I’m with you on the occasional indulgences for the senses 🙂

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  12. Another consideration in this thoughtful vein, Val: “They were seeking out the treasure of their destiny without actually wanting to live out their destiny.” ~Paulo Coelho

    To live in and out of joy could well be our destiny.

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    1. An interesting addition to the conversation Eric. Thank you!

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  13. Joy within us always there to connect to! A wonderful thought and something to be grateful for at all times. Thankyou Lovely Val 🙂

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    1. Thank Karen for consistently tapping into your joy and sharing it 🙂

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  14. I suspect Val that life is about our state of being. Happiness is a state of being that internal and external activities don’t affect because it is based on choice, not experiences. It is always in us and surrounding us and is actually us. We ARE love, and love is the ultimate state of happiness.

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    1. So lovely Sheri. I believe that each of has the divine spark within that is part of pure consciousness or love. ❤

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  15. This is perfect, thank you Val. x ❤

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    1. Delighted it resonated Julie.
      Much joy to you ❤

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  16. A lovely post! I think we become more aware of joy as we grow older…

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    1. … and appreciate life so much more 🙂 Thank you Fiona for stopping by!

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My name is Val Boyko, a dual citizen living near Philadelphia, originally from Scotland.

This blog came to life one morning in 2013.  I woke up with these words in my mind:  “Life is a series of highs and lows. Be grateful for the highs. Be graceful in the lows. And find contentment in your Middle Ground.”

Find Your Middle Ground blog started to explore, reflect, ask deep questions, share insights about awakening, and connect with wonderful people like yourself. Thank you for being here and being such an inspiration.