I woke up this morning with a memory that is still with me. Whenever I hear something out of the ordinary like a loud bang, or a groan, or even an unexpected noise outside. I call out “What’s wrong?”
This is an automatic knee jerk reaction of mine, and one I learned in my family growing up.
… No one ever asked “What’s right”?
The words we choose influence our thinking about the world around us.
“What’s wrong?” has an assumption and judgment that something out of the ordinary is wrong or is about to happen in a “bad” way. Its actually quite alarmist… and can put others on the defensive if they haven’t done anything wrong. I recall my brother saying “Nothing! I didn’t do anything wrong!!”
In my experience, more often than not, nothing is wrong. Its just life!
Something is happening that may or may not require my attention…. and I’ll find out soon if action is needed.
When we accept that life is a series of highs and lows, then nothing is wrong. It may be challenging and difficult but there is no right or wrong about it.
From now on I am going to remember to pause in the moment and ask “What’s happening”? and take it from there 🙂