feeling insecure
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“There is a contradiction in wanting to be perfectly secure in a universe whose very nature is momentariness and fluidity.
But the contradiction lies a little deeper than the mere conflict between the desire for security and the fact of change.

If I want to be secure, that is, protected from the flux of life, I am wanting to be separate from life. Yet it is this very sense of separateness which makes me feel insecure.
To be secure means to isolate and fortify the “I,” but it is just the feeling of being an isolated “I” which makes me feel lonely and afraid.

In other words, the more security I can get, the more I shall want.
To put it still more plainly: the desire for security and the feeling of insecurity are the same thing.

To hold your breath is to lose your breath. A society based on the quest for security is nothing but a breath-retention contest in which everyone is as taut as a drum and as purple as a beet.”

~ Alan Watts

How are your breathing right now? I’m smiling, because I was holding my breath as I read this.

When we bring awareness to our thoughts, feelings and especially our breath, we set the foundation for finding our middle ground and inner peace.

Holding our breath is a defense mechanism of the human body. It prepares us to react to a threat. However, it increases the tension and stress in the body, rather than bringing it to a state of balance.

In yoga we learn to deepen the breath when sensation increases. We breathe through tension and discomfort and allow the energy to keep flowing, rather than contracting and adding more tension.

Yoga is an invitation to become present in our bodies. We connect mind to body via our breath. It helps us relax, breathe, feel, and where possible let go.
Ultimately this helps us make more skillful, conscious choices and allows us to feel grounded and secure in life.
And it all starts with the breath.

Find out more about yoga breathing by clicking here.


24 comments on “Want to feel Secure? Breathe!

  1. such a distinct difference – great post

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  2. Breathing right now with a stress of choosing my career line. I am in a secured job amd willing to deviate from it. To explore myself. To find my life. And the hindrance in all this is money. Finding oneself is not that easy as it seems. Breathing and hoping for an amswer from life.
    Thanks for the post!

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    • So glad it helped Rupali. Keep coming back to the present moment and breath. In this place worries about the future can be let go off. Allow your passion to come to life. It isn’t what you “do” that matters, it’s finding something where you can bring your gifts to the world.

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  3. Fantastic post, Val. Thank you!

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  4. I love breathing with you, Val!

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  5. Your posts are always like a “breath” of fresh air, thanks Val! ❤

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  6. This one says a lot to me. I wear a bracelet that my daughter bought for me that says, “breathe”. I forget a lot and often find myself holding my breath. I was writing about that this morning. It’s interesting that I thought of myself as a go with the flow kind of person but ended up with IPF which is quite opposite of going with the flow. There is a lot of work for me to do here in this regard. Thanks for shining a light on it.

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    • Thank you Marline for being so open and sharing here. I did an hour workshop today on how to breathe. So many of us are disconnected from our bodies and need reminders. Your bracelet sounds just right!

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  7. SOOOOO interesting! I found, when I was very active in martial arts, that I held my breath at the most extreme points of workouts. Counterproductive to say the least. Something I still need to be aware of.

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  8. Breathing in this moment and accepting it as it is; is a practice that continues to change my life. Beautiful words Val. 🙏🏻


  9. Lovely words from Watts and yourself, dear Val. Breathe. Breathing. The rise and fall of the abdomen. The cool air entering the nostrils followed by the lung-warmed air exiting. Pick a spot and rest there. Let it be a sanctuary. It’s always accessible. One of the most precious lessons one can learn. Thanks Val. Hariod ❤

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  10. I echo Hariod’s comment ~ enjoyed hearing from both and you Alan!

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  11. Great post, Val. Thank you!

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