Wise owl
Thomas Merton reminds me of a wise owl.

“In humility is the greatest freedom. As long as you have to defend the imaginary self that you think is so important, you lose your peace of heart…

As soon as you take yourself seriously and imagine that your virtues are important because they are yours, you become the prisoner of your own vanity, and even your best works will bring and deceive you.

Then, in order to defend yourself, you will begin to see sins and faults in the actions of others. And the more unreasonable importance you attach to yourself, the more you will tend to build up your idea of yourself by condemning other people.”

~ Thomas Merton “New Seeds of Contemplation.”

When we find ourselves caught in the trap of trying to be more virtuous and better than other people, we miss out on our own happiness.

Peace of heart ( love this expression) comes from accepting ourselves just as we are, and being true to our inner nature. It isn’t about how others see us, how impressive we are in the work that we do, or how many people like us on Facebook.

This is a lesson for every adolescent … and every adult who hasn’t gotten over themselves yet.

Love yourself, share your gifts and let the rest go.



39 comments on “Missing Out on Your Own Happiness

  1. Excellent advice.. ๐Ÿ™‚ We are only as good as we are to ourselves ๐Ÿ™‚ It took me many years to find that out.. And dig deeper to Love the total of all who I AM.. ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  2. Thank you for the peace of heart, wise Val. โค

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  3. This is great! This is what I’ve really worked on, not comparing myself to others and letting that steal my happiness. My value is NOT in how many “likes” I get!

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  4. Peace of heart – I love it too!

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  5. Great post, Val. I love Thomas Merton! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. We’re each unique as a snowflake. Great reminder Val.

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  7. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

    I wonder how many wars we would get into if everyone knew this.

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  8. Beautiful reminder! Thankyou Val ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

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  9. Wise words, Val.

    โ€œThe reason men are so anxious to see themselves, instead of being content to be themselves, is that they do not really believe in their own existence.โ€ ~ Thomas Merton, A Search for Solitude: Pursuing the Monkโ€™s True Life

    Here’s to being content to be ourselves.

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  10. True, true and true. One of my favorite and most used expressions is “Nobody’s that special.” We are each unique expressions of the One, but none more special than another. I know this to my core. So get over yourselves, I say! It’s a happier place to be, inside and out. โค

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  11. Val, this really is a timely reminder. Thank you so much for sharing. Through humility, we are able to shed the unnecessary weight of our own inflated expectations and facades. What a lode off!

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  12. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Val, this is so true. I think, it becomes more easy by age and experiments โค

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  13. Wise indeed. xo

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  14. What great reminder Val!
    I think, I’ll head to the tattoo parlor now……
    I’d like to have your final sentence in front of my eyes at all times. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  15. Even if we have more or less ‘gotten over’ ourselves, this is a great reminder! It is so easy to fall back and start defending the ego ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks, Val!

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  16. Wise words, Val.

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  17. The last line sums it up, Val. So simple and yet so profound. โค


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