Inspiration – Dissatisfaction

“This is the path we take in cultivating joy: learning not to armor our basic goodness, learning to appreciate what we have.
Most of the time we don’t do this.
Rather than appreciate where we are, we continually struggle to nurture our dissatisfaction.
It’s like trying to get flowers to grow by pouring cement on the garden.”

~ Pema Chodron taken from “The Places That Scare You”

Do you find yourself thinking about the things that aren’t going the way you want and complaining about your circumstances, other people, yourself?

Next time you catch yourself resisting or resenting, imagine that you are pouring cement on your garden.

It’s an incredibly powerful practice to start clearing out the thoughts that poison our own happiness.

We can change this by re-focusing on planting seeds that come from the heart. The seeds of gratitude, appreciation and loving kindness.


Open your heart
And put away the cement mixer.
Feel the load lighten.
Let this nurturing space
Bring joy and loving kindness
To nourish every part of you.

Common Humanity

common humanity

“Do you suffer sometimes, want to be happy, but don’t always know how to make that happen?

Congratulations! You’ve just discovered you have something in common with every other person across the world and across history.” *

And with this realization we know we are not alone. We are all human beings, experiencing what we experience.

It’s when we believe that we shouldn’t be feeling like this, or that there is something wrong with us, that we create more suffering for ourselves.

When we are feeling down or down right miserable we tend to think that we are the only one feeling this way. We become very self absorbed. We project our misery on to the world around us and think that everyone else seems to be so happy, and have their act together. We ask ourselves “Why are we the only one feeling alone and miserable”.

Don’t believe this inner critic. Your thoughts are not the truth.

It’s human nature to go through highs and lows in our lives.

Knowing that you are not alone, and that everything changes, can help you move through this… and find compassion for yourself and others along the way.

Give yourself a hug or go hug someone right now.

Feel the love.

💛🙏💛

 

*Abblett, Mitch. The Self-Compassion Deck: 50 Mindfulness-Based Practices (Kindle Locations 1151-1175). PESI Publishing. Kindle Edition.

Dissatisfaction

“This is the path we take in cultivating joy: learning not to armor our basic goodness, learning to appreciate what we have.
Most of the time we don’t do this.
Rather than appreciate where we are, we continually struggle to nurture our dissatisfaction.
It’s like trying to get flowers to grow by pouring cement on the garden.”

~ Pema Chodron taken from “The Places That Scare You”

Do you find yourself thinking about the things that aren’t going the way you want and complaining about your circumstances, other people, yourself?

Next time you catch yourself resisting or resenting, imagine that you are pouring cement on your garden.

It’s an incredibly powerful practice to start clearing out the thoughts that poison our own happiness.

We can change this by re-focusing on planting seeds that come from the heart. The seeds of gratitude, appreciation and loving kindness.


Open your heart
And put away the cement mixer.
Feel the load lighten.
Let this nurturing space
Bring joy and loving kindness
To nourish every part of you.

The Answer to Happiness

thinking man

“Why are you unhappy? Because 99.9 percent of everything you think, and of everything you do, is for yourself—and there isn’t one.”

~ Wei Wu Wei

I laughed out loud when I came across this quote.
It’s a shocking truth.
When we realize that we are not the CEO of our little universe and that the sun doesn’t revolve around us, we can get over ourselves.
When we see that we are not alone and separate, and that we are a part of something so much bigger, life lightens up … a lot!
So stop thinking and doing, reading self help books, seeking out the advice of others, wondering what others think of you, and coming from a mindset of “not enough.”
Instead, keep tuning inwards and fall in love with the essence of who you are.
Let unhappiness dissolve in this space.
Namaste

* Inspiration – getting clear about unhappiness

unhappiness revealed

“Inquiring deeply into

The source of unhappiness,

One becomes clear about unhappiness.

When one is clear about unhappiness,

One becomes clear of unhappiness.”

~ Wu Hsin

In yoga philosophy, unhappiness is rooted in attachment to pleasure and wanting things to be a certain way … our way. It is also connected to aversion, when we dislike and avoid things that are not a certain way … our way.

It seems to fit with Wu Hsin’s words of wisdom, as well as the tenets of Buddhism.
In daily life we fall into the habit of being pulled between trying to get what we want and trying to avoid what we don’t want.

When we are caught up in attachment or aversion, it prevents us from seeing how things really are.

Clarity comes when we become aware that unhappiness comes when our mind resists what is, and wishes things were different. As we observe this more and more within ourselves, we come to realize that accepting how things are, and letting go of our stories is the key to being happy.

How does this resonate with you my friends?