I have been thinking about ego this week and how it shows up in our lives.
Someone who sees himself as a winner, was chastised as a loser growing up, and who now despises losers, cannot face being a loser himself.
A strong ego is driven by its need to be right. When it is threatened it will immediately shift blame, create stories and act out, so the ego is validated.
This is the ego’s last stand for survival.
A blow to our ego is one of the most hurtful things to experience. It cuts right into how we see ourselves and want to be seen. I recall times in my life when I expected people to appreciate me, only to be disappointed when they didn’t. This is all about the ego and looking for validation.
For those of us on a spiritual path or working towards self realization, be especially careful where ego many hiding.
If you have difficulty saying “I don’t know” or “I was wrong” or “I am sorry” or “I forgive you” or “Please forgive me”, then your ego may still be very much in charge.
An other question to ask yourself as you talk to others, share on WordPress or whenever you are in relationship to someone:
“Am I doing this unconditionally or is there something I expect or hope for in return?
Sometimes we create stories that we are doing something for the good or others, but behind the altruism is an ego wanting to feel appreciated and validated.
Take some time to notice how your ego may be showing up in your life. Whenever you need to be right, its right there.