Call of Loneliness

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These words made me pause and touched me deeply.

“Inside our loneliness is a longing to be released from the pain of separation and the confusion it entails. We’ve all been taught that there is something wrong or even dangerous about being lonely. But such an assumption is based on a misunderstanding of what loneliness is and how it relates to our life here.

Loneliness is a kind of wisdom, a recognition of something, an urge toward genuine transformation.

There is nothing to fear about loneliness. There’s no reason to run from it or to tighten down when it comes. If we allow ourselves the chance to attend to the loneliness, to be with it at a feeling level — physically — then the harsh overtones dissolve. What we called loneliness turns out to be something else entirely.

Each of us is longing for something. This longing runs deep. Sometimes it manifests as loneliness, sometimes as grief, anger, or something else. Whatever way it comes, we can be with it respectfully, openly, allowing it to exist. This so changes our relationship to it that we never need fear it or run from it again.

There are times when the body is calling for attentive care. There are times when the signal is there, but our response is self-hatred or dislike, and the body’s call gets ignored.
Loneliness is such a call. We need to turn to ourselves as a mother to a child and wait, without judgment.” *

Longing for something is not wrong.

Listen for its call.

We must tend to it with kindness and allow it show us the way.




*The Prayer Of The Body

An Interview With Stephen R. Schwartz
by SY SAFRANSKY, editor and publisher of The Sun.

44 thoughts on “Call of Loneliness

  1. Yes, great post Val 😀
    When we break through those fears we hold, the loneliness disappears. That is the duality.
    We hold ourselves separate by our emotional walls. We long for that love all around us, but it is the simple fact that we do not love ourselves that keeps us in our fear of loneliness and separate.
    Understand our fear and the separation is gone, the walls come tumbling down and a total acceptance, with great love, is what we become. Our Love. And then it won’t matter if we are the last person on earth, our needs have been met. We are our greatest love ❤️

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  2. Beautiful, Val. It reminded me a bit of John O’Donohue and his reflections on aloneness and longing. I think if we can stand back and witness our feelings they become less fearsome and become teachers. Thanks for the lovely post. ❤

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  3. This not only touched me so deeply for all and everyone, but particularly hit home on a subject I’ve been having trouble with for quite a few years now. Thank you so much for sharing this and the wise and reflective words that you brought to light. Much gratitude and appreciation. ❤

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  4. Beautiful words val, Loneliness for me is the silence, the emptiness, the nothingness which if we dare be here, embrace it something wonderful explores and everything is shown for us to know we are whole, we are the oneness ourself❤️ Thankyou, I love how we all inspire and support each other here. Much love, Barbara x

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  5. I have been listening to Eckhart Tolle’s latest book, A New Earth. It casts a whole new light on such states of being. I highly recommend it. Miss you Val, I’ve been really absorbed in finishing up our house addition. It’s taken just about every available moment. But there will be a time when I return to WordPress again. Blessings! ❤️

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