This post is inspired by a wonderful post from Sangeeta over at Serene Reflection.
“Values are not what we talk about. They are how we live. They determine why we make and live the choices we eventually do. Quite often, we don’t live what we advocate. … and this causes stress.”
I would encourage you to read the whole post here.
What I came away with, is a shift in perspective about my own values. As a coach, I have done several exercises on values over the years and they tend to come back to the same themes. I know them and now take them for granted, but Sangeeta’s post made me pause and ask myself, am I truly living them?
Here are some questions to reflect on:
- How do I spend my time and energy?
- How do I spend my money?
- What do I think about most?
- What do I envision or visualize most?
- What do I talk about most to myself?
- What do I talk about most to others?
- Where am I most organized or disciplined?
Now compare this to who you thought you were or would like to be, and how you would like to live. Some areas will already converge while the contrasts in other places may surprise you.
This is a good time to recognize what your real priorities are and where you are putting your energy.
Update your list of values so that it has meaning in how you are living your life right now.
Be aware that you may be judging yourself against values that you are not living up to. If so, be kind and take time to reflect on what the next step is. It may not be time to implement changes, or it may be time to start taking actions to come into alignment.
There is no right or wrong here. Its about becoming true to yourself.