* Choose your Thinking and Change your Life

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“Hatred cannot coexist with loving-kindness, and dissipates if supplanted with thoughts based on loving-kindness.” ~ The Buddha

Modern research concurs. We cannot be relaxed and stressed at the same time … or grateful and resentful …  or forgiving and vengeful.
When we bring awareness to the present moment we can’t be regretting the past, or worrying about the future.

Quite simply, we cannot experience both positive emotions and negative emotions at the same time. Try to hold both at the same time right now. It isn’t possible.

Anxiety and relaxation can’t coexist. Neither can resentment and gratitude. When we become aware, we can choose to let gratitude in. We can choose to forgive… be kind… relax…

So, the next time you’re feeling anxious, see if you can deliberately relax by breathing deeply, releasing the tension in your body and smiling.

And, when you’re feeling resentful towards life or someone in it, see if you can let that emotion go by focusing on something you are truly grateful for.

Come into the present moment, notice without judgment your thoughts and feelings, then choose from your heart.
It will change your life.

Namaste

33 responses to “* Choose your Thinking and Change your Life

  1. Interesting Val
    Ignorance (ignoring) cannot coexist with knowledge (knowing). There’s something I read about the wooden pins or rods, they used to hold the joints together in old timber framed houses, and to replace a rotten old pin, they make a new one to fit exactly then hammer it into the hole where the old one is, forcing it out. The new pin replaces the old one seamlessly

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  2. Great post, Val! While we cannot avoid negative emotions, it is important for our emotional, spititual and even physical wellbeing to let them go as soon as possible. And I agree, gratitude is a game changer ❤

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  3. Val, interesting perspective.
    It doesn’t quite resonate with me as I see life in layers/ different compartments so I could be anxious about say being in the dentist’s chair but relaxed about how a piece of work is going.
    I always thought others were multidimensional as well!

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    • Love this Dan! Staying angry takes a lot of work … I ask myself “do I really want to feel like this?” when resentment or anger shows up. It is the ego mind that class it’s to being right and righteous. 💛

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  4. I love this, Val. It is our choice to decide to live in happiness and with positivity. We don’t need to stay in the bad moments, as we also experience, but without them we wouldn’t see, how necessary it is to stay positive.

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  5. Beautifully clear and perfectly accurate, Val. When we’re deeply concentrated and mindfully aware, we see that what we had thought was a multi-dimensional and parallel experience is in fact not so, but is instead a serial flux of discrete sensory datum. I feel sure you know all this, but for example, it appears, for all the world, that we can both see and hear at the same time, that the two senses come to awareness in parallel. In fact, there is a very fast oscillation of attention switching between the two. Think of an analogy with how a reel of cinema film comprises discrete images and yet produces the effect of continuity due to the speed of transition. In daily living, our consciousness is doing something similar, switching rapidly between the senses to create the illusion of a flowing composite. And as you suggest, the senses also produce moods and mental states/feelings, so no two of these can coexist in any one moment. Becoming tranquil and focused whenever possible allows us to see the truth of this, and we then see that your advice must be sound, whether applied when we are tranquil, or not. Brilliant closing line, by the way, as it will indeed do so. H ❤

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    • Goodness, it’s nothing whatsoever to do with me, just how things are. 🙂 I think the analogy more or less works with consciousness (the mind’s representations of the senses), but not at all with awareness – taking that to be the illuminative substrate of consciousness. So, awareness is neither serial not parallel, as if arriving as a data channel towards some perceived point of centrality – ‘me’ – which is all just the play of consciousness as produced by the brain. [Probably gone a bit off-message here Val – apologies.] H ❤

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  6. Great post, Val! Thank you. I love being in gratitude. That is my go to state when I feel myself not being particularly loving or balanced. I can easily get there in Nature. The world is challenging right now, and this post, I think, is particularly timely. 🙂

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    • Thank you Mary. It is a timely reminder isn’t it, when there is so much adversarial affront and violence in the world. 💛
      I’m sitting in the kitchen looking out at the rain coming down. There is thunder and violence in the sky, but the plants open to receive the goodness that nourishes them. Such is nature. Neither one thing or the other, but accepting of it all.

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  7. Words to the wise…”see if you can deliberately relax by breathing deeply…and smiling” Just doing this right now at the start of the day sets me out on the right path, beautiful.

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