Safety or Growth?


Do you want to feel safe or do you want to grow?

This is the perfect time of year, here in the northern hemisphere at least, to ask this question.

Winter is over. Right now, the sap is already rising in nature and within us. There is a freshness in the air and a stronger pulsing through the body. The time has come to rise up and radiate.

One of the big lessons in life is learning how to manage our anxiety about the unknown. Change is inevitable, yet so many of us are conditioned to be careful and cautious, to be guarded and hesitant. Our inner judge reinforces this, with messages of “Better to be safe than sorry” or “Better the devil you know” “The unknown is too risky” “If in doubt, don’t”

Recognizing that our default is fear and clinging to safety, can be enough to help us let go of our conditioning.

Growth never happens in the comfortable.

So don’t expect it to be.




Categories: middle ground | 33 Comments

About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

33 thoughts on “Safety or Growth?

  1. It’s a great question to ponder, Val, but, as you imply, it’s not an either/or. Safety and growth are two polarities we manage depending on our own circumstances, need, and risk tolerance. Always good to start a morning with a thought-provoking question. Thanks.

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    • Thank you for your thoughtful response Donna. Yes – it’s often like a pendulum that move from one polarity to an other. There will be times when we want to stay in the middle too 😉


  2. Oh how true. Fear is the fuel thief of life. I struggle with change, with safety … and as Donna said above, there’s need and risk tolerance …. I’ve changed and grown many times in life, leaped without looking and poof – growth. As of the more recent years, safety, need and risk tolerance have become factors for me … I fight fear, but do I really? If I’m focusing on risk and safety, am I really fighting fear? Yet, while staying still, I have grown immensely. Perhaps I’m still, not jumping as I used to, because I’m in class? *deep thought over coffee*

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  3. Great post Val! Personal growth is still a commitment to evolve. It’s just that like the caterpillar that transforms into a butterfly, it doesn’t always feel good about it.


  4. I choose growth, recognizing that a little fear prevents me from being stupid. 😀 The trick is something that you often mention, Val. The mindful introspection that challenges us to examine our fears and let the useless ones go. ❤


  5. Val, so much has transpired in my life that presently I’m learning just to Flow with the unfolding events. There is so much we cannot control so why not learn just to accept this fact and do our very best regardless? I’ve grown SO much within terrible calamities but yet, is it not true that the most growth and the greatest strengths come from adversity? Beautiful post!! Thank you! 🌈🌈🌈


  6. ummmmm! Yes, Val! You have captured the human constancy…the state of fear. Too afraid to make a move…being content with the status quo. I love your thoughts and I, too, think about this often. Of course in the energy of trying to adjust to this I have been guilty of going really far in the other direction! Balance. But reaching past this fear is so important to “living!”
    And your photo is BEAUTIFUL!!
    Happy Easter weekend to you…many sweet blessings! ❤


  7. I think one of the myths that some of us grow up with – all of us grow up with? – is that somehow, someday, we’re going to figure life out so that we have some measure of (inner? Outer?) ‘security. ‘ What is surprise then to discover that life continues doling out lessons that put us in uncomfortable positions/situations. I rather like it, to tell you the truth, most days. It’s great getting older where a good deal of life is behind me and I can be reflective about what I have learned from such discomfort. And so on it goes, bring it on, which it will do regardless of what I want or don’t want! 😂😘


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