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Having loved enough and lost enough,
I’m no longer searching
just opening,

no longer trying to make sense of pain
but trying to be a soft and sturdy home
in which real things can land.

These are the irritations that rub into a pearl.*

~ Mark Nepo


Beyond searching is opening and acceptance of life and it’s irritations. There is hidden treasure there.



*Nepo, Mark. The Way Under the Way: The Place of True Meeting (Kindle Locations 1506-1509). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.

About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

27 comments on “No Longer Searching

  1. “Having loved enough and lost enough,
    I’m no longer searching
    just opening”
    It is only after having loved truly and lost it all, comes the courage to let it all go and experience love in it’s truest form – unconditional

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  2. oh, i love this

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  3. It reminded me of this:

    What strikes the oyster shell does not damage the pearl.
    ~ Rumi

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  4. Beautiful, Val. ❤

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  5. What a lovely message!! Thanks for always sharing what touches you, Val!

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  6. Posted some of your words from here.

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  7. Beautuful wisdom Val 🌈🙏🏻

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  8. Very true! Your blog is always full of such wisdom….

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  9. Very motivating.Great work!


  10. Mark Nepo has a permanent place in my life, Val! His words are always a treasure. I’m so glad you shared his wisdom today.

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  11. Isn’t it wonderful when we finally land in that opening!.. Wishing you well Val… ❤

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  12. Love the Nepo passage Val. Thanks.

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  13. What a poem! What a sentiment, and one that we should all inhale. THANK YOU for sharing. xo

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  14. You always seem to say the things I need to hear Val. 🙂

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  15. Skiibainesii

    Well said, thank you.

    May we all learn and flow from the true love we felt, experienced and which awakened us to our ultimate potential.


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