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* Don’t Turn Away

inner courage

“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.” Rumi

When you are experiencing hurt, especially a wound of the heart

Look directly at this bandaged place

Find courage to face the storm rather than avoiding it or denying it

Be tender towards this raw vulnerability

When you bring compassion to your wounds, you allow them to heal

Be with it so it can transform you beyond fear and pain

Trust yourself to feel and live fully

Practice being present with whatever is alive in you, and you will find this light

Val T Boyko
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29 responses to “* Don’t Turn Away”

  1. Louise Gallagher Avatar
    Louise Gallagher

    A broken heart is an open heart and an open heart is a loving heart.

    Blessings to you and your beautiful heart.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank your Louise and sharing from your heart ❤

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  2. Jewels Avatar
    Jewels

    Beautiful quote from Rumi…
    Sometimes it’s so hard to do, but as you say… “When you bring compassion to your wounds, you allow them to heal.” Thanks for the reminder Val. x

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Julie. I’m so glad this resonated with you. Val x

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  3. ViewPacific Avatar
    ViewPacific

    Yes, there’s a lot of truth to this, and as you say, it takes courage. Which of us wants to face our pain, or take the chance we might get stuck in it? Still, when I have been brave enough, facing, accepting, and loving what is really does help.
    Thanks,
    Vincent

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Its a courageous journey to be sure Vincent. And easier when 1. there is someone with us who understands… And 2. We experience this truth for ourselves … And not only survive by fully embrace life once more!
      Thank you sharing here ❤

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  4. dianasschwenk Avatar
    dianasschwenk

    Val I have done this intentionally before and it does seem like the appropriate thing to do. One thing about heartbreak is that I am aware of being alive, in fact I feel very alive and would rather feel the pain of heartbreak than feel nothing at all.
    Diana xo

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So true Diana! When we face the pain we face the flow of life energy itself. The pain is alive in us… In recognizing this we live fully…. And allow the energy to move through us as it is meant to.
      Val x

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  5. Kate @ Did That Just Happen? Avatar
    Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    Good point, so many times I like to toss on a bandaid and then just ignore it… part of my growing up has been to actually focus on the hurt and let the light enter and heal. Beautiful post Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Kate for sharing here. Band aids make us think we are okay … But our inner being knows better. Being with whatever is alive in us becomes so empowering.
      Val x

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  6. LadyPinkRose Avatar
    LadyPinkRose

    I am walking this now, Val. I’ve embraced my wound, and have chosen to move forward after the necessary tears were shed. I now am creating New. Love, Amy

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So glad you have come to a place of acceptance rather than resistance to what is Amy. Now you have clarity to see possibilities and create anew 🙂
      You go girl!! ❤

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      1. LadyPinkRose Avatar
        LadyPinkRose

        GRIN!!! Thank you, Val. It is so strange how easily I have let go and in actuality the Freedom that I now do have in my BEing. This brand new fresh start feels GOOD, really GOOD! Something huge has changed deep within me, and it is showing in my “new” images. When things like this happen, yes it is shocking, yet when we move into acceptance we have the way to move forward. (((HUGS))) Amy

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          Wow this is awesome Amy!! I am so happy for you in this place of discovery and expansion 🙂
          Out of the darkness comes the light ❤
          Hugs
          Val x

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  7. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    I’m of two minds on this, Val. On the one hand, we need to accept what we cannot change to allow the healing to begin. On the other hand, if we are too focused on the pain, the wound, the hurt . . . we may miss an awful lot of good all around us.

    I prefer to focus for a time and allow the “what is” to have its say . . . and then go on with the rest of my day, allowing smiles and laughter to enter the mix and speed the healing.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Nancy, I think the difference here is between our thinking and our awareness. Dwelling on the pain and the lack or what is lost is thinking. When we allow ourself to acknowledge our whole inner experience and what is showing up in our body and emotions, we accept what is. This is where the healing and letting go happens. We can’t heal and let go with our thinking.
      Val x

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  8. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    The wound opened in me after experiencing and facing death, I could have closed it up or allowed the light in to heal it, these choices are difficult to make and yet, the light always heals us completely.

    Rumi’s wisdom is our light, thankyou Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Yes indeed Karen. When we allow ourself to acknowledge and accept the reality it can find its own way to healing and peace.
      ❤

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    2. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Keep sharing the light for others Karen. It is powerful.

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  9. socialbridge Avatar
    socialbridge

    Rumi is magic, I always think.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I agree Jean. He makes me pause and appreciate every aspect of life!
      Val x

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  10. The Presents of Presence Avatar
    The Presents of Presence

    Beautiful post Val! xo

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  11. Val Boyko Avatar
    Val Boyko

    Thank you Yvonne. I appreciate your presence here ❤
    Val x

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  12. F.G.M. Avatar
    F.G.M.

    I absolutely love this quote, because Rumi is SO right!!! And I love your “healing” words because they just are made of… LOVE!
    “When you bring compassion to your wounds, you allow them to heal”…
    Wonderful words, powerful words Val! Thank you 🙂 Have a nice week-end 🙂 ♥

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I adore your loving energy and spirit Frederic! We share our love of Rumi and so much more in this infinite universe 🙂
      Have a wonderful weekend.
      Val x

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  13. elizabeth2560 Avatar
    elizabeth2560

    This is beautiful.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It’s for you.
      Val x

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      1. elizabeth2560 Avatar
        elizabeth2560

        Ooh… thanks So much x

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          ❤
          Val x

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