Find Your Middle Ground

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* Inner Alignment

inner alignment

We live in a self absorbed society where everything seems to be directed to feeding the insatiable and bored little “me”.

When we start finding our Middle Ground, we get in touch with our inner being and experience what is happening in the moment. This inner world includes our thoughts, beliefs, needs, feelings and knowing what really matters to us – our values.

We become observers of ourselves.

We come nurturers of our inner being instead of critics.

Life becomes more satisfying just as it is. There is less need for stimulation, excitement and acquiring of things to entertain us, show others, or to keep boredom at bay.

I remember thinking how strange it was that I am rarely bored. I have always enjoyed my own company. I like being me by myself.

Through yoga, I learned that this feeling of centered contentment was when my mind, body and spirit are aligned and in harmony.

I call this place of inner alignment the Middle Ground.

Thank you for joining me here 💛

Val T Boyko
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31 responses to “* Inner Alignment”

  1. vanbytheriver Avatar
    vanbytheriver

    Wonderful thoughts this a.m., Val. I’m with you on this one. 💖 It didn’t happen for me overnight…but it did happen.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Van for your kind words and your sharing. 💛 The journey starts at different times and points in our lives…. 🌞

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  2. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    Being boredom-proof is a very wonderful thing indeed. How can awareness, the most amazing of all phenomena, ever be boring? H ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Amazing awareness! Yes indeed Hariod 💛

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  3. Vicki Avatar
    Vicki

    I’m with you on contentment with one’s own company. I am rarely bored, but do admit that when I’m housebound with pain/fatigue or other health symptoms, I do get frustrated. I need regular doses of communing with nature to feel complete.

    Sometimes when I catch a bus into the city centre, the whole sound/bright light/smell thing overwhelms me and more than once, I’ve crossed the intersection and caught a bus straight back home again.

    I am often alone, but rarely lonely. I enjoy the company of friends when I see them these days, but when we part and I go back to my solitary self, I resume my calm and peaceful existence. After 2-3 hours with friends I find the constant chatter a little tiring.
    Same with bright lights and strong perfumes or chemicals.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for sharing Vicki. Being alone can increase our sensitivity to shifts in our environment. May your healing continue. Keep your spirits up 💛

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  4. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    I love time alone with me. Like you, I never get bored. Great post, Val! ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Jill! I’m chuckling a little, as unitive that people who like this post enjoy their solo time too 💕

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  5. Louise Gallagher Avatar
    Louise Gallagher

    I find age has also played a role — where once, parties were fun, now, they’re an effort. I prefer smaller more intimate gatherings. One thing that has never changed with time is my appreciation and need for ‘me time’. To be balanced, ‘out there’, I need time, ‘in here’ to reflect, meditate, create.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks Louise 💛 bringing awareness to what makes us feel balanced and aligned is so important. I agree that as we get older we are more aware of this. xo

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  6. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    Another great post!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Why thanks Paul ❣

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  7. Minuscule Moments Avatar
    Minuscule Moments

    I never get bored either Val but yesterday when the winter sun was so warm and the day looked gorgeous I stopped and soaked it up. There was a small pang of guilt for standing still and doing nothing and I wondered why we put this pressure on ourselves. But I kept enjoying the cows walking by and the stillness and felt better for it ……simply just enjoying that moment.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It’s surprising how that programmed “should” shows up still isn’t it Kath….
      Glad you were able to let it go and enjoy the moment 💛

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  8. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    Feeling content in our silence is a practiced gift! Thankyou for your gift Val 💜🙏🏻

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for practicing along with me Karen 💕💝

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  9. Eliza Waters Avatar
    Eliza Waters

    There is too much to see and do to be bored. And quiet time, when it comes, is heavenly! ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Agreed Eliza! Just being is the coolest thing.

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      1. Eliza Waters Avatar
        Eliza Waters

        B-)

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  10. lorriebowden Avatar
    lorriebowden

    And it is such a beautiful place to be ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It is indeed. Thank you Lorrie for joining me there 💕

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  11. David Kanigan Avatar
    David Kanigan

    Sister – we’re blood: “I remember thinking how strange it was that I am rarely bored. I have always enjoyed my own company. I like being me by myself.”

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I hear you bro ❣

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  12. Marty Avatar
    Marty

    A Buddhist is never bored

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  13. Ann Coleman Avatar
    Ann Coleman

    Very wise…learning to nurture our inner beings!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Ah yes. Thank you Ann 💛

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  14. Jennifer Kelland Perry Avatar
    Jennifer Kelland Perry

    I’m like you, Val. I rarely get bored and I enjoy my own company. You should hear some of the conversations I have with myself! 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      💕 thank you to you and you!

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  15. Amy Shemwell Avatar
    Amy Shemwell

    Great post! What do you mean about nurturing your inner being?

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Amy. Great question. To me, nurturing our inner being is taking care of ourselves in the same way as a loving grandmother would. The key is acceptance and love. 💕

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  16. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    Yes! ~> “Life becomes more satisfying just as it is. There is less need for stimulation, excitement and acquiring of things to entertain us, show others, or to keep boredom at bay.”

    Like you, I am never bored . . . except when stuck in the middle of a crowd of extroverts competing for attention (or taking selfies). 😉

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