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The Answer to Happiness

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“Why are you unhappy? Because 99.9 percent of everything you think, and of everything you do, is for yourself—and there isn’t one.”

~ Wei Wu Wei

I laughed out loud when I came across this quote.
It’s a shocking truth.
When we realize that we are not the CEO of our little universe and that the sun doesn’t revolve around us, we can get over ourselves.
When we see that we are not alone and separate, and that we are a part of something so much bigger, life lightens up … a lot!
So stop thinking and doing, reading self help books, seeking out the advice of others, wondering what others think of you, and coming from a mindset of “not enough.”
Instead, keep tuning inwards and fall in love with the essence of who you are.
Let unhappiness dissolve in this space.
Namaste
Val T Boyko
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39 responses to “The Answer to Happiness”

  1. vanbytheriver Avatar
    vanbytheriver

    That person you describe above…for sure, me in my 20’s. Wouldn’t go back if you paid me !! Age comes with some huge benefits. Thanks, Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It is a lesson that comes with experience and over time. Others call this wisdom. Thank you for being here my wise friend 💛

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  2. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    He was an interesting man, for sure — Anglo-Irish, if your readers are unsure — from a very wealthy family; second marriage was to a Georgian princess, and before her a Russian noblewoman (Rimsky-Korsakov). His books can be a bit of a headache, but brilliant at the same time. Great post, Val. H ❤

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    1. socialbridge Avatar
      socialbridge

      Fascinated about the Anglo-Irish bit. It can be a great combo when let run wild.

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      1. Val Boyko Avatar
        Val Boyko

        I can imagine Jean … especially when you add intelligence and imagination into the mix. Thank you 💛

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    2. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Hariod, for adding this context for others.
      He isn’t an easy read, but he does have some great “sound bites” to refect on 💛

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  3. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
    Sue Dreamwalker

    Excellent.. Learning to fall in love with Self.. 🙂 is the best thing I ever did. 🙂 🙂 And that is not selfish… But honouring ourselves.. Well, you know exactly what I mean.. 🙂 Big Smiles.. 😂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Big smiles to you hardworking heart warming Sue! 💕

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar
        Sue Dreamwalker

        🙂 Hugs back Val 💞

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  4. jzrart Avatar
    jzrart

    Thanks Val for a reminder about something I recently I let slip!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Joan for being human … and being here 💕

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  5. IreneDesign2011 Avatar
    IreneDesign2011

    Great post Val, we are not alone, but together in this here, even if many feels very lonely.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Irene for your presence and connection. 💕

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      1. IreneDesign2011 Avatar
        IreneDesign2011

        I love to visit your blog Val, I have just been down with a cold for about a week, so have been much behind in my visits around the blog world in same time.

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  6. Jet Eliot Avatar
    Jet Eliot

    Now that’s taking it to a new level, Val — great reminder, and as always, my thanks and best wishes.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      He does take it to a new level doesn’t he, Jet? Glad you enjoyed it. 💛

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  7. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    So, so true, Val. But, then again, so, so difficult to achieve. While I am a great proponent of trying to live in the sunshine, metaphorically speaking, I do worry that many may see this as a hurdle too high to jump over and I do fear for those that fear such failure.

    It’s always OK to fail so long as one understands the importance of always trying to ‘win’; always to take it each moment at a time. Sheryl Sandberg comes to mind…

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for this perspective Paul. I am more of an advocate of living in the light, shadow and darkness that is a part of all of our human lives. I believe that the light is something that is within us all. Fear and ego prevents us from tuning into it. There is no winning or losing… just being. 💕

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  8. D. Wallace Peach Avatar
    D. Wallace Peach

    Great quote, Val. I love the idea of “getting over ourselves.” What a relief that is!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It surely is Diana! It’s a bit of a theme this week, as I am in touch with some folks who are struggling with this. Thank you for being here 💛

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  9. cmahaffee Avatar
    cmahaffee

    That is funny, thanks for sharing

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So glad you enjoyed it 💛

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  10. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    Who we think we are often is a figment of our imagination! 😀

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Especially if one believes we make up everything anyway ❣
      Thanks Nancy.

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  11. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature Avatar
    Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

    Yes, getting over ourselves. So simple yet so huge! ❤ Great quote and post!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      The big things in life usually come down to simple essence. Thank you Mary for your kind words 💕

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  12. TheFeatheredSleep Avatar
    TheFeatheredSleep

    Truth

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  13. belasbrightideas Avatar
    belasbrightideas

    Yes, simple. It’s too simple for most people, but yes. xo

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      And therein lies a clue to what matters. Thank you Bela 💛

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  14. my one life. today Avatar
    my one life. today

    I think I have just fallen prey to another self-help book. 🙂 But if this one helps me tune inwards and fall in love with the essence of who I am, then it shouldn’t be too bad. Thank you for the reminder that we tend to make a whole lot of fuss about nothing.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It does become a lot of fuss as we explore … it’s only afterwards we see it was simple after all ❤️ Awareness opens up new ways of seeing things. Thank you!

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  15. Tiny Avatar
    Tiny

    Smiling now. So true, Val ❤

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  16. Shian Avatar
    Shian

    We have to always keep reminding ourselves that there is a bigger plan. Great post.

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  17. Jignesh Vekariya Avatar
    Jignesh Vekariya

    namaste!!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Jai Jignesh ❣️

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  18. wetohkoh Avatar
    wetohkoh

    Short. True. Great.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you 💛

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  19. heritageloverblog Avatar
    heritageloverblog

    Mam your words are serene….💝 Love the way write

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you so much. Peace be with you 💛

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