Find Your Middle Ground

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Haiku – close silence

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Find your Middle Ground
Being held in close silence
That is all we need

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… And what we all need.

I read an article about a retired man who volunteers at a local hospital in the ward for premature babies. All he does is hold babies close to him in silence. Nothing more is needed. In the arms of a loving human being, they thrive.

I get it.

Sharing our whole presence and open heart with an other, is nourishing and healing.

No words are required, just our wholehearted presence.

Perhaps hugs are the short version of this. Next time you hug someone think of it as holding in close silence.

Here’s one coming your way…

virtual hug

Val T Boyko
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45 responses to “Haiku – close silence”

  1. Eliza Waters Avatar
    Eliza Waters

    Thanks for the virtual hug, Val. Here’s one back at ya! ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I feel it. Thank you for sharing the Love, Eliza 💕

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      1. Eliza Waters Avatar
        Eliza Waters

        ❤

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  2. Jennifer Kelland Perry Avatar
    Jennifer Kelland Perry

    I love hugs because they don’t require words. Here’s one for you— {{hug}} 😊

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Love it. Thank you Jennifer. Returning it wholeheartedly 💕

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  3. Chatter Master Avatar
    Chatter Master

    Close silence. Such a comforting phrase. Thank you Val ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Colleen for your presence and comment. 💛

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  4. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    ❤️❤️

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Hugs back to you Jill 💕

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  5. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    Reminds me of this:

    A four-year-old child, whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife, saw the man crying. The child went into the neighbor’s’ yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his mother asked the child what he was said to the neighbor, the child just said, ‘Nothing, I just helped him cry.’

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Ahh yes. Good story Nancy 💛

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  6. linda012768 Avatar
    linda012768

    Thanks for the hug val!!! 💗

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Feel the love. Thank you Linda 💕

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  7. Dan Antion Avatar
    Dan Antion

    Thanks!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Hold them close Dan 💕

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  8. Betty Hayes Albright Avatar
    Betty Hayes Albright

    Hugs back to you, Val 🤗💕

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I feel it. Thank you Betty 💕 Sending one right back to you!

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  9. Karen Lang Avatar
    Karen Lang

    A beautiful warm hug! Thanks for the reminder Val 🙏🏻💕💚

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Karen. Sending you an other one for being here in the world 🤗

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  10. Writer Lori Avatar
    Writer Lori

    I think there is much unrecognized sadness in this season of joy, and the comfort of a simple hug can go a long way. Sending you a big virtual hug and warmest wishes, Val!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Lori. Sending a hug right back to you 💕

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  11. derrickjknight Avatar
    derrickjknight

    Yep. This reminds me of a client who, on our last meeting, said she had done nothing but cry for two years and had I not just let her she would never have come back. This was, of course, an exaggeration, but I loved the point

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Lovely, Derrick. Thank you for your presence here … and in the world 🙏

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      1. derrickjknight Avatar
        derrickjknight

        🙂

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  12. Live & Learn Avatar
    Live & Learn

    I caught it (what was coming my way!)

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Enjoy another round just for you 💛🤗💛

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      1. Live & Learn Avatar
        Live & Learn

        Excellent!

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  13. allysoally Avatar
    allysoally

    I love this, Val….sending a virtual hug back. xoxoxoxo

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I feel it. 🤗 Thank you Ally 💛

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        allysoally

        🙂 🙂

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  14. Infinite Living Avatar
    Infinite Living

    Yes that is all we often need! Such deep nourishment.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you PD 💛

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  15. Ali Grimshaw Avatar
    Ali Grimshaw

    Beautiful truth. Being with another, just being there, is such a gift. Thank you for this.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Ali for the gift of your presence 💕

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  16. ladyfi Avatar
    ladyfi

    So wise!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Fiona. When the dogs dry off, give them a big hug 🤗

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  17. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
    Sue Dreamwalker

    Loved this post Val
    “No words are required, just our wholehearted presence.”….. Oh so True.. ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      ❤️

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  18. D. Wallace Peach Avatar
    D. Wallace Peach

    Hugs back at you, Val. I would love to spend my day holding babies. How life and love-affirming. 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So well said. Sending a love affirming hug your way, Diana xoxo

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  19. Bela Johnson Avatar
    Bela Johnson

    So funny you post this. I visited with a young woman today and talked far too much. I am like a spool of thread that has become unwound, only in my case, it’s wound me up! And here I am, awake from the sound of rain after midnight. Not a usual occurrance, for sure. I like my sleep! So I have been pondering, among other things, the value of silence. Which is how I mostly live my life now. The obligation to share verbally is an old habit – years of counseling, radio, raising kids. And I’d rather it didn’t kick in so automatically when meeting others one on one. Groups shut me up just fine – no compulsion to join in, there! Always something to learn, always opportunities for yet more mindfulness. Aloha, Val ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      What a lovely reflection Bela. 💛 It’s so good that we are still finding a new edge of discomfort to learn from and grow into. Perhaps it is our underlying need to help others that shows itself up like this…. or how we want to be seen. May you sleep well tonight 🙏

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      1. Bela Johnson Avatar
        Bela Johnson

        😚

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  20. Tiny Avatar
    Tiny

    This is a beautiful thought …and post, Val! Made me think of a precious memory of a dear friend of ours who hugged me many years ago…just holding me in silence for a long time. That was the last time I saw him and three weeks later his spirit moved on.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Hugs can last forever. Thank you for sharing Helen 🤗

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