“For creatures who want to be loved, appreciated, even adored, we certainly go about fulfilling our desire in a curiously unfulfilling way. Instead of manufacturing it ourselves in the little love machine inside our chests, we complain about not getting enough of it, search frantically for someone to give it to us, and try to make ourselves more lovable by improving our looks or earning more money.
But the truth is, the Beatles got it right. The love you take is equal to the love you make.
In other words, the most effective way to get love is to generate it yourself.
By cultivating caring loving feelings you can actually provide yourself with the nourishment you seek.”
~ Stephen Bodian
This is such a potent message for any one of us when we feel alone, and are down. Nourish yourself first with caring feelings, if you truly want to bring more love into your life.
It isn’t easy to shift perspectives like this, but it is possible when we bring awareness to it.
When we complain about how unfair life is, resent the happiness of others, or lament the lack of love in our life, we are cutting ourselves off from the nourishment we need and the very thing we long for.
Instead of focusing on not having enough, pay attention to what you do have. Commit to being kind every day. Be caring towards others. Take care of yourself as you would your dearest friend.
And give to others from your heart.